I got a sullen 12-year-old boy. Jeez, it was truly terrible for a few years. Thank heavens my DH is a wonderful dad and a fabulous husband.
And then things changed. Stepson became happy. We were a happy little household.
He's grown now, out of the house and married. He loves me, I love him. He still calls me by my last name, more often than not. Lucky guy, he has two moms who love him. Both of us brought him different things.
I think of him as my "bonus buy" - got married and got a kid for "free."
Funny thing...I do not have children of my own, but I teach 8th grade. So, from 7:15 until 1:15, 120 of them are all mine (well, okay, I'll share them with my 3 other co-workers, but you get the idea). The kids always ask me why I don't have kids because, according to them, I would be a great mom. I do love teaching teens and find them strangely funny, passionate, creative, ridiculous, testing, and brilliantly talented in many ways. That said, many days I'm truly grateful that they go home to their own parents at 2:40!
I have two teen boys (15 and 13) and fortunately, they are SO mellow and low key.
I also have a 9 year old son who is a little more demanding.
And then there are the 8 year old twins. Girls. I literally keep Tyenol PM on stock just to deal with them some days. I need to be coherent, but slightly "buzzed."
They aren't teens yet. Someone, have pity on me.
I have both - a grown stepson (whom I've known since he was 4), and 2 of my own - an 18 year old girl and a 13 year old boy. They're all challenging in their own way, although my "own" have been more rewarding. Nevertheless, 13 is a VERY tough age, for boys and girls. I really look forward to being an empty nester some days....
I don't know how my mom (and dad) survived wtih 7 kids. My parents have said "we raised 7 only children". They had 7 kids in 12 years.
I have two girls (age 17 and 23). Let me tell you there were days with two I thought I would implode. I have learned to REALLY appreciate my mom and how she just sucked it up when we kids talked back to her.
My 17 year old is still going through the snotty stages but at least I can rely on her for many things (husband travels a lot) on the farm. The older one is off to college, locally and in the "No one loves me I don't have a boyfriend... stage". We spent 30 minutes on the phone last night with her in tears b/c she feels she'll never find "the one" and she's seen more netflicks than she cares to remember in the last month.
I said, among other "mom" things "welcome to adulthood".
Now a days when I see parent with young children I think "you time will come, this is the easy part" Wink wink
Thanks to this thread, I have about 12 more reasons to be glad I never had any!
I am a stepmom to two adult "kids" and I see how my husband worries - the 25 yr old girl married a complete loser and now has a 4 yr old and is going thru a divorce; the other is a 27 yr old going on 15 yr old boy. GAH.