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  1. Thanks, everyone, for the input. I really do...

    Thanks, everyone, for the input. I really do appreciate it. I'm still thinking things over, but it's obvious just from reading my own posts on this topic that we have a major communication failure in...
  2. Let's say, not-so-hypothetically, that I will be...

    Let's say, not-so-hypothetically, that I will be getting laid off from my job in the near future. Would that change the spousal support part of the equation?
  3. I think maybe the letter idea is best. The more...

    I think maybe the letter idea is best. The more "serious" the discussion, the worse it goes for us, or so it seems. He clams up, I get either sad or angry, and then cry, then he walks away.
  4. I guess I'm not sure what financials I need to...

    I guess I'm not sure what financials I need to have in order. We're basically flat-a$$ broke most of the time now as it is. Aside from my monthly payday, at which point I pay bills, we generally have...
  5. You're spot-on, Buddy. We're both kind of awful...

    You're spot-on, Buddy. We're both kind of awful at communicating. I know I need to tell him just how frustrated I am and that it HAS to change or I will be gone because I won't live like this.
  6. Aw hell, when you lay it out like that, it...

    Aw hell, when you lay it out like that, it doesn't even sound like a tough decision TO ME! LOL

    But....it is. He's a good guy. We get along very well, we're each other's best friend, we like the...
  7. I completely agree, BuddyRoo. My problem is...

    I completely agree, BuddyRoo.

    My problem is that I'll slog on in an abhorrent situation for far too long. And I'll do it without ever truly voicing my dissent. I let it build up, and I take on...
  8. THAT is priceless. :D

    THAT is priceless. :D
  9. I've been mulling over the "pack up and leave"...

    I've been mulling over the "pack up and leave" idea for a long time now. I don't know if an ultimatum would work, but I'd really try that than just give up completely. Do I need to consult an...
  10. I have no idea. This thread has already made...

    I have no idea.

    This thread has already made me see that we have some major communication issues, if nothing else.
  11. I think about this all. the. time. And I'm...

    I think about this all. the. time. And I'm honestly not sure how I feel. As I get older, I find myself thinking about how I should have looked for a guy who was a "provider" type rather than *just*...
  12. This is what has been at the back of my mind...

    This is what has been at the back of my mind for....well, if I'm honest, over a year. :(

    What I want is for him to snap out of it and just get a job - and keep it! And maybe even treat it with a...
  13. I agree, but he's very, very resistant. He's...

    I agree, but he's very, very resistant. He's incredibly private and I suspect he secretly thinks it doesn't work (he's said as much to my about my own counseling).


    Yes - I try not to harp...
  14. DH won't work and I think I want a divorce

    Using an alter because part of me feels nuts asking complete strangers for relationship adivce... :o

    Been with DH for 11 years, married for the past 6. No kids. We've been together since we were...
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