Cactuskate

[mbamissaz]

This truly wonderful woman lost her battle with cancer over the weekend. I know that many of you knew her on this forum as she spent alot of time providing advice and giving her insight here. For those of you who were lucky enough to know her personally, I don't have to tell you what an incredibly inspiring person she was. For those of you who know her through this forum, I am sure she has touched many of you in other ways. I posted this message to you all because I believe she viewed many of you as "family", and would want you all to know. Her strength through this illness was remarkable, and I never once saw her get down about it. Because of her, I will now do my best to live each day to the fullest, and I won't worry about the small stuff anymore. I hope you all do the same. She will forever be missed....

[mbamissaz]

This truly wonderful woman lost her battle with cancer over the weekend. I know that many of you knew her on this forum as she spent alot of time providing advice and giving her insight here. For those of you who were lucky enough to know her personally, I don't have to tell you what an incredibly inspiring person she was. For those of you who know her through this forum, I am sure she has touched many of you in other ways. I posted this message to you all because I believe she viewed many of you as "family", and would want you all to know. Her strength through this illness was remarkable, and I never once saw her get down about it. Because of her, I will now do my best to live each day to the fullest, and I won't worry about the small stuff anymore. I hope you all do the same. She will forever be missed....

[FairWeather]

I'm so sorry. I dont know what to say. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif
Ugh...this is just making me so sad. The picture of her riding that big horse with an oxygen tank on her back is ingrained in my memory.


Always,
FairWeather
"Just call me mint jelly cuz i'm on the lamb!--Grandpa
http://www.fairweather-farm.com

[This message was edited by FairWeather on Apr. 16, 2002 at 09:12 AM.]

[Erin]

Oh no... /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

Thank you for letting us know.

[jacksmom]

very sad news.

[Quinn]

Rather puts everything in perspective doesn't it? May God rest her soul.

[Everythingbutwings]

Oh she will be missed.

From our "Trip across the border" back in February:

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR> Cactuskate: Whew, made it across the border. Those Mounties are tooooo cute.
But I fear this "desert rat" did not dress warmly enough for this climate. Must shop for some fuzzy duds.

ETBW, do you have an extra horse cooler for me to bundle up in? I'm freezing my buns off here.
But boy that breakfast buffet is sounding much better than the bowl of soggy Raisin Bran before me now. I would love to join Louise in the Eggs Benedict line.

I knew I was going to like this new board. I just realized not only did I find a host of new friends but I just peeled 30-odd years off my age.
Go EMG!!!!!!!

Stable: Legal drinking age in Canada is 28 posts Cactuskate - enjoy it while it lasts!!

Quinn: I know Cactuskate, we'll just keep changing our name and we'll stay forever young. I expect to see you shortly as calculate and I'll be schwin!

Cactuskate: Quinn, calculate would work, as I do bookkeeping. Close enough. So 28 huh? Interesting number, but hey it's Canada, eh?
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"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world, indeed, it is the only thing that ever has." Margaret Mead

[FlightCheck]

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I'm sure there were a host of critters waiting for her at the Rainbow Bridge........

[Louise]

I am so sad. We cooresponded once in a while, and I always enjoyed her sense of humor and joy in life. Good rest to a beautiful soul.

I think that maybe we should dedicate our volunteer days to her - I have a feeling that she would have been right in the middle of the activity, if she had been able.

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"We ride and never worry about the fall.
I guess that's just the cowboy in us all."
Tim McGraw

[FairWeather]

cactuskate (http://chronofhorse.infopop.net/2/OpenTopic?a=tpc&s=691099205&f=1970907951&m=8443056814&r=3083005914#3083005914)

Always,
FairWeather
"Just call me mint jelly cuz i'm on the lamb!--Grandpa
http://www.fairweather-farm.com

[Figjam]

is a warrior, She must have been very brave.

All my love goes out to her family and friends.

[Rockford]

oh no /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif She seemed like such a great person.

[Maria]

It is always so very sad to lose someone so vital and inspirational.

May she be remembered for her jest for life in times that were bleak.

If there are angels, she surly has earned her hallow.

[MGR]

I was so sad to hear this news. As FairWeather said I to will always remember "The picture of her riding that big horse with an oxygen tank on her back is ingrained in my memory." She touched many of us and will continue to with her strength. My prayers are with her family and friends. She lived life to the fullest and we should honor her by trying to do the same.

Maria

[monstrpony]

What a terrible shame, she seemed such a wonderful person, such an inspiration. She GAVE us so much with her grace.

I remember that picture, also, and always will. Her family and friends are in my thoughts today.

[Canter]

"Kate" was terribly brave. She was also incredibly good. We shall miss you, friend. I know you're in heaven, feeding apples & carrots to all the horses.

Damn, I thought she was invinceable. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

Canter/Stable

[hoopoe]

This is why I go to work every day.

