Any tips? We were not trying, but it happened and we're thrilled! Getting pregnant wasn't supposed to be easy for me (had some health issues in that department in the last few years) but we are and it's great.
Last edited by WIExpat; Jun. 24, 2012 at 01:51 AM.
Hey Jane, I just found out I'm pregnant, as you know I didn't think it was possible so we're just thrilled to bits! I'm sorry to say that we're going to have to put off purchasing a new horse for ______amount of time. I'm going to talk to my Ob/Gyn and my SO and we will decide if riding is right for me and then I will let you know if I will continue to lease/lesson during the pregnancy.
Michael: Seems the people who burned me want me for a job.
Sam: A job? Does it pay?
Michael: Nah, it's more of a "we'll kill you if you don't do it" type of thing.
Sam: Oh. I've never liked those.
Babies happen when they happen. Sometimes even despite taking every precaution to prevent them. I should know, I'm that tiny percent they warn you about! Go ahead and tell her, that way you two can discuss putting off hunting for and purchasing, or even going ahead and finding the right horse, working it until you're no longer comfortable riding (I was still in the saddle until about 5 months with my second, 6months with my first, nothing strenuous and on a horse I knew well and was 99.9% confident was safe enough) and having your trainer or another keep horse in work until you're ready to go back to riding.
If trainer is anything but happy for you, I'd say it's time for a new trainer. But that's just me.
Oh, and Congrats!!
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RIP In Sha' Allah ~ 2009 too young at 5
Just tell her, lol. Let her know that you hadn't planned the timing, but life happens. I think most people will be thrilled and excited for you. If she gives you crap...I agree, it's time to find a new trainer.
Thanks everyone. My trainer definitely isn't the father, and I'm sure she'll be really happy for us. And you're right, just explaining what happened and that we'll have to put off purchasing a new 'baby,' should be sufficient.
My OB said I was fine to ride at least til trimester 2 starts, or until I'm not comfortable anymore. Glad I can keep horses in my life for awhile longer before we're ready to pony shop too
Just be honest with your trainer and tell her what you told us. She'll be happy for you and will understand why your buying plans have changed or been put on hold. If she's not, that might tell you something about her.
Congratulations! I don't think the situation with the trainer is a big deal at all, all you need to say is "plans have changed" and I don't think you are under any obligation to discuss the pregnancy immediately if you don't wish to. I don't think you need to discuss the planning or timing of it either, unless you want to.
Honestly, I don't think it's his/her business at all. Just a simple "life circumstances have changed in a big way, and I will need to put off buying a horse at this point" should suffice. If you want to give a more detailed explanation, that is YOUR CHOICE and you should only tell him/her if you want to.
If she's not a nice trainer, the loss of a) leased horse, b) riding lesson fees and c) fat commission check on bought horse could indeed make her snippy.
In the crazy horse world, anything can happen.
However, if she does act this way, time to find a new trainer, I agree!
Congratulations, OP, your life will be changed forever! I rode until I was about 7 months along. But after having a child, I really didn't want to ride the crazy horses anymore, someone else is depending on you! But that's not everyone's choice, of course.