Does anyone have a recommendation for a trainer in the Southern Pines area? I'm needing someone who can give me a kick in my a$$ and tell me to get over my irrational fear of jumping more than 3 ft!
A little background: I was eventing at Training before retiring my mare for a younger model (dumb move). Younger model had major trust issues due to a crappy "trainer" who started her, I tried to work her through them, etc. but unfortunately failed and retired her as a broodmare. By that time I severe confidence issues and found myself freaking out about jumping 2'6. My trainer at the time found me a older horse who was free to a good home who was still able to compete. I competed him BN and he helped my confidence immensely but he couldn't compete past BN so I gave him to another rider who was in my situation. I then started searching for a horse to compete and one of my old trainers offered to free lease me her mare. Mare was doing Hunters but had too much go so trainer thought that I could introduce her to eventing and see how she liked it. The mare is amazing, no stop, loves to jump, and loves xc! We recently moved up to Novice and had a decent first run but I found myself with anxiety during start up.
I do have a wonderful trainer I'm working with currently who supports me and has helped me overcome some fear but I'm in need of a trainer who tells me to get my a$$ out there and stop being a bloody baby
Well, there are all types of personality types. I personally do my jump training with David O'Brien and love him -- he is very kind and patient, he seems to realize I beat myself up for everything anyway, and he brings out the best in my horse. He is always positive and encouraging and has given me the confidence to do more than I thought I could without my even realizing it until I looked back on it.
However, if you want someone considerably more assertive, well, you might like his wife, Lauren. She is far more likely to tell you to stop being a baby, LOL!
I imagine Denny is about to go north soon, but another trainer I like very much there is Bobby Costello -- I have not ridden with him, but met him at events multiple times and he is always friendly and knowledgeable and energetic and I know he is an excellent trainer. A friend rides with him and does very well.
There are approximately 305 different ones who live there, big and small, loud and quiet, mean and gentle, you can take your pick. I am very loyal to David because I need someone in my life to be kind to me, LOL. I'm sure others will have plenty more to say about others.
i spent a stint as a working student for david a number of years ago and can't speak highly enough of him and lauren. as previous posters said, david was great on a day to day basis, and lauren really put me in the right frame of mind at competitions. great combo and great people.