The Chronicle of the Horse
MagazineNewsHorse SportsHorse CareCOTH StoreVoicesThe Chronicle UntackedDirectoriesMarketplaceDates & Results
 

View Poll Results: How did you fall in love?

Voters
43. You may not vote on this poll
  • Pretty much instantly. I knew right away.

    22 51.16%
  • Slowly. Over a period of months or years.

    21 48.84%
Results 1 to 10 of 10
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Mar. 9, 2006
    Location
    Ontario
    Posts
    561

    Default Falling in love. Instant, or slow?

    I'm notoriously known to my friends as being absurdly picky when it comes to men. If I start seeing someone new and the fireworks aren't there by Date #5, I will promptly end the relationship. They say I'm far too quick to jump the gun, but my heart says that if it's not there now, then it probably won't be there later. Am I wrong?

    How was it for you when you met your SO? Was it an instant connection, or was it more of a slow burning build up?



  2. #2
    Join Date
    Oct. 12, 2005
    Location
    dur-Ham, NC
    Posts
    492

    Default

    The chemistry (or lack therof) can be felt immediately.

    Falling in love takes time.

    With each of my SOs, I felt the chemistry from the first time we met. Everytime that I have fallen in love, I knew from the first time that I met them that it was a possibility. I knew I COULD fall in love with my last boyfriend from the very first time we sat down and talked on our first date - and I did, eventually.
    Have YOU ever looked into the eyes of a rich white child who has just lost a jumping competition?




  3. #3
    Join Date
    Nov. 30, 2000
    Location
    Kentucky
    Posts
    7,459

    Default

    When I met my husband, I didn't fall instantly in love. No splashy fireworks went off. I just had the wonderful realization that he was going to be my best friend. 38 years later, he still is.


    3 members found this post helpful.

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Jul. 22, 2008
    Location
    Rochester, NY
    Posts
    2,035

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Irishrose261 View Post
    The chemistry (or lack therof) can be felt immediately.

    Falling in love takes time.

    With each of my SOs, I felt the chemistry from the first time we met. Everytime that I have fallen in love, I knew from the first time that I met them that it was a possibility. <snip>
    I'm also known to be very picky and have zero ability to "develop" an interest in someone whom I don't feel a real fireworky connection with from the first moment. I don't know if I've loved all my significant SO's from that first instant, but as Irishrose says, I knew I could love them.
    bar.ka think u al.l. susp.ect
    free bar.ka and tidy rabbit



  5. #5
    Join Date
    Feb. 11, 2008
    Location
    Nor Cal in the sticks!
    Posts
    204

    Default

    I had major crush on my husband back when I was 18 and he was 30 and in a realtionship, so I didn't pursue it. Then later when I was 26 and he was my farrier (and single) the fireworks went off for both of us. We have been together ever since, did things backwards, had a baby then got married 7 years later.
    Gilchrist said. "With Lost In The Fog, it's different. We want to take real good care of this horse. He's the only bullet in our holster."



  6. #6
    Join Date
    Aug. 11, 2000
    Location
    Washington, DC
    Posts
    404

    Default

    Funny story: for me, it was splashy fireworks on the second date. I never believed it until it was me, but yes it does happen. We're coming up on 6 years together now.

    Why is this funny? Because about 3 years before we started dating, we were apparently at a party together - he gently hit on me, and I blew him off. (I don't remember this)

    Fast forward three years later - he goes for try 2. I don't remember ever having met him before, and agree to go on a date. And, by date 2...fireworks. Funny, huh?

    And no, he was pretty much the same person both times. I think I was just in a different place.


    2 members found this post helpful.

  7. #7
    Join Date
    Aug. 3, 2009
    Location
    Central Indiana
    Posts
    257

    Default

    I knew on date #1 that DH was a Really Special Guy. It only took 3 1/2 weeks to turn into "OMG I'm in love with this guy!" and four weeks later he proposed. That was 13 years ago.
    Life-long horse lover, dreaming of the day when I have one of my very own.



  8. #8
    Join Date
    Aug. 9, 2007
    Posts
    9,018

    Default

    Definitely at first sight. Men and horses, both. It's a chemical reaction.


    1 members found this post helpful.

  9. #9
    Join Date
    Jun. 15, 2010
    Posts
    2,444

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Irishrose261 View Post
    The chemistry (or lack therof) can be felt immediately.

    Falling in love takes time.

    With each of my SOs, I felt the chemistry from the first time we met. Everytime that I have fallen in love, I knew from the first time that I met them that it was a possibility. I knew I COULD fall in love with my last boyfriend from the very first time we sat down and talked on our first date - and I did, eventually.
    great explanation. On our first date I saw the potential, by the end of the first month I could see myself hypothetically spending forever with him, and around 6 months in I was a goner.



  10. #10
    Join Date
    Nov. 1, 2005
    Location
    Bonsall, CA- with my horses finally home again!
    Posts
    2,165

    Default Instant- if you know, you know.

    My husband and I talked about getting married within a week of meeting each other. We are celebrating our 10 yr anniversary this coming April .
    ~Living the life I imagined~



Similar Threads

  1. Falling in love with Akinda
    By axl in forum Hunter/Jumper
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: Oct. 11, 2012, 04:23 PM
  2. falling in love--am I abnormal?
    By OTDalter in forum Off Topic
    Replies: 16
    Last Post: Nov. 1, 2011, 06:10 PM
  3. Falling in Love with Turkeys!
    By Daydream Believer in forum Around The Farm
    Replies: 34
    Last Post: May. 29, 2011, 09:13 AM
  4. Replies: 14
    Last Post: Jul. 22, 2010, 03:22 PM
  5. INSTANT gratification...Scratches
    By okggo in forum Horse Care
    Replies: 44
    Last Post: Aug. 13, 2008, 07:05 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
randomness