I was thinking of her this weekend and was going to contact her to see if the hummingbird babies had left their nest (they were due to this weekend)

Nice image to think of all of them taking flight.

Celebrate her spirit, mourn not her loss.

_\\]
-- * > hoopoe
The ancient Greeks did not write obituaries. They only wanted to know if you had a passion.

[Tin]

Her strength, sense of humour and positive outlook during an unfair time was remarkable and I know she will not be forgotten by her COTH family.
I too, will forever have that picture of her on her horse etched in my head and will bring it into memory whenever I think I can't get through an obstacle in my life.

What a truely inspirationaly woman she is.

Never Forgotten (http://chronofhorse.infopop.net/2/OpenTopic/s/691099205/a/ga/ul/8443056814/Rocket_man_and_Bud_02_02.jpg)

[This message was edited by Tin on Apr. 16, 2002 at 10:34 AM.]

[Dementia 13]

I am so sorry. I will say a prayer for her soul.



"What lamp has destiny to guide her little children stumbling in the dark?"

[akrogirl]

I had the pleasure of meeting Cactuskate last year at the US Grand Prix and it is hard to accept that someone with so much vitality is no longer with us /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif She will definitely not be forgotten on this BB.

[Bumpkin]

Oh I am so sorry to hear this.
I was just thinking about her this morning when I woke up and was going to post asking how she was doing.
My prayers and thoughts are with her and her family. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif
I never got to meet her, but felt I knew her through the BB and our PNW connection.

[Nirvana]

Oh dear....that's truly horrible, and she will be forever missed here and in the "real" world. She was certainly an infinitely kind person; she even emailed me once or twice when I posted about feeling down in the dumps from the PNW weather, life, etc. She was amazingly kindhearted, a real fighter, and a wonderful person whose absence will be felt by us all for a long time to come. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

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[Heidi]

I gasped when I opened this thread - how terribly, utterly sad. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

I was wondering about her yesterday, as I hadn't received a recent email update on her health, and thought to myself that she was probably too busy riding her beloved horse - complete with oxygen tank.

She made me laugh, smile, think; and while battling her own health problems, reached out to comfort me when my family went through a terrible February of health crises.

I will miss her terribly and am baffled that she's no longer with us.

[Courtknee202]

Those pictures of her on her horse are bringing me to tears. What a wonderful woman, she will never be forgotten.

[Everythingbutwings]

Thank you for taking the time to let us know of her passing.

She had so much to share with us all and was so kind, considerate and enthusiastic about living life to it's fullest.

Please let us know if there is to be a memorial or service so we can send more than our thoughts to others whom she cherished.

Fly little hummingbird.

"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world, indeed, it is the only thing that ever has." Margaret Mead

[Erin]

Here's the thread with the "rocket man" pictures, for those who might have missed it the first time.

An absent BB'er checks in, bring curb chain and thank Sister Louise and Sister Heidi (http://chronofhorse.infopop.net/2/OpenTopic?a=tpc&s=691099205&f=1970907951&m=8443056814)

[Merlin]

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I don't know what to say, except that she will be missed...

[PaulaM]

My thoughts and prayers go out to her family. It is always hard to lose a loved one to Cancer.

[HN73]

Though I never met her, I am glad to have shared "cyber" space with her. I hope, should the time ever come, I might be as brave as she.

***I used to have a handle on life, but it broke.***

[Duffy]

OMG /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif When I saw the thread title, I started to shake. My heart goes out to her family. May all of us gain strength from her battle.

[DMK]

MGR - you said it - that picture of Cactuskate riding complete with her oxygen tanks truly put my life in perspective, and gave me insight into what true courage is all about.

If anyone has any contact with Kate's family and "non-cyber" friends, please let them know that she will be truly missed by many, and our thoughts and prayers are with her family and friends.

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"You can pretend to be serious; you can't pretend to be witty. "
- Sacha Guitry (1885-1957) *

[dublin]

but right now I am trying very hard to just focus on what a wonderful, funny person she was.

My thoughts and prayers go out to her husband Gary, and all her family and friends.

Rest in peace, Kath.

[Pixie Dust]

I didn't think this would happen....I'm so sorry. I'm glad to have known her even if so brief.

Superheroes of the universe, unite!

http://hometown.aol.com/bgoosewood/index.html

[867-5309]

Very sorry to hear of this.....

[Sparky22]

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I would sooner fail than not be among the greatest
-- John Keats

[gwen]

OH goodness....alteast she is not in pain anymore...which is the most wonderful thing. I feel so quilty, here I post about nonsense and un-important things and there are people who are going through such hard times and continue to post such positive things... /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

My thoughts and prayers are with her family!

**BARB***

House hunting on Long Island....we're looking at cardboard boxes..since that's all we can afford in a nice area....:)

[Portia]

Oh no. May she rest in peace, free of pain and worry.

Please let her family and friends know that she had many friends she never met, who cared about her and recognized her courage and grace.

Rest in peace, Cactuskate.

