Asking the Free Leaser to Help Out with Chores
For the last 2 years we have given a very nice college student a free lease on one of our horses. She is the nicest person you could ever have around. We pay for lessons and shows. She has done a great job with the horse. Since she doesn't have any money I've also given her old britches, old boots, let her use my helmet, show jacket, show shirt, etc.
(and its nice to have someone to go to the occasional show with, even though that hasn't worked out for me to go all friggin' year).
For a while now I have been feeling resentful at times that I do all the chores and farm work, and, since time & energy is limited, that means I usually don't ride. She shows up and rides and then leaves.
Last summer I asked her to learn how to drive the mini tractor and start raking the ring. This was a step toward making the chores more fair, and preventing my "Why do I have to do all the work and she just rides" resentment. She said she would learn to do the ring raking, but never did.
On one hand I feel guilty about being resentful and asking her to do more chores, because it has been really nice to have a friend to ride with on occasion, and you couldn't find someone nicer than her to have at your farm. (and she has done a nice job with the horse).
But I have to admit I'm getting too resentful at being the one who does all the chores <and never rides>, so I've basically decided that its time for me to ask her to do some stuff.
We pay her for horse sitting when we go away, and in hindsight, we probably shouldn't pay her for that. I also pay her to ride my older horse a couple of times a week - its important that he stays in work to keep fit. In hindsight I should have asked her to do that in return for the free lease/lessons/shows. Everything is clear in hindsight, right?