I am in disguise! And I am also a Secret Santa! First let me point out that this has nothing to do with my SS Giftee!
I see some of our local kids struggling with their riding (ie not placing well in shows, or general confidence issues, blaming the horse for everything, etc.) and I want to tactfully recommend they need to work with a reputable instructor, of which we have many local instructors that are good choices. Likewise, I see some adults struggling, having the same issues with horse after horse, and always blaming the horse. Have you found a tactful way to recommend lessons to an adult for their betterment, or their child's?
"Sometimes it can be really fun to go take some lessons with a group of other people" and you can mention that it's a good way to expose Dobbin to a new experience at the lesson place or that it's a good chance to get to ride some other horses to figure out what issues are Dobbin's and what are yours.
And I would say something along the lines of how much I enjoy being in a lesson program when I can, because it gives me new things to think about.
My daughter is in a lesson program because it lets her ride with a bunch of other horse-crazy kids and on a dozen been there-done-that horses that have taught hundreds of other kids to ride. They play horse games and the kids benefit from each other's progress. She is having more fun than ever before.
If you are allergic to a thing, it is best not to put that thing in your mouth, particularly if the thing is cats. - Lemony Snicket