[vineyridge]

Touched by her humor and zest for life
Touched by her kindness and courage

Saddened by her death

She will be missed
In this place in cyberspace.

[JB]

I can't believe this happened - I was just thinking of her this weekend, thinking it was about time for another update on her therapy trip. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif It honestly never occurred to me that she'd never be sending out another update - she just seemed to strong for that. May Kathy find all her loved animals over the Rainbow Bridge. *sniff*

[kt]

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I too will never, ever forget those pictures of her riding with an oxygen tank. She obviously touched many lives. My thoughts and prayers are with her family.

[Pocket Pony]

She will be truly missed. She was so brave and strong, this news strikes me as sudden and shocking. I have no words... /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

* I like long walks, especially when they are taken by people who annoy me. *

[Janet]

What a loss.

2002 has been LOUSY year so far. Too many deaths.

[AAJumper]

I am so sad. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif I was thinking about her the other day, wondering why I hadn't received an update in a while. That is such sad, sad news. I knew I shouldn't have checked the BB at work this morning. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

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[Sandbarhorse]

I really didn't have much contact with Cactuskate, but the posts I've read and all your posts here make me wish that I'd known her!!

I hope that if I'm ever faced with a similar situation that I will have her grace and courage!

Mnay prayers for her family.

[Remi and me]

However, I know that she is no longer in any pain.
My prayers to her family and friends.

[Merry]

I was lucky to have met Kathy at LAEC when I was covering the dressage freestyle championship. We sat together for a while, chatted, and I even told her a few naughty jokes that made her laugh. /infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

We corresponded over the phone, and I interviewed her for a possible upcoming book. Why? Because I want to immortalize people like her whose passion for riding and horses is their life's blood. She was truly a wonderful lady. I play her voice back on my tape recorder, and it's like she's still there, still chatting about how her first word as a toddler was "thorse": Every creature she saw that had four legs was automatically a "thorse".

She loved her husband. She called him "a saint" for standing by her and keeping her sense of humor and self-worth in check. She enjoyed the BB and everyone here.

My life was enriched by having crossed paths with her, and I'm quite certain we'll meet again. /infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

[Duramax]

I was reading this thread with tears streaming down my face. So sad.

We'll miss you.

Why can't my horse just be normal?? /infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif

[Inverness]

Though nothing can bring back the hour
Of splendour in the grass, of glory in the flower;
We will grieve not, rather find
Strength in what remains behind;
In the primal sympathy
Which having been must ever be;
In the soothing thoughts that spring
Out of human suffering;
In the faith that looks through death,
In years that bring the philosophic mind.

Ode. Intimations of Immortality
William Wordsworth, (1770-1850)

Thanks for the laughs, Cactuskate.

[Seven]

Wow. Not the news I was expecting (or hoping for) when I opened this thread.

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My thoughts and prayers are with her family, as she must be in a far better place now.

[wadino]

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-Ryan

My VERY UN-expert opinion.

[mwalshe]

Oh no, I am so very very sorry. I too will always remember the inspirational Rocketman pictures. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

My condolences to Castuskate's husband, family and friends.

[InWhyCee]

I just saw the "rocketman" pics of her on her horse for the first time -- that's a confidence, bravery, and optimism rarely seen. Truly sad reminder that life can be too short.
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"It is by no means the privilege of the rider to part with his horse solely by his own will." -- Alois Podhajsky

"Go on, Bill... This is no place for a pony."

[gwen]

Can someone post those pictures??? I need to be inspired!!! I can't seem to find them! What a strong woman!!!! I could only hope to be as stong as she was.

**BARB***

House hunting on Long Island....we're looking at cardboard boxes..since that's all we can afford in a nice area....:)

[dublin]

Gwen, see Tin's post on pg. 1, with the link 'Never Forgotten'.

And here is a picture of her showing her beloved Clownin' in Oregon in 1984. I know she is having a wonderful ride on him in heaven right now.... /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[gwen]

OH, thank you!! I now have the chills! What a wonderful woman! She just didn't give up something she truley loved..Now she can ride her old horse all she wants!!!!!

**BARB***

House hunting on Long Island....we're looking at cardboard boxes..since that's all we can afford in a nice area....:)

[Merry]

Inverness, that was a beautiful poem with a wonderful insight and sentiment. Thanks for sharing.

Let's all go out and ride today full of joy for the chance to feel alive on the back of our horses. I'm sure Kathy would love to look down and see us all. /infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

[Coreene]

So pleased to have known her. So honored to have called her a friend.

[doubletake]

I'm sorry /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif My thoughts go out to her family and friends. This BB won't forget her, she will be greatly missed. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

[Portia]

Gwen, look at the first post on the thread "An absent bulletin boarder checks in..." It's been bumped up. The "rocketman" picture is an attachment.

[Bensmom]

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Thanks for posting the pics and for sharing your visit with her, Merry and thanks for memorializing her and others like her by capturing their stories in print.

