WWYD? Tricky situation.. Update pg 2
Digging into an old alter with a new problem.. sorry that this is long.
Say you had this mare who you've owned for over 10 years. She's not easy, but she gave you 10+ GOOD years, taught you a lot, you know her better than anyone and want nothing but the best for her. Mare has two fabulous foals for you, first one is sold to an extremely successful show home, and you fall head over heels for the second one and decide to keep it. Mare is permanently retired from under saddle work because of an old pasture injury, has been for 5 years, and you haven't had a horse to ride since. You really miss it. Foal #2 is talented, gorgeous, promising, and exactly what you could ever hope for.
You are a young working professional on a tight budget, and you can't keep two horses. You could, but it is tight. You decide Mare should go to a new home where she can be super spoiled, have a couple more foals (genuinely nice, registered mare) and be retired. You advertise her for a while (over a year), she is listed as a giveaway (good home most important). You have high standards, lots of scary yahoos come to see her, you turn a few people down.
Finally someone comes out to see her, wants to breed her. Person is very nice, kind of clueless but lots of money, lots of resources, good intentions, and lives close by. You are living pay check to pay check, and while your horses live in luxury, you are POOR. You decide to sign papers over to new person and want to start living like a normal adult with only one other horsey mouth to feed.
Horse loads up and leaves within a few days. She has since been bred and may be in foal. HOWEVER... at this point you feel like you have made a huge mistake. Mare has already lost some weight since you last saw her, was ungroomed, itchy, stuck in a stall, and literally called out to you as you were leaving the barn (which she never does). You drive home in tears.
Person emails you today and basically says that she may just want to lease Mare for the year on a breeding lease if that's something you are interested in doing. Otherwise she is happy to send papers off for Mare and proceed to full, official, no-turning-back ownership. If leased, Mare would come back to your barn from breeding barn, everything to return to normal, Person would pay full board until foal is weaned, but then you are back to paying for two horses again. If Person proceeds to full-ownership, Mare will go to her place from breeding barn, where she shares a fence line with a stallion (!) and her pasture buddy will be an unaltered, though supposedly sterile jack donkey. Mare would foal out at Person's place and the thought of something going wrong during foaling and Person not knowing what to do, makes you sick to your stomach. You weren't 100% aware of this set-up, as Person has four other horses boarded at various other barns in the area and you assumed Mare would be going to stay at one of those (very reputable) locations.
- Leave Mare as is with current person and hope for the best
- Sell Foal #2, give up all your dreams and keep Mare after her 2013 foal is weaned
- Keep both Mare and Foal #2 and work your freaking ass off to make ends meet once her foal is weaned. You don't really want to do this because it really sucks.
My mind is reeling, but I think I kind of already know what I want to do..