First, she is misunderstanding what FERPA is about. Second, the district's policies are all online and there is nothing about observation. I am > < this close to insisting, but want to make sure we can't make some progress with her suggestions first. That way, if her suggestions aren't working, I can say we tried your way. I have no problem summoning my inner mama bear. I think observation *would* be helpful because I am not looking for behavioral issues, more classroom style and flow. Since he said he didn't have time to work in his journal, maybe I would see he had a chunk of time after <activity> and I could point that out to him. Etc.
I understand your concerns about Gavin. Unfortunately, it is against district policy for parents to observe the classroom. It would violate FERPA (Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act) laws for the other students in the classroom. In addition, Gavin's behavior would not be consistent knowing that you are in the room watching him, so it would not be a true reflection of what I described to you during our conferences.