Help, rider /trainer confusion
I will apologize first because this will be long.
My daughter is 12, she recently got a new large green pony. Pony is safe and sane but GREEN. She has ridden only occasionally over the past 2 years ( bad experience with a green horse) she loves her new pony.
The issue we are having is; I have ridden for over 20 years and was trained by my mom. My mom is a great trainer, she loves what she does and she wants the kids to ride well. Flat work is KEY in making up a young horse/pony, and she knows this. My mom can be harsh or IMO direct, I have spent the past 35 yrs riding with her so I know and understand her , my daughter gets VERY upset by her tactics. She tends to "shut down" when my mom starts barking instructions. I have spoken with my mom about this and she is trying, today she explained things very clearly and spoke in a more quiet tone. But pony was being a brat today and Meg did not have a great ride. This is par for the course with a green pony, but add the tension between her and grandma and it was ugly after the ride( Meg was upset and frustrated saying grandma does not explain what she wants me to do and then when I do what she says she changes it!)
I don't know what to do, my mom is the trainer on our farm, and I think if I add my instruction to the mix Meg will be even more confused. Do I tell her to suck it up and learn? that is what I had to do,and it has taken me quite far LOL! Yes she is strict and can be abrasive but she knows her stuff! How so I convince Meg that grandma IS the right person for the job and if she would just not take everything so personally and LISTEN things will move along much faster???
thanks any help or ideas appreciated!