I am so sorry to read this and I too have been inspired by the "Rocket Man" pics.

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Libby

[L Scott]

That is how I always manage to read her BB name.

I am very sad and send my best wishes to her family and friends.

[neighsayer]

My heart goes out to her family. I lost my mother 2 years ago to cancer. It is a disease that is very hard on all those around and especially the afflicted. I hope Kate is enjoying a wonderful hack in heaven.

I personally will kiss my husband, give the dog half my food tonight, and bring my horse his favourite treat.

We all need to slow down and focus on the important things. Family and friends.

[rockstar]

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[muley1]

I was just thinking about her this last weekend.
She really shined on this board. It's very hard to accept sometimes that we're all mortal.. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

[Chef Jade]

I am so blessed I had the opportunity to meet Cactuskate. I hope that we all have the same will and perseverence to climb onto our trusty steeds until the very end. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

Come and visit the horses at: http://www.angelfire.com/ca2/CrossCreek

[Robby Johnson]

Cactuskate! You will always be remembered here, by us. Thank you for being strong, for being an inspiration, for being you!

I know this sounds hokey, but I recently did a will and in it I specified that if something happened to me The Chronicle needed to be notified.

Why did I do that? Because you all here are a real virtual group of friends and I would want to know about you too.

I'm so happy we were able to know that Cactuskate passed away. Because we could celebrate her and remark openly about her and what strength she brought to our bb. I would never want to think that she just stopped posting.

I'm giving virtual hugs to everyone. We have lost one of our own and it makes me appreciate you all very much.

Robby

[Coreene]

I have tried and tried to compose a letter to John Strassburger, but I can't make it come out right.

Erin, any pull here? I think the Rocketman photo needs to be immortalized in print as well.

What will happen to Bud? I am sure that Kathy had everything taken care of, but I would like to know.

[AAJumper]

Here's a pic that Taryn posted of the group at The Oaks International, when some of us BB'ers met.

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[Coreene]

That was such a fun day. I am so glad that we all met up that day, I will never forget it.

[AAJumper]

I'm glad that we were all able to meet too Coreene, but I'm sad that our meeting was so short. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

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[Coreene]

We will have a big margarita in her honor. I am sure she will be looking down from Heaven and loving every minute of it.

[Heather]

I haven't posted anything yet, because its hard to know what to say.

Cactuskate was a stand out on the board, and though I didn't "know" her, I certainly remember her. My heart goes out to her "real friends and family" as well as our virtual family here, who has lost such a light.

I lost my granfather to this same dastardly ailment, so while I am sad, I know she is much better off where she is now.

And l scot, it took me a long time get Cactus Kate too, LOL.

I honor a brave, great, funny lady.

[Weatherford]

God Bless

[Janeway]

I became fond of CactusKate from the moment I first saw her fun & unique name, and it was lovely to find out she had a personality to match. Although I did not know her except from reading her posts, I too will miss her.

My thoughts are with her family and loved ones.

[suecoo]

I am very saddened by this news. May God hold her near and bless her family and friends. I too will always picture the Rocketwoman photo. She was a beautiful person both inside and out. May she rest in peace. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

Member Of The Texas Clique & BEQS

[bucksnort]

Her strenght and grace were amazing. May everyone that knew her be proud of her in this hard time. God Bless.

~~Bucksnort~~

[Ghazzu]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by mbamissaz:
This truly wonderful woman lost her battle with cancer over the weekend...<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

I was afraid when I saw the subject title that this was going to be the news.

I never met her in person, but if she was half as nice in the flesh as she was here, her real life friends have lost bigtime.

[Portia]

Coreene posted this on the "here's to you, Cactuskate" thread, which is a celebration of her humour.

This is just the last line of Coreene's post, but it is so touching, we should all see it. (Yes, it will bring tears to your eyes.)


<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR> Originally posted by Coreene:

The jangling curb chains worked for Cactuskate. They did not make her cancer go away, but they were the music for her life.

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[Beezer]

Unlike Merry, I never got to meet Kathy in person, only on the BB. (And I, too, always seemed to misread her screen name ... I couldn't quite figure out what a "cactu skate" was.) But even via computer, I could tell that she was someone who I would have been honored to call "friend."

What's the adage? You can tell a lot about a person by the company she keeps? I think that judging by how deeply we're feeling her passing, we can tell a lot about Kathy ... or, as she'll always be to me, Cactu Skate.

Put the jumps up in Heaven, get the dressage court ready ... Kathy wants to ride. And that's the way I want to remember her.


"When I can't ride anymore, I shall still keep horses as long as I can hobble about with a bucket and wheelbarrow. When I can't hobble, I shall roll my wheelchair out to the fence of the field where my horses graze, and watch them." -- Monica Dickens

[ErinB]

Of opening the other thread on this subject before seeing this one. I guess I knew this would happen but never this soon. Then, I don't think anyone expects it.

