DH is having surgery tomorrow. Removal via DaVinchi which should be somewhat easier in the long run. Aggressive, but caught early- zero symptoms except weight loss and back pain. I've managed to stack my shifts to allow me to be home for the next 5 days, then working a night, then stacking 2 days so I can be home as much as possible. No vacation in PA school!
I'm thanking Amazon prime for supplies, and have the barn loaded for feed, hay. Neighbor will help hopefully on my night shift for feeding that night and following AM. Rest of the animals are ok and manageable. He's out of any duties for at least 4 weeks.
What am I forgetting about? Any ideas? I'll do easy food for him. Bedroom attached to bath, all on first floor with kitchen. I got him a scanner to listen to and a DVD player will be next. Turned off cable (just too expensive right now- I hopefully will be employed when I graduate but now, nothing in- all going out. )
Appreciate any ideas- experiences- info. I kind of know the medical side- and of course that worries me- but the practical I'm not so familiar with!
My DH was diagnosed at 39 in April, and had the surgery yours is facing in June. He was bedridden for a week after discharge, but recovery was suprisingly fast and easy. He had completely, and I do mean complete return to all functions, by September.
I don't have any advice, but I'll be praying for your DH to come through as mine did.
My friend is almost 70, was diagnosed in late fall.
Dr decided to try to use radiation beads first and it seems to be working fine for him, right now.
The radiation caused serious side effects, but he is feeling better now.
There is no one way to handle that cancer, each person is different.
Doctors treat patients with that cancer every day, is very common.
They have a feel for what is best for each patient.
Follow their advice, they really are the experts.
Hugs and prayers. I lost my husband to melanoma, so I've been through the caretaker role.
1. Take notes so you know exactly what is going on medically
2. Keep a list of medications, so if it is ever asked you know.
3. Research and investigate on your own. You and your husband have to live with and do everything you can to beat the cancer. The doctor gets a paycheck regardless of if the patient lives or dies. Know the treatments so you can make educated and informed decisions and ask appropriate questions.
4. Pain meds can cause constipation so you may want to discuss with dr/nurses about stool softeners.
5. Be your husband's advocate and make sure he gets the treatment he needs while in the hospital/pain management, etc.
I know you mentioned finances being tight, you may want to investigate and see if there are assistance programs out there if you may need them in the future. Hoping you don't but better prepared.
When my husband got his stage IV diagnosis (we started at II and thought we were in the clear... then had a III scare and thought we were in the clear), we came home from the doctor's office and he had a talk with me... told me I was free to re-marry if I wanted to and that he wanted to live to our son's first B-day (he did by just a few days). One of his biggest fears was that kiddo & I wouldn't be taken care of (and money for the long term is one of my biggest fears). Having that talk was scary and painful and awful, but he made things clear. He also sat down and wrote out all of his accounts/log ins, & passwords that he could think of.
Hoping and praying you have a better experience and a much better outcome!!! Jingles, hugs, and prayers.
Any such serious problems are better not kept to yourself.
Let others know, you really will get support and some times from some you didn't expect it.
Here we live in a fishbowl very small community, annoying at times, funny others, but very serious when it comes to quietly seeing to everyone with problems.
Even those that are solitary by nature get help, without that help being intrusive.
Try not to keep this to yourself, find some support where you may.
You may also find that, once you look around, this is a rather common problem many can relate to, as my friend did.
Thanks everyone. This past two years has been really hard. This is just another 'thing' that adds. My daughter said to me (she is 29- I was 4 when I had her...jk) that I'm a bit like a pack horse, I keep saying 'sure- i'll take more' but somedays it feels hard. And if my kids are noticing, I guess Bluey seeing it means maybe I'm not so good at hiding it:-)
MK- I've thought about you often in the past couple of years. I'm amazed at your strength. I have been quietly finding great homes for my horses, because they deserve that because I just can't do it all. I'm
Sitting here, eating a huge breakfast, crying in the cafeteria. He's back
In the OR- in great hands- and I'm a bit overwhealmed.