marriage and its alternatives
There are threads about cheating spouses. A thread about being a mistress. Threads about divorces. It's insane! What is it about making a commitment and being in a relationship that makes it so hard! Granted maybe I am naive... I'm 40 and have been married for only 18 months (together for 4 years now). It just seems sad to me that folks can't seem to make life together work.
Which brings me to the real subject of this post. Divorce is on the rise... Adultery is a main cause of most divorces... And Serial Monogamy seems to be the relationship style of most people anymore (the "I'm faithful to him/her... until something better comes along, then I'll break it off with this person to be faithful to that one"). So I ask... why are so many people against "alternatives"? What about a couple having an open marriage makes people FREAK OUT so badly?
I have my own opinions on the subject and no one is likely to change my mind so I'm not entirely sure what I'm asking for here... maybe a debate? maybe just a poll to see where Coth folks stand? I dunno. I do know that reading some of the off topic posts about cheaters and divorces makes me wonder why people DON'T think about alternatives if they're unhappy.
who is to say , if it works for them?
If a couple finds an arrangement which, works for them:yes: and harms :no:no one ; who is to judge their arrangement as unacceptable or not:no:, assuming:mad: that any children are well cared for?