I can't see the people that post here. For some reason that makes me think they're invincible. MissD almost proved me wrong and then Cactuskate... /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

Cactuskate was a wonderful person and I'm so happy I got to know her. She always made me smile! /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

~Erin B #1
A priest, a nun, an Irishman, a Scotsman, a cowboy, a lawyer, a salesman, and a blonde all walk in to a bar. The bartender says, "Hey, is this some kind of joke?"

[NoGreatMischief]

My heart goes out to her family. What a truly inspiring lady. /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

~Katie~
"The earth shook, the beach grass trembled, he propelled himself forward, and he flew." ~Mark Helprin

[JustaLurker]

I was so sorry to find this topic today and join you all in mourning the passing of a marvelous, strong, courageous person, CactusKate, though I always seemed to see it as Cactus Gate.

I heartily agree that the inspirational Rocketman photo needs to be included in a richly deserved Chronicle obituary.

My condolences go out to her family.

[Blondie22]

What a horrible shame. My condolences to her family and friends.

Kelly
~Just My Luck~
~Silver Edition~

[Coreene]

Because I, blonde, do not get "Cactu Skate" at all. But she would have expected this of me.

[Heidi]

I wanted to post this email from Kathy, which she'd sent out in March. It sums up, in her own words, her amazing courage, grace, and humour.

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Greetings all;

Well we are back from our March rendevouz at the Mayo clinic. We should have been back last Thursday, but my white count was down so I had to take some Neupogen injections daily to get it back up there. Thank goodness it responded since I told my doctors I was not leaving Phoenix until I got my "Mayo Fix". I might be one of the few people that actual beg for Chemo treatments. <grin> We didn't start until Friday so that meant Fri, Sat, Sun.

Test results from the Monday there were good. Did a CT scan, bone scan and chest X-ray. Everything showed some sign of improvement somewhere. So we are scheduled to go back April 2nd.

I am getting a little concerned though. That god-awful "barium milkshake" I have to drink for the CT scan didn't taste that bad. I would hate to think I am developing a taste for the stuff. Yuk.

Still no yukky side effects. Haven't lost any more of my fuzz for hair. My breathing has gotten a little labored if I exert myself. But I do have the portable oxygen when I go out and I have a machine with a 50' "leash" at home. It does help. I just remind myself I don't dash anywhere. What's the rush?

Spring has hit the desert. It is a small window you
know. Weather was 87 degrees yesterday. Unfortunately the wind was blowing like a son of a gun today so I laid low. Hopefully it will break by the weekend. Bud needs a bath soooo bad. He is shedding like crazy, since I didn't body clip this year. My friends are helping with that task.

Hope this finds all of you in good shape and spirits.

Things are good in the desert.

Hugs and kisses, Kath
<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Agree with coreene and JustaLurker - think it very fitting to memorialize Kathy in the COTH.

[lilblackhorse]

damn....maybe that's why I was thinking of her yesterday, when I hadn't for awhile. Met some lovely folks who are from the Tacoma Polo Club, and they had lived here in Bend, where Kate was from (which is why I began the connection, loose as it was, with her via email).

Her brother lives here, don't know about her parents, will check our paper for an obit to share. Damn again, I am very sad, but pleased she will be able to be met by all her friends and animals who have passed before her.

Cheers Kate!

The gene pool could use a little chlorine.

[ErinB]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>
She's still making me laugh

Because I, blonde, do not get "Cactu Skate" at all. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

You're kidding, right? /infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

~Erin B #1
A priest, a nun, an Irishman, a Scotsman, a cowboy, a lawyer, a salesman, and a blonde all walk in to a bar. The bartender says, "Hey, is this some kind of joke?"

[Multiple Choice]

I truly admire her strength and endurance throughout her disease. I hope that if I am ever faced in such a predicament that I too will be able to fall in her foorsteps. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif We will all miss her...

*Sarah Beth*
"You know, Hobbes, some days even my lucky rocketship underpants don't help."
-Calvin and Hobbes

[Coreene]

I am completely devoid of it. I very rarely get it. Ask Colin.

[ErinB]

But if you aren't, um, I think it's CACTUS KATE, not "Cactu Skate". /infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif But hey, I could be wrong!

~Erin B #1
A priest, a nun, an Irishman, a Scotsman, a cowboy, a lawyer, a salesman, and a blonde all walk in to a bar. The bartender says, "Hey, is this some kind of joke?"

[Coreene]

To mean this = Kathy In Arizona.

Blonde blonde blonde blonde blonde.

[ErinB]

And I thought I was bad! /infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

~Erin B #1
A priest, a nun, an Irishman, a Scotsman, a cowboy, a lawyer, a salesman, and a blonde all walk in to a bar. The bartender says, "Hey, is this some kind of joke?"

[nutmeg]

The fact that you all can be so funny on this very sad thread leads me to believe that the spirit of Cactus Kate has possessed everyone here. What a wonderful legacy for her to leave.

