Owning a house with an EX. He wants locks changed.
Im not sure how I feel about this, so I wanted to see what other people thought.
I currently own a house with an ex boyfriend. I do not live there anymore, but it is still in both of our names due to financial reasons, and it could be like that for up to 6 months. The ex is going to be having his new girlfriend live there. He wants to change the locks on the house. All of my stuff will be moved out.
What do you think? Is him changing the locks ok? I can understand them wanting their privacy and not having to worry about me or my parents just showing up. None of my stuff would be in there, so I wouldnt have to worry about anything happening to it.
But, a part of me doesnt like it. Its still my house in a way, and Id like to know I can check on it (like once a month or something) to make sure it hasnt been destroyed and not have to rely on him letting me in.
(If you were renting a house, could you change the locks so the landlord couldn't get in?)
Perhaps a written agreement that you will call first to set up a time, etc., would help. You shouldn't just show up and wander around whenever you want, but you do need to be able to verify that your property is being maintained.
Once he changes the locks, then what's to keep him from moving out and renting it out? Or trashing the place and you won't even know? Tell him when your name is off the mortgage and everything else, then he can change the locks. I agree with wsmoak, and confiscate keys from anyone else that has keys except for your set.