Barn spies, how many of you have them at your barn?
When I pulled up at the barn today, I was greeted by what I thought was a rather bizarre sight. A horse, a young warmblood gelding, who's owners didn't want it and told the BO to give it away, was tied to a tree outside the gate, where people drive up and park their cars. A strange man and boy were driving in a truck slowly down the drive and stopped and got out. I asked him if I could help, and he said, that's my horse. OK, I notice everyone at the barn was ignoring it, and he was calling trying to get the horse's papers (the horse had been imported) from the BO. I was just gobsmacked to see this horse who has had behavior issues was tied out there to a tree, where he could definitely have gotten into trouble, instead of waiting in his stall or a paddock. The man said he was going to take him to his house not far away, his little boy leading him from the back of his truck. He has the intention of selling the horse on. He wasn't really clear on what kind of horse it is, just a horse to him. I said good luck, he's very green and a handful. I actually said he had a lot of blood. Also, the horse hadn't been out much and to be careful on the road with him. I personally hate to ride along the road because people actually try to run you down. For example, just yesterday, I was riding in the field by the road, and a car comes along, slows and rolls down its window so 2 huge dogs in the back of the car could bark at us.
So the man took away the horse, and that was that. Of course, immediately the barn owner calls and asks what concern it was of mine that the man was leading the horse down the road. So obviously someone called him to tell him I was talking to the man, since the BO wasn't at the barn. I retorted, the man took the horse away and why was he calling me about it?
This sort of thing happens every so often. Yes, it is believed that I talk too much, express my opinions, so the spies are always reporting about me. But I'm not the only one. It has a dampening effect on discourse, and I really hate it. So I felt doubly angry today, one because I know that horse will probably end up badly, and I couldn't do anything to prevent it (ie, buy the horse or something) and secondly because, my private conversations are reported on.
I can understand people needing to play close to the chest about their dealings. I don't think I say anything that is out of the range of normal curiosity. But all the secrecy and spying just distorts things. I reacted to a very odd looking situation, and I don't think that was unusual but I'm supposed to just turn my head and ignore it.
So, here are my questions;
- Is spying a very common thing in most barns? How do you deal with it?
- How far do you go in turning your head to situations you know aren't quite right?
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