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  1. #1
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    Default Being a parent or step parent

    is like being pecked to death by a duck.

    Kthanksbye. That's all I wanted to say.
    ~Amy~ TrakehNERD clique
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    Agreed! And, right now, being a stepparent to an adult is like being pecked to death by an insane duck on crack. Arghhh! Our 8 year old is less demanding of our time and emotional energy.



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    Let's just say I have one of though mind numbing headaches at the moment. 11 year old boy, 13 year old girl. Head exploding as we speak.
    ~Amy~ TrakehNERD clique
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    Londo: I feel like I'm being pecked by ... what are those Earth animals? Small, feathers, beaks?
    Vir: Cats.
    Londo: Yes. Pecked to death by cats.



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    Oh, man, 13 year old girl! Enough said, you need a bath and a bottle of wine...ALL DAY LONG.



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    yes, I do. I REALLY need one of those soaking hot tubs. That would be wonderful!
    ~Amy~ TrakehNERD clique
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    It will get better.

    I got a sullen 12-year-old boy. Jeez, it was truly terrible for a few years. Thank heavens my DH is a wonderful dad and a fabulous husband.

    And then things changed. Stepson became happy. We were a happy little household.

    He's grown now, out of the house and married. He loves me, I love him. He still calls me by my last name, more often than not. Lucky guy, he has two moms who love him. Both of us brought him different things.

    I think of him as my "bonus buy" - got married and got a kid for "free."

    I hope it works out for you.



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    Like!
    "Is it ignorance or apathy? Hey, I don't know and I don't care." ~Jimmy Buffett



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    Hahaha. Agreed!
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    Funny thing...I do not have children of my own, but I teach 8th grade. So, from 7:15 until 1:15, 120 of them are all mine (well, okay, I'll share them with my 3 other co-workers, but you get the idea). The kids always ask me why I don't have kids because, according to them, I would be a great mom. I do love teaching teens and find them strangely funny, passionate, creative, ridiculous, testing, and brilliantly talented in many ways. That said, many days I'm truly grateful that they go home to their own parents at 2:40!
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    Age 13 is the A**hole year. There is no other explanation. Just breathe deep and know that it will improve.



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    oh agreeed! hot tub and a glass of wine works well for me:-)



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    I have two teen boys (15 and 13) and fortunately, they are SO mellow and low key.
    I also have a 9 year old son who is a little more demanding.

    And then there are the 8 year old twins. Girls. I literally keep Tyenol PM on stock just to deal with them some days. I need to be coherent, but slightly "buzzed."
    They aren't teens yet. Someone, have pity on me.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Canaqua View Post
    Oh, man, 13 year old girl! Enough said, you need a bath and a bottle of wine...ALL DAY LONG.
    Ha! I'll see your 13 year old girl and raise you a 15 year old girl AND an 11 year old girl!

    No wonder I reply to every migraine thread.....



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    I have both - a grown stepson (whom I've known since he was 4), and 2 of my own - an 18 year old girl and a 13 year old boy. They're all challenging in their own way, although my "own" have been more rewarding. Nevertheless, 13 is a VERY tough age, for boys and girls. I really look forward to being an empty nester some days....



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    I don't know how my mom (and dad) survived wtih 7 kids. My parents have said "we raised 7 only children". They had 7 kids in 12 years.

    I have two girls (age 17 and 23). Let me tell you there were days with two I thought I would implode. I have learned to REALLY appreciate my mom and how she just sucked it up when we kids talked back to her.

    My 17 year old is still going through the snotty stages but at least I can rely on her for many things (husband travels a lot) on the farm. The older one is off to college, locally and in the "No one loves me I don't have a boyfriend... stage". We spent 30 minutes on the phone last night with her in tears b/c she feels she'll never find "the one" and she's seen more netflicks than she cares to remember in the last month.

    I said, among other "mom" things "welcome to adulthood".

    Now a days when I see parent with young children I think "you time will come, this is the easy part" Wink wink



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    "Pecked to death by a duck"

    [snork] love it!

    Been there done that. I have three children; one I did the hard way and two the easy way. It will get better, and they tend to turn into nice people eventually, but what a tough age
    \"Tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it.\" Anne of Green Gables



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    I've got two step-parent-y entities (post-divorce, neither parent is much invested in the marriage thing)

    I'll give all of you your due credit -- not easy coming into another family.

    BUT... as long as we're on the subject...

    Being a step-kid is hard. Being an adult step-kid can be the absolute pits sometimes. Rough, rough, rough.



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    Well, I truly believe, sometimes, that having kids is our punishment for being kids. It is a constant test on so many levels.
    ~Amy~ TrakehNERD clique
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    Thanks to this thread, I have about 12 more reasons to be glad I never had any!
    I am a stepmom to two adult "kids" and I see how my husband worries - the 25 yr old girl married a complete loser and now has a 4 yr old and is going thru a divorce; the other is a 27 yr old going on 15 yr old boy. GAH.



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