While not a hunter/jumper, I have a half-Arab mare (main ring hunter pleasure, sport horse show hack, dressage) who LOVES to show. I took her out to a show this weekend to just ride around and see...
You're getting a lot of good advice, not a butt-whipping. You ARE coming across as having an ego problem, whether or not you mean to. If you have to tell us you don't have an ego problem, odds are...