[FatLilPony]

She was incredibly witty and funny. What a terrible loos to the world, but what a blessing it was to have her.

-The Whit
Pictures! (http://community.webshots.com/user/fatlilpony)
-When all else fails, play dead.

[Snidgie5]

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[MoReDQthanU]

Reading this whole tribute to Cactuskate accually made me cry. And i dont cry easily. I may not have known her, but she seemed like the bravest person on this planet. She was never down and even rode with her oxygen tank! My condolences to all of her family and friends

Jack Russell Terriers: They're football shaped for a reason!

[Duffy]

I keep getting drawn back to this thread again and again today. And yes, I'm crying again.

I was convinced that my deceased sister's cat was going to die on the anniversary of her death: March 24th. Now I'm hoping she'll hold on until Lorna's birthday in July.

Lorna died of brain cancer six years ago and sometimes it seems like yesterday. She was much like Kathy, from what I can tell. She fought her cancer for over 2 1/2 years and although the cancer itself changed her personality somewhat, (because of where it was in her brain), her spirit and sweetness never changed.

God, I'm so sad. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

[Fred]

I think we should all re-read Kath's post - and in tribute to her, do as she did and as she hoped we would do - live each day to the best of our ability - and try to have fun.
I lost my sister to stomach cancer, there was nothing fair about it -
This sad loss does put the day to day small details into perspective, yet again.
My sincere condolences to Kath's family.
That picture of her is burned in my heart too...

Gail

[Merry]

I've cried a couple of times today, too. Kathy sent me two photos of her on Bud, including the Rocket Man snapshot. She truly wanted to "help" other cancer victims/survivors. She said she wanted to inspire others to just keep going, to grab onto that zest for life (paraphrasing here), and if her photos and story could do that, then she considered her struggle worthwhile.

Was she great, or what? /infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

[SquishTheBunny]

Its sad to see such an amazing woman pass, but in her passing she has taught us all a valuable lesson. Live every day to the fullest, whether sick, sad, injured, whatever...always find the positive side.

Why isnt phonetics spelt the way it sounds?

[brynnabear]

My heart goes out to everyone who was ever touched by this great woman. I didn't know her personally but her humor and loving nature touched everyone on this board.

Rest in peace Cactuskate, we will miss you forever /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

[hitchinmygetalong]

From someone who only "met" her recently, I have to say I am greatly saddened by this news.

My prayers are for her family and all her friends who will miss her.

"I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning to sail my ship."
-Louisa May Alcott

[Erin]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by coreene:
I have tried and tried to compose a letter to John Strassburger, but I can't make it come out right.

Erin, any pull here? I think the Rocketman photo needs to be immortalized in print as well.
<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

I was actually thinking about this today, but didn't have a chance to shoot off an email to the COTH folks.

It would depend on whether or not her family would be willing to share the pertinent horse-related info, but I will certainly let the COTH know and see if they can do something.

They don't run pictures with obituaries, though, so the Rocketman will have to be immortalized here on the BB instead.

I'm also keeping an eye on the Yuma newspaper for an obit, and will post it here if one is printed.

[hunterested]

With heavy heart I respond by thanking Cactuskate for her informative ways and humor as well. Her health issues and passing are part of a picture much larger than we may ever understand but know that she was called for a reason and now she lives without the pain she so regally endured.

She will be missed and I, for one, am thankful for sharing the COTH bb grief with such kind and meaningful individuals. I am thankful for being able to feel our group support.

[Heidi]

I'd like to propose that we on the BB pool our financial resources and take out a half page ad in the COTH featuring the Rocketman picture of Kathy.

We'd need to get her husband's permission but I can't think of a more fitting tribute than to publicly celebrate her courage, spirit -- and creativity.

Now I'm crying. Found the obit, linked below:

http://www.yumasun.com/artman/publish/story_1041.shtml

[Tin]

That's a good idea Heidi /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

How much is a half page ad? I can't contribute much (which in US dollars is even less /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif ) but even if everyone one give a little we should be able to do it



"If at first you don't succeed, try, try again. Then give up. No use being a damned fool about it" -W.C. Fields

[Kryswyn]

An inspiration, a laugh, a shared smile at a memory. What a lady!

I hope someone can print this thread out, or email it to her husband so that he knows how many people across the globe loved Kathy and were jangling their curb chains for her. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

Robert Urich died today from a rare joint cancer which had been in remission until last year. In a soundbite from an earlier taped interview he said (in response to a question about how it felt getting 50,000 pieces of mail after the cancer news broke): "The most amazing thing was learning that love has power." Kathy knew the power of the curb chain.

Bob Urich was a horseman also; there could be worse versions of heaven than meeting Dan Tanner @ the Rainbow Bridge and going for a trail ride together!

