The Chronicle of the Horse
MagazineNewsHorse SportsHorse CareCOTH StoreVoicesThe Chronicle UntackedDirectoriesMarketplaceDates & Results
 
Results 1 to 11 of 11
  1. #1
    Join Date
    May. 23, 2002
    Location
    Ontario Canada
    Posts
    2,195

    Default Lost the bug?? is it possible?

    27 years as a rider from age 8 to 35, it was my focus, now I just have no interest at all. Went from riding 5+ times a week to a handfull of times over the last 8 months.

    Is this the end of the bug? Am I having a reverse midlife crisis?

    I need some input please I feel like I have lost myself somewhere.



  2. #2
    Join Date
    Oct. 9, 2007
    Location
    Central NJ
    Posts
    1,167

    Default

    Its just a break, no worries, when you need to you will be riding again....



  3. #3
    Join Date
    May. 23, 2002
    Location
    Ontario Canada
    Posts
    2,195

    Default

    Thanks for chimming in. It makes me feel a bit better.



  4. #4
    Join Date
    Jun. 9, 2006
    Location
    Grand Junction, CO
    Posts
    1,777

    Default

    I agree. The bug may go into hiatus but it never really leaves a person.



  5. #5
    Join Date
    Feb. 14, 2000
    Location
    San Diego, CA
    Posts
    931

    Default

    It does happen. Don't worry - it'll be back. The horse disease is never really cured...



  6. #6
    Join Date
    Mar. 31, 2012
    Location
    Coastal NC
    Posts
    1,051

    Default

    I agree that sometimes life just gets in the way. I lived on a horse as a child and as a teenager. Then college, law school, life overseas, children and life in general got in the way.

    When my daughter turned 7 or 8 she and I both got the bug. I have now turned into my mother and I know that even if I stopped riding tomorrow, I will be taking care of horses for the remainder of their lives (and my oldest is 5!)

    I refuse to feel guilty when I don't ride during boys soccer season or girls soccer season or when the weather is cold...... That is what I have resigned myself to paying a trainer for. Don't let guilt get in the way of enjoying the time that you do choose to spend with your horse.



  7. #7
    Join Date
    Jun. 30, 2006
    Location
    Middle Tennessee
    Posts
    5,705

    Default

    I can relate. I go through periods where life gets busy and I don't ride for weeks or months. During those times, I don't even want to ride. Then the pendulum swings back to riding 5+ days a week.

    I moved out of state for a whole YEAR for a teaching fellowship and left my horses behind. Honestly, I didn't miss them most of that year. At the time, I was even trying to sell my young horse. Boy, I'm sure glad I didn't...

    When I was a kid, life was horseshorseshorses nonstop. Now that I'm an adult, I have other interests and activities that I enjoy equally. Not a midlife crisis, it's just part of getting older.
    Don't fall for a girl who fell for a horse just to be number two in her world... ~EFO



  8. #8
    Join Date
    May. 23, 2002
    Location
    Ontario Canada
    Posts
    2,195

    Default

    So glad to hear this. Maybe it's just time to develope another element to who I am.

    Thanks guys I am relieved to hear the last 27 years haven't been a total waste.



  9. #9
    Join Date
    Nov. 22, 2003
    Location
    Virginia
    Posts
    7,136

    Default

    There's only so much mental energy a person has. When it's all used up (by anything you're doing, thinking, or WORRYING about), there's no more. And how can you think your horse experience is WASTED???!!!??? Didn't you LEARN anything? Develop physically?



  10. #10
    Join Date
    Apr. 14, 2001
    Location
    Minnesota
    Posts
    18,539

    Default

    Sometimes you just need some time away.

    After going through hell to diagnose and treat my mare's lameness issues, I just couldn't take any more horse stuff when she went lame again. Three years later, the bug bit again and I picked up a two year old and am at the barn nearly every day.

    If it's important to you, and it sounds like it is, let yourself take a break--as long as you need--but keep a toe in the pool somehow, so you can get back into later when the time is right.



  11. #11
    Join Date
    Oct. 26, 2010
    Location
    Orygun
    Posts
    2,947

    Default

    It comes, it goes. The going is getting closer together, but, my focus has changed. While it used to be non-stop riding/showing/etc, now I'm happy to watch my horse(s) (see other post) just hold the pasture down. A lot of my owies came from horses in the first place and my fears have kind of taken root a bit. So, with the help of a lot of people on this board, I've found there are other ways to enjoy a horse, even if it's a bit afar at times.

    I'm curious, why would you think the 27 years were wasted if you aren't quite as interested/motivated as before?? Wasted??
    GR24's Musing #19 - Save the tatas!!



Similar Threads

  1. I had it...then lost it.
    By runwayz in forum Off Course
    Replies: 74
    Last Post: Sep. 10, 2012, 10:11 PM
  2. lost dog in KY
    By janiemerle in forum The Menagerie
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: Feb. 18, 2012, 10:23 PM
  3. We Lost Our Boy
    By WaningMoon in forum Horse Care
    Replies: 48
    Last Post: May. 11, 2011, 07:07 AM
  4. Lost cat
    By PSD in forum Around The Farm
    Replies: 24
    Last Post: Dec. 15, 2010, 08:27 AM
  5. Lost
    By Cielo Azure in forum Off Topic
    Replies: 12
    Last Post: Apr. 12, 2010, 03:22 AM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
randomness