... all the lying cheating scum? I understand that every relationship and person is unique. Some aren't meant for monogamy (so don't get into monogamous relationships!) and that an "oops" can happen.
But really, how does anybody involved in this, whether the cheater or the other woman/other man evely remotely respect themselves or justify what they're doing? To carry on, lying constantly to your spouse and yourself... Why not just *actually* leave?
All these off topic days just make me sick because inevitably there are multiple "I'm cheating" type posts. It's a good thing there are some interesting threads and life stories (and good that come of them) besides these scummy stories.
Life is not always so black and white as you are making it out to be.
I think sometimes you have to make it black and white to get to a better place. I don't have enough fingers and toes to count up all the friends from years past that would cry and wring their hands over a bad relationship. You aren't going to change him/her, and if your life is miserable stop talking about it and begin making a plan. Really. It isn't simple from on emotional level, but if you literally "pull yourself up by your boot straps", you can get out of a bad relationship.
I won't even start on the posters that admit to being cheaters. What comes around goes around.