Should I tell him why I won't marry him (right now)
SO is my true love. I love him with the only condition being that he be him. Marrying him is for me entirely conditional. I do want to marry him, but not if he won't agree to some things. He's an addict and has lied to me about it. He isn't using now - I don't think - but I feel he has to take more responsibility for his addiction and seek help, if he needs it. He is a very sweet man and is a magnet for bullies and abusive relationships. I feel he needs to have more judgment about people and I'm not willing to go through life dealing with a revolving collection of monsters he thinks are his friends. Aside from this, we have a great relationship, but it is great partly because I can go home. I don't know how to tell him how I feel without him feeling judged. He has made a great effort to maintain his recovery, but the psychos and freaks keep multiplying. I know it is wrong to blame him for being a victim, but I just can't have that in my life, where I have nowhere to go that isn't "ours."