Patience, Patience and more Patience....
Being still. When you learn to be still with a hyper sensitive spooky horse no matter what the horse is doing and learn to work from that stillness, crazy folks always in some drama look entertaining not challenging or scary
Keep trying, even when it gets hard. Believe in your horse and yourself. Every single day of a relationship (horse or human) isn't going to be wonderful and easy but if you put in the effort it will pay off in the end.
If you anticipate trouble, you will most likely get it.
The subconscious is a powerful thing... if you tell youself over and over what the correct way is to do something, eventually it will believe what you say and take over when you need it most.
I think that panicking/stressing won't do ANYTHING to help in a bad situation. I am constantly surprised at work by how much energy people burn on worrying--doesn't change a darn thing! You could never do that around a nervous horse at the barn without causing total panic!
My husband lost his job Friday and allllllllllllllllll weekend I have been like the above. No wonder why my horses don't like me so much right now.
*Better to have loved than to have never loved at all.*
ALWAYS Blessings NEVER losses.
From my first instructor: ride your own horse. He meant that the best you could do in a difficult situation was deal with the one thing you COULD have an effect on. If someone was having trouble, messing up an exercise, etc. you couldn't change a thing they were doing... just ride your own horse. It's very good advice to live by.
Now in my current situation... patience and release. And I love what others have said about "if the horse isn't doing the right thing, you're asking wrong". That's sort of like my first instructor's words above. Figure out what you can change, and change it.
Oh and that just reminded me of another pearl from that instructor: make a change. If you were attempting an exercise and it didn't work, all he wanted to see the next time around was that you were trying a different approach. Sure it was great if it worked, but that was beside the point. What's that saying now? Insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different outcome? Uh-huh!
Lastly, an old cowboy taught me "never run to a wreck"... you know the feeling when you open the barn door or go out to the pasture and there's a horse down, injured, stuck in a fence, etc.? My urge was always to run right out to the site of the calamity... and THEN realize that a halter, a bucket of grain, a PHONE, etc. would have been a good idea. Much better to think first, act second, because you might think you are saving time but you're more apt to be wasting it.
Proudly with HRC -- "SJW" isn't an insult where *I* come from.
Did you know that if you say the word "GULLIBLE" really softly, it sounds like "ORANGES"?
As soon as you notice things going haywire, backtrack to the last point where things made sense and start over from there. Don't just sit there and hope things sort themselves out. (They don't! They usually get worse.)
Errors almost never look as bad as they feel. (AKA: Many small errors will go unnoticed by the observer if you don't freak out and call all attention to them.)
Forward! Forward! Always Forward!
Start small. You can always do more. But you can't always go back and do less.
Choose your battles. You can't fix EVERYTHING in one ride. So pick one chore, and be happy with an effort, or sign of a lightbulb. Same thing in life with humans.
Best relationship advice ever came from horse shopping in high school
"Just because you like succeeding with impossible projects, doesn't mean you have to buy one. There are enough of those sitting around for you to entertain yourself with. The one you are going to keep, should have all positive attributes that you can nurture...not negative things you want to get rid of"
Finally...don't create problems. If you go into a ride with a bad attitude, waiting for trouble, you will find it. Positive attitude is key. Thats the only way to address the real issues. And if you often are in a bad mood by the time you get to the barn...you need a pony
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