Getting a second vet opinion, courtesy/communication suggestions?
It appears that my pony has re-tweaked his suspensory injury from 2 years ago (hindlimb proximal suspensory desmitis). I'm feeling less than optimistic about him coming back easily and, at this point, would honestly rather turn him out for a year or two and let him heal properly before bringing him back into light work (he really does love to work, so I think it would keep him happy). My vet is an excellent lameness vet with great respect in the industry. He believes my pony can recover from this easily and while I trust his expert opinion, my gut just isn't so sure. My coach gave me the name of another very excellent lameness vet if I wanted to get a second opinion. This vet used to work in the same clinic as my current vet and left to start his own practice.
I've never gotten a second opinion from a separate vet without my primary vet referring me to them. What is the best way to go about this communication-wise? I do not want to offend my current lameness vet or make it sound like I'm doubting his expertise, because I am not. I just feel that I could benefit from a fresh set of eyes and potentially different perspective. Is it proper to give my current vet a heads up that I am seeking a second opinion, or is that my own business? I don't want to seem like I'm being sneaky. I love all the equine professionals I use and I want to treat them with the utmost respect!