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    Default I just don't enjoy canoeing anymore

    Sigh. I used to be a big fan of canoeing, in fact, my husband and I canoed all the time together before we were married and for the first couple of years of marriage. But now that we have been married almost 10 years, most of the time I have no desire to canoe. I don't want to canoe with him, all by myself or with anyone at all. When I see someone on TV or in a movie canoeing, it doesn't inspire any desire to go canoeing in me at all. I have tried making canoeing more interesting for example canoeing with pool toys or reading about most excellent canoeing trips, but my husband is more of a traditionalist and doesn't like canoeing with accoutrements. Also my husband would go canoeing everyday if he could, but I am okay with once a month or so. I do compromise and try to go once a week but I have to make myself do it.
    So I guess my question is has anyone else gotten over a big canoeing slump? How did you do it? I know that I could go to a canoeing expert to check my levels of canoeing desire, but my insurance and my bank account won't cover it.


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    I do not think your problem is funny. But I think your post is.

    There's so much more to life than canoeing, but with that said, I hope that you can soon rediscover your enthusiasm for it.



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    Not a fan of the sport, unless I am watching on TV. There are so many other things to do, why don't you try something else? If you can afford it, maybe get hubby a kayak he can go kayaking solo in, or get him into canoe/kayak races. Or, just talk hubby into giving it a rest. Sounds like burnout to me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Chief2 View Post
    Not a fan of the sport, unless I am watching on TV. There are so many other things to do, why don't you try something else? If you can afford it, maybe get hubby a kayak he can go kayaking solo in, or get him into canoe/kayak races. Or, just talk hubby into giving it a rest. Sounds like burnout to me.
    Pssssst . . . I think "canoeing" is code for something else here.


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    I agree with taking a break.

    Start up again if the desire hits you or you find yourself missing it. If not, encourage DH to find a buddy to go with and you can take up a new hobby.

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    How long has it been since you've found yourself not enjoying canoeing? Was this a more recent discovery or have you known it for a while? Is DH not an attractive or exciting canoe buddy anymore?

    Perhaps you should try canoeing in new and different locations? Take a trip where you can canoe in an exciting location? Or perhaps just focus on your DH and your relationship with him and try to remember what it is about him that made you guys take up canoeing in the first place. Then perhaps there will be a renewed interest.

    I agree with others that it's ok to take a break. If you do a lot of canoeing when you don't feel like it, it can really lead you to be bitter or more frustrated towards the sport.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Superminion View Post
    I agree with taking a break.

    Start up again if the desire hits you or you find yourself missing it. If not, encourage DH to find a buddy to go with and you can take up a new hobby.

    Uhhh, while I appreciate your flexibility, allowing hubby to go find a new canoeing buddy is not for everyone.


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    Quote Originally Posted by GoForAGallop View Post
    Uhhh, while I appreciate your flexibility, allowing hubby to go find a new canoeing buddy is not for everyone.


    Perhaps present hubby with wife approved list of canoeing buddies?

    If we're talking about "canoeing", however, I would suggest perhaps changing the pace and tone of the "canoe trips". Finding a new buddy to partake in the sport could prove troublesome. OP may then lose her taste in "canoeing" altogether.
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    On a more serious note:

    1.) OP, if the hubby wants to canoe more, and you want to bring some extra gadgets along, then he just needs to get on board with the program. Seriously. It's 2012. It's okay to add some extra spice to the mix, if that's what you need to enjoy canoeing more. He shouldn't feel threatened. Maybe his "traditionalist" canoeing style is why you aren't having fun anymore.

    2.) I know a canoeing specialist isn't in the budget, but do talk to your regular doctor! Are you on any sort of meds? It's crazy what can shut down a woman's canoeing desire. Maybe it's time to mix up the birth control pills, if you're on them....your hormone levels can change, and what may have worked for you at one point may no longer work. Or, if you're not on BC, talk to your doctor about starting it...the pills can stablize/increase your levels so canoeing is more appealing. There is plenty that your regular doctor can talk to you about!!

    3.) How's the rest of your relationship, minus the canoeing? Might be worth considering some therapy, if it's been that long. A couple of months is a dry spell...anything after that can become an issue, particularly when your partner wants to be canoeing more often. His desire to canoe DOES need to be taken into account.


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    Quote Originally Posted by GoForAGallop View Post
    On a more serious note:

    1.) OP, if the hubby wants to canoe more, and you want to bring some extra gadgets along, then he just needs to get on board with the program. Seriously. It's 2012. It's okay to add some extra spice to the mix, if that's what you need to enjoy canoeing more. He shouldn't feel threatened. Maybe his "traditionalist" canoeing style is why you aren't having fun anymore.

    2.) I know a canoeing specialist isn't in the budget, but do talk to your regular doctor! Are you on any sort of meds? It's crazy what can shut down a woman's canoeing desire. Maybe it's time to mix up the birth control pills, if you're on them....your hormone levels can change, and what may have worked for you at one point may no longer work. Or, if you're not on BC, talk to your doctor about starting it...the pills can stablize/increase your levels so canoeing is more appealing. There is plenty that your regular doctor can talk to you about!!

    3.) How's the rest of your relationship, minus the canoeing? Might be worth considering some therapy, if it's been that long. A couple of months is a dry spell...anything after that can become an issue, particularly when your partner wants to be canoeing more often. His desire to canoe DOES need to be taken into account.
    Thank you Gallop- in response to your points
    2) No meds at all, including BC- although have been on several methods of BC previously which have wrecked havoc with canoeing and many other things. I have spoken to my doctor about my lack of canoeing enthusiasm and she seems to think that a lot of it may be that I am tired and stressed out a lot (which I am working on)
    3. Other than the lack of canoeing our relationship is great. We get along very well, we do a lot of other activities like hiking (ah hem, real hiking) together, still have date night once a week, etc. We are currently canoeing once a week still but I am canoeing out of appeasing him rather than out of want which takes a lot out of it.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Windsor1 View Post
    Pssssst . . . I think "canoeing" is code for something else here.
    Got it. thanks!
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    Just throwing some ideas out there.....
    Change up who's in charge of paddling or where the canoeing takes place.
    Talk to DH & tell him you need him to be prepared for canoeing well in advance. Make a game out of it & see just how many different ways he can get you prepared for canoeing...
    I know you said he's a traditionalist, but get him to break out of the box... not only will it benefit you, but he'd benefit also.



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    Sometimes the whole routine involved could be just not conducive to enjoyable canoeing. Some find that by the time they get to the campsite, set up camp (almost wrote 'pitched a tent' ha!), it's already so late in the evening that going out on a long canoe trip is pretty much the last thing a person wants to do. Perhaps planning to go canoeing earlier in the day will catch you in a more energetic, willing mood for adventure.
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    Im sorry, this isnt funny.

    But im cracking up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Windsor1 View Post
    Pssssst . . . I think "canoeing" is code for something else here.
    Aaaand "kayaking" could be code for something else!



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    Maybe you and the DH should try having sex in a canoe... worked for me and now I love canoeing again!

    Was that TMI?
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    Quote Originally Posted by drmgncolor View Post
    Maybe you and the DH should try having sex in a canoe... worked for me and now I love canoeing again!

    Was that TMI?
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    I was going to suggest using an ipod while canoeing as it might take your mind off the monotony of the work out but I guess that might not go over well.



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