let's back up one step, what does the divorce decree say? If it says in writing send it to her; if she doesn't respond in a timely manor contact the court that handle the divorce ...let the judge bang on her head a few times
Also, just do not send the kids (which are being used a pawns in this power battle)
He's on the phone w/ her now. Out of ear shot. Thank God else I'd be yelling eh?
Well, I hope he does his part and I really do agree that you shouldn't have to deal with her if at all possible. She obviously doesn't respect you and is going out of her way to cause problems for you.
It's the same thing I do with manipulative bosses...everything in writing. It has saved me many times.
Gee "BuddyRoo", you've gotten tons of great advice here. All I can add is to light a friggin fire under your husband's ass & get him to take care of all this sh*t all by his itty bitty witty self. You really shouldn't be under all this stress thanks to his mentally unstable ex-wife & his spawn - regardless of how much you love the kids.