Well, I took a bunch of you all's advice. I got the "Stop Walking on Eggshells" book which nailed the sitch and even used a few of your words. As was predicted, it all got turned back on me. Then "she" began inching forward. I felt so freed up from not being around the energy drain that I have held my position of no contact. I am surprised that I haven't missed her. Maybe we will connect again, but I know I will be much different in that connection. Wow. I gave thanks to this forum so many times! Thanks again!