~Kryswyn~
"Always look on the bright side of life, de doo, de doo de doo de doo"

[Palisades]

Compared with the outpouring of love and sadness here, that obituary seems so inadequate. I definitely agree that a half page ad would be a wonderful idea, and if someone let's me know where to send a donation, I'll be glad to chip in.

[Galloway]

I'm new here and unfortunately did not know Catuskate, but I find myself on the verge of tears reading the fine tributes on this thread.

How full a life to have touched so many in so many places. I know of no better tribute than what I have read in the previous pages. May her spark and obvious zest for life endure in the inspiration she has given.

God bless.

[Bumpkin]

I was thinking the same thing about Cactuskate and Robert Urich.

Heidi great idea!!!

I'm in on that just tell us where to post the donation for the COTH ad. /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[Erin]

Well, a 1/2-page COTH color ad would be about $1469. B/W would be $587.

I contacted the original poster of this thread earlier today to see if she knew if any charities had been named for donations in Kathy's memory, but haven't heard back yet.

There would always be the American Cancer Society, or maybe a horse rescue group in Arizona. Or perhaps there's some kind of fund set up in the name of Barbara Silverman, the woman who competed in dressage at Gladstone while suffering from cancer.

Those are just some ideas... I'm sure many members of the BB would be intersted in doing something... we'd just need to figure out what.

[2Dogs]

I am sitting here crying, an internist, who has been here before: but you people are something else! May Cactuskate be pain free now, with all the friends, two and four legged. They are all there with you now!

[Erin]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Palisades:
Compared with the outpouring of love and sadness here, that obituary seems so inadequate. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

I think that was just the announcement of services... there might be a more complete obituary tomorrow.

I get the old Calvin and Hobbes comic strips every morning by email... today's, which I opened before checking the BB, seems especially significant.

Today's C&H (http://images.ucomics.com/comics/ch/1991/ch910416.gif)

I was rereading some of Kathy's old posts on threads that people have bumped or linked to, and I had forgetten about her sig line, which always made me laugh: "The older I get, the better I used to be... but who the heck cares?" /infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

[Lisamarie8]

So very sad, such a terrible loss.i loved her world view and sense of humor. There could NEVER be too many people like her in the world /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

-- Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on society.

[elizabeth]

So sad. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif But it is a tribute to her life that remembering her brings forth such a tidal wave of hope for enthusiastic living in her memory.

And I, too, read "Cactu Skate" for the LONGEST time.

God rest your soul, CactusKate.

"And I think to myself, What a wonderful world;
Yes, I think to myself, What a wonderful world." - Louis Armstrong

[Serenade]

"To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people
and the affection of children;
to earn the appreciation of honest critics
and endure the betrayal of false friends;
to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others;
to leave the world a bit better
whether by a healthy child, a garden patch,
or a redeemed social condition;
to know even one life has breathed easier because
you have lived. This is to have succeeded."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

I never knew her, but judging by her own thread and this one, I think it's safe for me to say that she truly succeeded.

"Education is an admirable thing, but it is well to remember from time to time that nothing that is worth knowing can be taught." -Oscar Wilde

[Reginapony]

There is a hole in my heart... /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

I will miss Kathy's wisdom, humor and common sense. I will also miss her bravery and ability to cope with adversity. I am sure she has changed many lives in the short time most of us knew her on the BB. I will miss her great answers to the BB.

*Endurance Rider Wannabee!*

[Trixie]

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Maybe we could put one of the poems posted in the ad...

[Peggy]

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The good die young.

[shiloh]

I think everybody has said all that can be said and much better than I could ever say it, so I will just say how sorry I am. She will be missed.

"Stupidity should be painful."

[Glimmerglass]

My sympathies go out to her family, loved ones and friends. Clearly as evidenced by the many tributes and outpourings on this thread she was a beloved individual who touched many people's lives. For that she enriched this community by leaving this a better place and hopefully has gone to an even better one for herself.

[M. O'Connor]

and though I was unlucky to be among those who didn't know her, I certainly took a "crash course" on "Cactu-skate" last night..."inspiring" doesn't begin to tell the story-that photo with the oxygen tank, and her description of it are simply awesome! I'm sure she will always be with us now, whether we knew her or not...

MCL

[Catalina]

I am so sorry to hear that such a wonderful lady has been taken from us. I don't know what to say /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif.

[RedEqHunter]

I happened to read the bumped thread that she wrote back in February,when she told everyone what she had. I was about to post a reply and then saw that she had died. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif She seemed like a very courageous woman, and I hope that she was an inspiration to others. She looked like she was having so much fun on that big guy in the picture!

I can only hope that if my disease gets worse when I'm older, that I can be half as brave as she was.

~ Laura ~

http://www.angelfire.com/realm/sunsav/main.html

[Dunhorse]

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My prayers are with her and her family. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

God forbid that I should go to any Heaven in which there are no horses.
~R. Graham

[wtywmn4]

I wish we could all have met her. She was very inspiring here on the BB.. My prayers are with her family...She will be truly missed....

