I will spare the details, but basically I am my boyfriends live in babysitter and I have hit the end of my rope. I truly think I hate him. I cannot find a single redeeming quality if I sit here and think about it. I want to leave him.
The down side is I will have to move back with my parents until I can get back on my feet. I also have very little in the way of a support system. I tend to be shy and enjoy being alone. I make acquaintances easily but don't put the work in to continue them to friendship status. So besides one good friend that I don't see often, I don't have much in the way of support.
I feel as though this relationship has left me stranded and I'm too scared to get out. Fighting is multiple times daily, and if I even mention leaving he tells me he is calling the cops to supervise my exit and then he starts throwing all of my stuff out the door. In the effort to save my stuff and my sanity I try to repair the relationship so that I won't have to deal with the situation at the moment.
He can't call the cops to supervise him throwing your things out. YOU can call the cops to supervise YOU removing YOUR things without interference from him.
GET OUT. Like others have said, you can do it quietly, and do it when he's gone if at all possible. If it's not, call a the Sheriff's office and see if you can get a deputy out to help you. What he is doing is abusive.
Ugh, there have been so many red flags. I have no idea why I have let it go on this long, and its only been a year. We dated in high school, then spent eight years apart, and got back together almost exactly a year ago. I feel so stupid, when all others around me have been suggesting it's not a healthy relationship. I know its not! I hate every minute of it. He relies on me for everything, and then my health and well being is of no importance to him. I truly despise the position I'm in right now.
I fall asleep every night saying tomorrow will be the day I don't come back. Well, tomorrow I will. I will not do this anymore, I deserve happiness.
Do you know anyone who can help you box up your stuff while your BF is not around? If he is this unstable, then I would recommend not boxing up your stuff until you can do do with at least one or two other people if at all possible. How far away are your parents? Would they be available to help you on short notice?
If you think it might take more than a few days to gather some help, then I'd get out now assuming you can fit everything in your car. If you don't have a car, you could always call a cab and pay them to wait for you while you load up all the boxes and take you somewhere safe.
Yeah, I have a car. My parents are ten minutes away and my truck is at their house. I could make a clean and quick exit. His last girlfriend made the same exit, shocking!
BTW, he is sleeping on the couch tonight because I didn't bring his phone charger in the room for him. Apparently I was supposed to psychically know he needed it. He got mad because I reminded him that he is capable of getting his own items. Not wanting to be around me, he is sleeping on the couch.
Last edited by Bedazzle; Oct. 30, 2012 at 09:25 PM.
Hey. Don't bother wasting any time feeling "stupid". You're NOT stupid. You just got sucked in to a bad situation and you see it and you're gonna get out. K?
No sense worrying about the 20/20 hindsight stuff. It is what it is today.
You're not stupid. You're not weak. You are a bright young lady who is going to pick herself up, dust herself off, and move forward WITHOUT this douche canoe parasite guy. K?
You are NOT stupid so please don't say it again. You might FEEL stupid, but honey? Most of us have done that at least once. We're just older now. Don't worry, we all make mistakes. That's okay. Try not to make the same mistake twice and you're miles ahead.
A good horseman doesn't have to tell anyone...the horse already knows.
Buddy Roo said it: Get  out. Call your parents, pack your stuff, and go. He's useless and sounds potentially dangerous. There are far, far worse things than being single and the reason men behave like that is they for some reason still can keep a girlfriend while doing it. Don't be that girlfriend. He doesn't deserve someone taking care of him, and you deserve to not be stuck as a grown adult's babysitter.
Last edited by Moderator 1; Oct. 31, 2012 at 12:43 PM.