I have big chestnut "puppy dog" pet whom I absolutely love to pieces. He also has his own pet the fancy white pony. He is a very happy and very athletic pet but only pasture sound, athletic pasture sound. At times I have considered another ridding horse but I have always been worried I could not do it and would make my boy jealous, also I love my big boy so much he is above and beyond the greatest horse I have ever had hard to imagine any other horse could compare. Not sure I am making any sense but if you have any wisdom to share with me it would be greatly appreciated!
Sometimes I think we project too many emotions onto our horses. You still see him and take care of him, and you won't love him any less if you get another horse that you can ride. As long as horses get love and time and attention (and treats), most of them could really do without the work aspect. In fact, you may be a happier person which will make your time with your other horse even better. If you can afford it, absolutely get yourself another horse.
I have a pasture fluff and a riding horse. The old lady is perfectly fine not being the center of my life, but she also has 4 herd mates to keep her entertained. My 3 year old gelding, on the other hand follows me down the pasture fence to greet me everyday, and is jealous when I spend time with my pasture puff. Horses will get used to changes, sometimes it had to be gradual though.
If you're not sold on the idea, what about leasing a horse, and see how that goes?
Long as you still give Puffy plenty of grooming, treats, and kisses he'll be fine. For giving him such a good, loving home, if there's room for one more there's not a reason in the world not to have another one you can also ride. So many out there right now who just want a person, a pasture, and a mild job to do . . . find one of those and enjoy!
I have two horses one is my riding horse the other is my retired riding horse. She 25 hasnt been riden in 4 years. Shes no longer sound so shes my beautiful lawn ornament.
Shes just fine when we go out riding and leave her behind she knows i give her extra hay to eat before we leave. As long as you still groom and take good care of him he will be fine. My mare loves not having to be riden and she also knows i still love her just as much as ever.
Go for it and get yourself a horse you can ride as long as they get along together they will both be fine.
Occasionally one of my mares will have fits when I ride the other, but it's short lived and I'm reasonably certain it's not me that they're pining for
Over the years I've often had some combination of riding and retired horses, and all of them have been able to cope with their lot in life just fine. After Stan retired, he'd come looking for me when I was riding Sadie past his pasture, and I'd always make sure to save a treat for him if he came up to the fence. Made both of us happy, and I don't think he felt neglected at all as long as he got his snack once in a while
"In order to really enjoy a dog, one doesn’t merely train him to be semi-human. The point of it is to open oneself to the possibility of becoming part dog."
Go for it! He's got his buddy. His "jealousy" is not going to be about you riding another horse. It's going to be about that horse leaving the pasture, if that even bothers him (and you can work on training to make that a non-issue)
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I don't think it's uncommon to have a retiree and a riding horse. I got a baby when my old guy was getting up there in age, figuring she'd be ready to ride about the time he was ready to retire (ends up I underestimated his longevity!) She was weaned with him and they've spent more time together than apart since then, and as others have said I'm pretty sure all he's worried about when I ride her is that his friend is gone.
To be honest, it never occurred to me NOT to have a riding horse once the boy was retired; it was my plan for years beforehand. Next time I'll wait a bit longer, though, to make for fewer years of paying for two!
I have a retired horse due to navicular disease. In the AM I turn him and my OTTB (riding horse) out together in the round pen and throw them some hay and water. They both eat while I'm tacking the riding horse up. Then I remove and ride my TB while the retired guy stuffs his face. I'm pretty sure I can hear giggling coming from the round pen as the retired guy watches the TB sweat, LOL! As long as you still spend time with the other horse I HIGHLY doubt he will miss being ridden.
Since the horse does not, and cannot, have issues with more complex emotions (like love, jealosy, etc.) the issue(s) is(are) with the human. And isn't this the truth 90%+++ of the time?
If you want, and can afford, another riding horse then get one. Don't "over think" the process. If you've set stumbling blocks in your own mind that you don't wish to address then don't get one. Your horse won't mind either way.
Don't miss out on riding just because you fear hurting you old guy's feelings!! He'll be just fine as long as you take good care of him. (Obviously you do and will!) They adapt. Much like small children who have younger siblings. And he'll still have his little pet!!
I have a retired guy and a horse I ride. I do think the older guy is jealous. But it's very in the moment, when he sees me with her. He's quite happy not working and he knows I'm still his person.
I have a pasture puff and a riding horse which works out great for all three of us. The retiree hangs out keeping the grass mowed and the youngster gets to work, which is something he enjoys. I have had the retiree for 11 years and he really could not care less that I ride someone else. As long as he has grass and his two partners in crime out with him, he is perfectly happy. In fact, on the rare occasions when I do ride him, he makes it very clear that I am interrupting his very busy schedule of eating.