No, that's not life. Just because everybody else gets flogged doesn't mean it's right to continue doing it to the next person that comes along. And people shouldn't have to deal with it in the first place. As a horse person you should know that not all horses learn the same way. People are the same. There are some horses/people that can handle a more militant training style, and others that need a more reassuring style.
If she is still reading, just know anyone on this board, if they have bought/sold/ridden/trained/raised/etc., every last one of us have an experience(s) of learning the hard way, no matter how we've tried to get it right. Well, basically, that's life. Learn from it and move on.
Hope she finds the right horse.
You are my hero. This is exactly what I'm talking about.
No one can accuse me of excess finesse or tact.:) (I am working on it, I swear:yes:)
However... many, many, many people repeatedly bonking someone over the proverbial discussion board head does not seem to work as a communication method.
I am a little confused why, when a certain idea has been expressed many times already, people feel the need to express that (negative) sentiment over again, and again, and again, and again.
I think it is just lazy. And self indulgent. Easier to give in to knee jerk emotional nastiness than to take the time to come up with productive ideas. Easier to add your voice to the mob.
But what is the result? The OP has left. And now everyone can sit around and say what a pathetic looser and jerk they are. So what? Did you win? Is that the goal? To ally yourself with the winning side?