Marriage: when to call it quits?
Some of you probably remember my post from last OT day. Hubby has next to no motivation, enjoys doing nothing, doesn't do anything I ask without me yelling, and thinks minimum-wage jobs are now his calling in life (because I told him not working is not an option, otherwise he would go with that option).
Well, 2 weeks ago we had a HUGE fight. I blew up over nothing and everything. I've tried asking nicely, I've tried begging, yelling seems to be the only thing that works, and sometimes that's iffy, and I finally just had enough.
Since then, he's gotten slightly better, but still refuses to do much other than minimum-wage jobs. He thinks he can put in a year or so and work his way up into management, with no college, no experience. Won't consider going back to school because he's afraid he will fail. Now, he's not dumb. Just frickin lazy. He can memorize about anything, though he doesn't THINK about anything before he does it.
I guess we are going to call a marriage counselor, but when I brought up divorce he tried to give me his TV because "he would never need it again since he would move back in with his parents". Um, there is this thing called being an adult, and it doesn't involve a long-term desire to live with mommy and daddy. I've tried talking to him about this, and it goes right over his head. He just stares at me blankly. Meanwhile I work 60 hrs a week, and work hard, to pay the bills. If given the option, I would rather ride horses for a living, but someone has to pay the damn bills.
When we got married, he worked for the prison and was planning to go for his sgt test, but then I lost my income and we had to move, and now he doesn't want to do anything. I never knew this about him because I didn't work, so I took care of everything at home.
Anyone had any luck getting something like this to work out?