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    Again, thank goodness for my lawyer, lol...... ...

    Again, thank goodness for my lawyer, lol......

    The only reason this is even possible is because STBX's and my finances have always been separate, and the mortgage (even though it is in both of our...
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    Just wanted to chime in with an update... It's...

    Just wanted to chime in with an update... It's been about a month since I last posted on this thread. What a crazy month it's been!!!

    The divorce is still very much happening... I filed the last...
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    I missed the poofed grilled cheese thread.... ...

    I missed the poofed grilled cheese thread.... Can someone either please explain it to me here or PM me?? The curiosity is killing me...
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    I rather stupidly checked out the online dating...

    I rather stupidly checked out the online dating scene recently.... Just separated from a 10-year marriage and was, frankly, petrified at the thought of dating again, and what options are available...
  5. I so totally get it...... I'm recently...

    I so totally get it......

    I'm recently separated, really have zero interest in canoeing right now (and let's be honest, one can kayak instead and have a LOT less hassle), but there are times...
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    Yeah, not even close. I know I had told him...

    Yeah, not even close. I know I had told him MULTIPLE times, before and since we've been married, that if he ever cheated or hit me, it's done. And there sure was never a conversation about "well...
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    Without going into enormous detail, let's just...

    Without going into enormous detail, let's just say this was not the usual "I found someone I care about more than you" scenario. It was not. STBX has issues, interests, and predilections which have...
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    To each their own... I really only have two...

    To each their own... I really only have two non-negotiables-- you don't cheat, and you don't ever lay a hand on me. Everything else, I could have (and have) dealt with, but that was a boundary that...
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    Update... STBEX and I sat down and wrote out the...

    Update... STBEX and I sat down and wrote out the separation agreement... Lawyer typed it up and returned it. It's now signed and notarized by both of us. So the worst, legally, is now over I think....
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    You are exceedingly kind; thank you! He and I...

    You are exceedingly kind; thank you!

    He and I sat down last night and divided up all of our assets on paper, as per my lawyer's instructions. All he wants is his car, some specific tools, his...
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    Yup, you pretty much nailed it. Still no...

    Yup, you pretty much nailed it. Still no guarantee it will all go smoothly, but it's not quite the usual "cheating spouse" scenario.
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    The lawyer advised me, IF we can be civil enough...

    The lawyer advised me, IF we can be civil enough to do so, to sit down with him and list all our assets and how we agree to divide everything up. If he agrees to it, and signs it, it's legally...
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    I've actually been (fairly) open about that with...

    I've actually been (fairly) open about that with him... I told him we're both technically entitled to portions of each other's pensions (and told him I don't want his; he says he doesn't want mine). ...
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    Well, I HAVE considered what would happen if Mr....

    Well, I HAVE considered what would happen if Mr. Alter came on here and found this... He may have. He's not even remotely horsey, but he knows about CotH and that I'm on here a lot. There may be a...
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    Wow. Well, there's nothing like a good CotH...

    Wow. Well, there's nothing like a good CotH trainwreck to get my mind off things... Hell, might as well be in my own thread!! :lol:
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    I'd rather not do it at all. I don't wish him...

    I'd rather not do it at all. I don't wish him ill; I just don't want to have to fight over this. But if the fight comes, well...

    It's just not something that would make me feel good to do. ...
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    Realtor is coming on Thursday to give us some...

    Realtor is coming on Thursday to give us some direction. He's the guy who came highly recommended by my lawyer; she's used him herself a number of times.
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    Even though I'm out-earning him at present, he...

    Even though I'm out-earning him at present, he has the technical training and qualifications to significantly out-earn me pretty easily, particularly if he joins a union, even more so if he's in a...
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    We are going to try to stay in the house until it...

    We are going to try to stay in the house until it sells... I wasn't feeling up to that prior to talking to the lawyer, but after that conversation and a long talk with soon-to-be-ex last night, it's...
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    It's not an "other woman" situation, rather an...

    It's not an "other woman" situation, rather an anonymous hookup thing, with more than one other party... Without going into way too many details, let's just say that his actions would not be...
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    I'm hoping to get the asset list and stuff to my...

    I'm hoping to get the asset list and stuff to my attorney before the end of the weekend; I think that's reasonable.
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    But, strangely, I do feel a lot better after...

    But, strangely, I do feel a lot better after talking to the lawyer, even though the news wasn't what I wanted to hear... But at least I now know how to go into the next few months in a manner to best...
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    *sigh* It was indeed a challenging afternoon. ...

    *sigh* It was indeed a challenging afternoon.

    Whoever said I'd feel better after talking to a lawyer, but that the lawyer won't sugar-coat things, well ain't that the truth... What news I got...
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    It's going to be an interesting and challenging...

    It's going to be an interesting and challenging day... I decided to come in to work this morning, just to get my mind off everything for a few hours. Oddly, it's helped, even though I'm mentally...
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    Are you kidding? As a non-religious person, I'm...

    Are you kidding? As a non-religious person, I'm all about the jingles, lol... Seriously, I have to catch myself from writing that on sympathy and get-well cards for people. :D
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