another no good deed thread, advice?
obviously this is a much longer story than I care to type, or you care to read, but the short of it is::
my son started dating a girl in Aug., he met her at a horse show
first time he's shown an interest in a "horsey girl", but she lives quite a distance away, about 1 1/2 hrs, so after a few weeks, AGAINST my better judgement, she moves in.
we (she and I) had a conversation about bartering her rent off in lieu of her working my horses, as this family is in crisis mode, and I don't have time to spend with them like I normally do.
~~~ because, my husband has lymphoma, is getting some pretty aggressive chemo, is out on disability, and I'm working extra hours to cover some of his lost income.
I have an OTTB 5yr old gelding who needs some retraining, and a 2 1/2 yr old appendix filly who needs to be started.
she moved in in late Sept or early Oct. I think she rode the gelding a total of 4 times. worked the filly on the lunge line probably 6 times, total, thru the end of Dec.
okay, still with me? so, she buys a pony, needs a place to put it. yes, you can put your pony in our paddock, you need to cover the costs of hay/grain and keep the paddock clean. almost immediately I have to start reminding them (her and son) paddock needs cleaned, more than once a week, or even two weeks. THEN she's having issues at the barn she boards her other pony, so that one comes here too. same discussion, she needs to cover costs. I SHOULD HAVE SAID YOU NEED TO PAY ME X AMOUNT A MONTH, but I didn't . every couple of weeks she would pick up a bag of grain or two, and once she bought a big bale of hay 700lbs/$100, this was shared between her ponies and my horses, to cover some of what I had been feeding her ponies.
here's where I need advice:: I finally sat them down and said "I can't front the cash for your ponies hay and grain any more, we dont' have it. You need to start paying $225 each per month for your ponies. She had a fit!! absolute hissy fit. told my son "why should she pay when she's helped with the horses, cleaned stalls a couple of times, etc" and she got really mad at him when he went to get me a load of hay, saying "I don't know why you don't make your mother get her own hay" you help too much. (just to be clear, he moved in with us TO HELP while his father is out of commission)
and moved out. now, I sent her a bill via email detailing exactly what I fed her ponies, and the costs, for Dec. and Jan. and let her know I expect her to pay rent for Dec. when she was too busy working another job to do anything with my horses, and she was also too busy to care for her ponies, so I've been feeding, watering, etc all by myself since.
I know she's going to argue having to pay, my son gave me the heads up, so what would you advise? I'm having a hard enough time feeding MY horses, (one is on the market as I know I can't afford to keep) she knows this, how on earth would she expect that I could afford to feed hers?!
obviously my husband and I feel totally taken advantage of,, and I really want her ponies out of here NOW but I'm afraid to let them go without having all the cash in hand.
(so much for being a short story, huh? )