Remember- scream "FIRE" not help if you get into trouble.
As for calling for help if you are attacked:
I learned, while living in St Louis, that if you call for help, someone may or may not come. But if you yell "FIRE" everyone comes to your rescue. And no, you won't be charged for saying "FIRE" if you are being attacked.
oops, I was typing while poster above was posting. She's right, scream "FIRE" and keep screaming it till help comes.
But for those of us who have unfortunately been through this creepy stalker stuff before, we're less hesitant to cut off all contact fast, esp. with a just-met person.
Just my opinion, but prior to contacting the police perhaps you could send a text (only if he texts you again) and simply ask that he not contact you as he has made the situation uncomfortable for you. Then if he ignores you, make a complaint with the police. As of now, it sounds like it he has not been told that he has made you uncomfortable with his texting and comments.
Sounds like an overly nerdy socially awkward harmless but annoying dingbat. The problem with people like him is you have to get ugly to make them leave you alone.
Just bore him with text replies. IE. when he text you, text him back yea I'm good, busy at work, or WE. Next time yea hope your are good too, I have to help my mom today, see ya.etc...
Just keep him a arms length away and he will get bored with you and move on to someone else he can actually manipulate, cause that's what he's trying to do.
Next time he wants to get together, say my dad is on his way over, etc. brother, sister, BBF. Just keep putting off, he'll move on, and no, you can't ask me how I know this either;)
Summit, that is the most passive aggressive wishy washy thing I have EVER heard :lol:
Yelling "help" didn't do me a whole lot of good when a drunk creep mistook me for someone else, grabbed my arm and shook me and screamed in my face while yanking me so hard I was nearly falling. I was in a crowd--it was a fireworks display and it hadn't started so there was no excuse that people didn't hear me. I was screaming I didn't know him and begging for help. People just stood and stared. I was 8 months pregnant.
I finally punched him, thankfully hard enough to get through his drunken stupidity, and he ran. I sat down and cried. Not one person came to see if I was okay. I don't think crowds or yelling "help" always works.
I do not know the psychological term for it, but with stalkers, anything you say or do to them, even in anger, causes them to be more determined to win you over for whatever purpose they have in mind for you. You don't presume that someone who acts like this is i"socially awkward." You presume that he is mentally disturbed. And fixated on you. No contact with him, no texts, no conversations, no nothing. Go to the cops in person and let them go talk to him. They will let you know if he's been arrested before. Heck, he could have lots of pix of you in his apt. And he may have plans for you that don't include dinner and roses. Too many dangerous people walking around this world. If you guys ever worked in law enforcement, you'd be freaked out by how many criminals and crazies are out there.
Here's an example: Young Woman in Atlanta goes to the upscale dating bar near her upscale apt. She meets cute nice guy, early 20s. They date for 2 weeks. She introduces him to her mother. Cops get call one day to apt complex. Cute guy is sitting in parking lot with part of the woman's liver in a glass jar, and he's cut off his own thumb with the big knife he had. Woman's body is found in her apt, dismembered. Her heart was never found. Turns out, cute guy from "good family" had murdered his grandparents in FL as a juvie, so when he got out at 21, from insanity plea as juvie down there, his parents paid him to move to Atlanta and supported him there. Parents were afraid of him. Not my case, but was a case in our office. I used to think that we should choose our friends by our own instincts when we meet people. After that case, I decided I wanted to run the prints of every man I dated. And meet his family to make sure he'd not killed off any family members.
And in any event, if this guy does have stalker-ish tendency or is somewhat unhinged, this will probably be perceived as an expression of interest. We're talking about a guy that by all accounts isn't very good at reading social cues.
In a pinch, though, don't not yell because you think no one will help. Scream your head off. If you don't it may be taken as consent.
'Not fair indeed, but reality. We have to deal with what is happening, not what should be happening.'
Hey that's a brilliant line, may I use it?
And Mother Mary and Joseph , the way some of you are suggesting the OP respond makes me realize how creeps get away with this nonsense!
All the damn texting. Don't answer.
Plain and simple. If he calls you say I am really sorry, MY life is too busy right now to get involved. End of subject. Find a new dog park.
thanks for all the support and good ideas everyone....I am more aware and don't feel so silly being a bit concerned by this.