I am no longer training (thank heaven's!) but my DD is a young teen in 4-H. Her pony got a stone bruise today at the fair and ended up lame at the 4-H show. I asked her to get off the horse and put him away for the day. She was very up-set, as they work all year for this show and she did not get to finish. Was I wrong for pulling her off the horse? As a trainer, I would have NEVER let a client show a lame horse, but as a parent, it broke my heart. He was Reserve Champion out of 8 in Pleasure and was not off during those classes. As the day went on, he began a slight head-bob and I made her get off before it got worse. She did not feel it, but I explained that as she becomes a better rider, she will notice slight lamenesses. Ugh, I hate being on this end of things. Life is much easier being the trainer!! Things are much more cut and dried!!
Of course you did the right thing --- it's a hard lesson for your daughter, but she knows she can't ride a lame horse. The judges would have excused her anyway. Disappointing for her? Yes, but it's one of those things she has to learn --- the horse always comes first.
It's about the Lesson--not the Ribbon. Ya done good.
This. My first pony had navicular, so I got VERY good at telling if he was uncomfortable while I was riding. I can remember one time in particular (I was about 11), I had to pull up and leave in the middle of a class because he felt off.
It is really sucky, but it's a good lesson to learn. Competing a lame or ouchy horse is not good horsemanship. I bet your daughter was SO disappointed, but the lesson that will stick with her is worth it. Plus, it's ONE year out of many. There are other shows
You done good as a mom. These are the important lessons on how to become a good horseman. It would be awful to NOT teach your daughter that she cant show on an ouchy pony.
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At least you noticed. There are many parents, with unscrupulous trainers who send kiddo around the ring on a lame-o horse, and they are clueless to the wonky pony. Hate to think that coaching fees are to blame, but, I can't think of any other reason a trainer would look the other way. I know there are some oldies that need to dust the cob-webs off in the ring, but, these types can get around the schooling ring with bute, etc. so there's no excuse for lame-o in the ring.
A couple weeks ago I was standing behind a parent that was coaching her daughter how to hide the fact that her pony was lame in a pony pleasure class. He was off in the corners and okay on the long side. The child ended up winning and we both know that the lesson the child learned was not a good one. I can't help but worry about that poor pony, but there is also the issue of everyone talking about the trainer, parent and kid with the lame pony.
I am going to say it again...You did the right thing!
You absolutely did the right thing. I don't understand how it is even a question! And kids have to learn that you don't always get a ribbon/trophy/award for doing the right thing. But, you do it anyway. That is just the way life is. Yes, it does sometime suck but doing the right thing is its own reward.
You did RIGHT...not everyone is such a responsible horse owner these days. Lots of praise for the child that is learning a difficult lesson that it is all about learning to be a "horseman" - not just a "rider". I went to a local 4H horse show a couple of years ago - as a visitor - didn't even know anyone there - but after I watched a 3-legged, head bobbing lame horse win three classes, I left in discust and have never gone to another local show!!! I was especially disturbed that the 4H leaders would allow such treatment of a horse!! Hope your daughter wins buckets of ribbons the next time!!