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    Default Staying with trainer for WS interview - is a "hostess gift" appropriate?

    The title says it all - if you are staying with a trainer for a couple days as a WS "interview", is it appropriate to bring a hostess gift of sorts? My current WS job is with a trainer I'd ridden with as a regular student beforehand, so I didn't do any sort of farm visit/interview and thus have no experience with this sort of thing.

    Thanks for any input!
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    I would think some kind of food--homemade cookies or local jams and muffins or something--would definitely be appropriate. Otherwise, no idea!



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    Working Students are, by definition, poor, but a nice gesture like a bottle of wine, fruit, or homemade/home grown foods would be good. Necessary? Probably not. But you'd make a good impression.



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    I have never known an eventer to turn down food...or beer for that matter. Regardles of the circumstance, a few days stay at someone's house should always warrent some sort of gesture...it is simply good manners and always appreciated by the host/hostess.



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    Being of that generation where I still hand write thank you notes, I'll second what Snoopy said!!



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    Something homemade...a loaf of spice cake, or some brownies...candy...yes.
    Alcohol, no. If you are to be a working student you don't want to start out implying that you always have alcoholic beverages at hand...especially if you are underage! Trainers have enough risks in taking on working students!



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    Quote Originally Posted by pegasusmom View Post
    Being of that generation where I still hand write thank you notes, I'll second what Snoopy said!!

    So do I and on personal stationary to boot.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Mach Two View Post
    Something homemade...a loaf of spice cake, or some brownies...candy...yes.
    Alcohol, no. If you are to be a working student you don't want to start out implying that you always have alcoholic beverages at hand...especially if you are underage! Trainers have enough risks in taking on working students!
    As for the alcohol, that is what I was thinking - although I've been around eventers for most of my life and the great majority of eventers like to crack open a cold one after a long day, I am underage and do not want to give the wrong impression. Just not worth it.
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    If you have read the book "The Last Lecture" by Randy Pausch (an excellent book if you have not), he puts in there a case where he had a student trying to get into one of his elite programs at Carnegie Mellon and he decided to accept her when he saw that she had handwritten a thank you note to someone who had escorted her on campus. Something to think about.

    A hostess gift or hand written thank you note is ALWAYS the right thing to do, even in this day and age.
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    Since you're underage, I think a small batch of homemade cookies with thank you note would be well-received (being from the generation who writes thank you notes and bakes cookies from scratch).

    ETA: Also having met your mother and sister when they were in Florida last January, I know you come from "good stock". I hope you achieve the position for which you are interviewing.
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    I think the above mentioned would be very nice, and don't forget that how it's presented can really make a difference. A few thoughful gestures presented in a nice basket or other carrier can leave a lasting impression.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EventFan View Post
    I think the above mentioned would be very nice, and don't forget that how it's presented can really make a difference. A few thoughful gestures presented in a nice basket or other carrier can leave a lasting impression.
    Agree. I'd add a hand written note too, thanking the trainer.

    Shower gel/bubble bath might be nice, especially if you get them in her(?) fave scent.

    Also, good luck! Let us know how you get on!
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    Thanks for the ideas, guys! I wish I knew more about what this trainer does and doesn't like...I've only spoken with her on the phone, and most of what I know about her is by reputation. Luckily, it's a good one!

    I will at the very least bring some sort of food (I love to cook!) and write a thank-you note - after all, I am bringing myself and my horses down to her farm for three days. It's only polite.

    Kookicat - thanks for the good wishes! It's a really fabulous opportunity, and I'm crossing my fingers that it works out - either way, I should be finding out soon.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Caroline Weber View Post
    Thanks for the ideas, guys! I wish I knew more about what this trainer does and doesn't like...I've only spoken with her on the phone, and most of what I know about her is by reputation. Luckily, it's a good one!

    I will at the very least bring some sort of food (I love to cook!) and write a thank-you note - after all, I am bringing myself and my horses down to her farm for three days. It's only polite.

    Kookicat - thanks for the good wishes! It's a really fabulous opportunity, and I'm crossing my fingers that it works out - either way, I should be finding out soon.
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