Love them both but nothing will bond with you like an OTTB mare !!
I've got to agree with this. I've always been one to prefer geldings but a wonderful OTTB mare came along and I thought I wanted her in spite of her gender but now I see how great a good mare can be. She always nickers when she sees me, and though she sometimes has her mareish moments she has a great work ethic and is actually less tempermental than my TB gelding.
i prefer geldings, but i am starting to really like mares too. ive never actually worked consistently with mares until now (i mean sure ive ridden them like anyone else has, but not everyday, you know?) ive got a project pony whos a mare and she is just the sweetest...when shes not in heat. i find that it is easier to build a real relationship with the horse when it's a mare. a good mare really will give her all for a rider whom she has a relationship with. however, i must say, this little mare i'm working with is quite funny at times. she has the hots for a colt in our barn. he's a biiiiiiiiiig dutch WB cold. huge. and shes an eensy weensy top of the line small (or a very small medium) he drops on numerous occasions when she passes, and she gets quite worked up as well. mares are funny.
but i do love my pony gelding to death and we are very close knit, and i still overall prefer geldings
Where is the stallion option ? I've become attached to the stallion I part lease, he's truly a gentleman and well behaved. I had my doubts at first but he has proven himself and we've bonded. I'm all for equal opportunity. Realistically, if I had to choose between the two, I would be open minded to a mare or gelding.
My mare is the sweetest thing, easy on the ground and under saddle. She doesn't want anything to do with the hugs and kisses though, she keeps to herself. One of my geldings can very difficult under saddle, but he's a spooky Thoroughbred, so it's expected. He's probably the easiest on the ground- he groundties, clips, stands for baths and shoes, he's perfect, and great under saddle if you ride him right. My other gelding is still young, but he's amazing under saddle, never spooks, but he's difficult to deal with on the ground (I can't even tell you how many cross ties he's broken, thank God they're held on with zip ties) especially baths, and he's grey it's wonderful.
One of the greatest horses I ever had was a gelding, but generally speaking I'll take a mare over a gelding in just about every case. As ADD526 pointed out, a mare will give you her heart and there's nothing greater than that! (and, in hindsight, my old gelding acted just like any one of my current mares )
Strangely, I have had five horses - two geldings and three mares. I still have my three mares. My mares have always been more predictable and more level headed. One of my three mares is "marish" but not toward people so much, just pins her ears at every horse near her. The other two are great.
My family has owned five horses, and leased two in the past 10 years. Both leases were geldings, all purchases were mares. I don't have a strong gender preference when I'm shopping, I just always seem to end up with the girls, as does everyone in our family. I like both genders equally, but I do love my mare. I've had her for almost five years and I think, were she human, we would be at the point where we could do weird things like finish each other's sentences. She's a great horse, definitely marish, but I would not trade her for the world.
I've always preferred male animals in general, so have a bias towards geldings. However, I have ridden two super wonderful mares in the past so I would not turn down a horse just because it was a mare.
I've had four really important horses in my life. Two of them were geldings which I currently don't have, and two of them are mares which I have right now. I know a lot of people say that they hate mares, but I seem to get along quite nicely with them =] I think it just depends on their personality and overall attitude compared to if they are a gelding or mare.