Well, it wouldn't be Off Topic Day without a wedding thread, would it?
So, fiance and I are in the beginning stages of planning our wedding. Having never done this before (and hopefully never again!) there are one or two things that we have absolutely NO idea about!
For instance, what about gifts for the wedding party? Does everyone get the same thing or do they all get something different? Is there a certain amount/percentage of the budget you're supposed to spend on these gifts?
We have a general theme, a pretty set guest list, favor ideas, and we finally have a location picked out. But we have NO idea what do for bridesmaids and groomsmen gifts!
This wedding is being done on a budget, so we don't want to spend a ton. But we DO want something that they will like, and will hopefully use/like/appreciate for years to come. We don't want anything tacky, and our friends AREN'T wine drinkers, so a nice bottle of wine and openers are out of the question.
I got my bridesmaids jewelry that they could wear on the wedding day. Under $100 each and it was just nice, costume jewelry (CZ's). They really appreciated it, and unlike their dresses, they really could wear it again
For the groomsmen, my husband bought really nice bottles of scotch. Yours could also do something like money clips, or since these people are supposed to be his good friends, something that has more personal meaning to all of them (it doesn't have to be the same gift for all). Maybe tickets to a baseball game together or something?
Oh, and congrats btw! Weddings are fun but it will go by in a blur. Months and months of planning over in a couple hours. Not to mention all the mishaps I didn't hear about until after the event!
Pretty sure there's no real guideline as far as $ for gifts. I've heard of jewelry that the BMs can wear with their dresses, monogrammed keychains, flasks for them and the groomsmen.
For my two, I got them little photo albums, some nice lip balm from Sephora and made them cake balls in wedding colors before cake balls were so popular. My MIL, who is awesome, insisted on buying them both an inexpensive set of pearls to wear as well.
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I got mt ladies jewelry to wear for the wedding (under $20 each for a necklace and earring set from Charming Charlie) and nice plush white bathrobes with their initials embroidered in my main wedding color (purple). I looked around for sales and got them at Kohl's for around $30 each thanks to sales, coupons, and Kohl's cash. They loved them! My MoH actually fell asleep in hers in our hotel room the night before the wedding!
My husband got the guys neat multi-tools (like a Leatherman) since they are all kind of outdoors-types. He had planned on getting them engraved with the date, but ran out of time. They guys really loved those too.
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I got my MOH/bridesmaid (only had one) a necklace with her initial to wear with her dress and also made her a "spa" goodie bag for having to deal with a bride and mother of the bride (lol): aloe socks, bubble bath, lotion, etc. Hubby bought his guys (twins) their suit coats b/c they didn't have any AND we figured that was the only way we'd get them in one! Good luck and congrats!
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I'm getting my bridesmaids each something different. I am getting them things I know they will each enjoy, and they all have very different personalities and interests. My gifts will not be related to wedding day at all since they are picking their own jewelry and such for the wedding.
Our bridesmaids and groomsman gifts were special and meaningful to us as well as being useful to our friends.
We gave the bridesmaids the horseshoe Tiffany necklace in sterling silver (which they wore at the wedding (my way of getting horses in the ceremony). I have seen every one of my bridesmaids wearing these multiple times after the wedding and none of them ride horses!
My husband gave his groomsmen leatherman multi-tools. I know, I know, but seriously, these were extremely well received! We also gave the leathermans to the two ladies who did all our flower arranging (we had a farm wedding, so it was all friends and family helping). They LOVED them!
We gave pewter beer mugs with their names engraved on them. When I was in wedding parties, I got a pewter shot glass with initials engraved on it, a leather key chain with a metal first initial, and jewelry to wear at the wedding.
My SIL did wraps/ pashminas which we were wore to the reception and were very grateful for-- it was only 60 degrees and the dresses were sleeveless. I think my brother gave his groomsmen small pocketknives with their initials? engraved. They were all sort of outdoorsy guys.
Another friend did small picture frames and sent us each a photo afterward which was nice.
For our wedding we gave each member of the wedding party something unique. I ended up getting each of my girls a piece of jewelry, but all VERY different pieces that suited each girl's personality. Hubby got his guys gifts tailored to their interests, a neat framed Johnny Cash poster for his friend who's really into his music, an REI gift card for his camping gear buff buddy, etc.
We really didn't want to give everyone the same gifts, and we wanted something meaningful and useful!
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Both weddings I've been in, the maids were given purses. The first wedding was at the beach and they were insulated mini coolers! So cute, and they were monogrammed.
That bride also gave us cute shell necklaces (large flat shell, statement piece type).
Second wedding the bride gave us little purses made/sold off etsy in different fabrics. Those are adorable! She said they weren't anything like she expected them to be, but i really liked mine.
Monogramming is always a nice touch for wedding party gifts.
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I had a local jeweler make necklaces for each of the bridesmaids. I picked out the stones in my wedding colours, and then she made different necklaces for each of them, but they were unified with the same stones. So they were personalized and different, but still coordinated and cute. They were simple, and since I got three of them plus my own jewelry, she gave me a really good discount.
When I got married, hubby and I gave all of our attendants flasks.
In the last wedding I was in, the bride went a bit overboard on the silver engraved gifts. Everyone was given something with their name/initials on it, the date of the wedding and the position they held in the wedding party. the groomsmen received monogrammed silver cuff links, in silver boxes engraved on the outside with all of the above info. I received a very ornate silver jewelry box. It's kind of pretty, but not at all my taste. It's still in the box on a shelf.
I was with the bride the day she picked up all of the attendants gifts. I just about passed out when the sales person totaled up the bill!