[FirstCry]

/infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif You will be missed. Rest in Peace.

"Insanity is repeating the same behavior over and over and expecting different results"

[wombat]

My thoughts and prayers are with Catuskate and her family. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

[mbamissaz]

I think the tribute in COTH is a great idea. I just emailed a couple of her very close friends to find out what we might be able to do(as far as family permission etc.). I'll keep you all posted. I also sent the link to this thread to them, and hopefully they will forward it to the family. I think it is very telling as to just how many people cared for this woman. Thank you everyone for your responses....I know they'd mean the world to her.

[Coreene]

This was read at the beginning of the Queen Mother's recent funeral. I find it highly appropriate for Kathy as well.

You can shed tears that she is gone,
or you can smile becuse she has lived.
You can close your eyes and hope that
she'll come back,
or you can open your eyes and see all she's left.

[Lord Helpus]

When I had my neurological problem and could not ride for 5 months, and then was mis-diagnsed with lung cancer, Cactuskate emailed me with condolences and the nicest thoughts imaginable. I don't think She even knew she was sick then.... and that she would be the one needing strength from other people. She just gave of herself freely, because she had so much to give.

Sadly, with my sporadic attendance on the board this winter, I did not even know she was sick. I can't believe that I missed the threads about her illness.

Cactuskate, belatedly, I need to thank you for being kind and generous and stong and a role model. I know you can hear us all praise you. You deserve it. God Bless.

[snapper]

How very sad. Catctu Skate (thats how I always read the name) obviously touched many lives and will be remembered by all.

[GW]

A thread on another BB recently brought back thoughts of a dear friend of mine who died of breast cancer at an age similar to Cactuskate. Coincidentally, my friend's name was Kate. I hope they meet, they sound like very similar women. The strength and courage she displayed in the last months of her life inspired me and my mother. Our Katie rode with shunts for meds and visited her beloved horse even when her husband had to carry her. I think Cactuskate will find herself amongst kindred spirits now. My sincere condolences to her family.

[MO]

/infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif Oh dear.
The above poem Coreene posted is simply beautiful.
She chose to live her life fully, God Bless her and Amen

[agedbayhunter]

When I saw her name on her posts, although I knew she was an adult, I always pictured "Cactus Kate" -- a feisty little girl in boots and a pint-sized Stetson -- and it made me smile every time.

Feisty she was, and a wonderful example to us all.

[AHC]

Add my condolences to her family and loved ones.

This is not a happy day. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

[horsesrlife65]

So sorry to hear that - by reading her post, I realized what a truly stong and inspiring person she was.

My well-wishes to all those in mourning over her death. -

[Lily]

How awful. She will be sorely missed. /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

[Jane]

I've always enjoy Cactuskate's posts on this BB. Unfortunately, because of my sporadic schedule, I've managed to miss all the threads about her illness, and had not a clue until I read this thread just a while ago....wasn't she posting until fairly recently, like a week or two ago?

I just read the "An absentBB'er checks in..." and I can't tell you how surreal it was reading her post and seeing the pics for the first time, knowing she's "gone". /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

What a truely remarkable and inspirational being you were Kate! We will miss you!

[second chance]

Wow, I only made it to page 2 before I began to bawl, I mean full fledged bawling, tears and all.

All I can say is what a great, inspiring woman she was.

She never let her Cancer get in the way of her great sense of humor and her kindness.

For a woman with such problems, she was definately a devoted horsewoman.


She will be remembered in everybody's heart as a person who was very nice and caring and very trustworthy.

It will be sad here without her.

Rest in Peace Cactuskate.

I for one can say that 2002 has not been even remotely a good year. There are too many deaths this year, to many young people.

She was a fighter!

REST IN PEACE CACTUSKATE!

Money talks... but all mine ever says is good-bye.

[lilblackhorse]

coreene, I love the poem very much.

I gave our website address to her brother and sister in law----I told her brother that there were a lot of people here who were touched by her life. I hope they visit and see what an impact she has made in so many lives.

aimee

The gene pool could use a little chlorine.

[Spunky]

My condolences to her family and friends as well.

And thank you, so much, for posting the sad news to us. Since we might otherwise not have learned for a long time.

Kit /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

[MeanderCreek]

We were all so privleged to have crossed paths with "CactusKate" she truly was courage and strength personified. I only knew her briefly on this BB, but am so inspired by her. I wish her family peace in this impossibly difficult time.

www.meandercreekstable.com (http://www.meandercreekstable.com)

[Tosca]

She obviously had a lot of courage, and her memory will be admired and respected.

[Dee]

I echo everyone's thoughts here. I know her only through this BB, but the pics of her and Bud are indelibly printed on my brain. How wonderful she was to share that with us and leave us the gift of her courage and inspiration! Like everyone here, I'll forever remember her humor and grace, and above all, her reminder to grab every moment while we're here on the planet.

Here's to CactusKate, raising a glass to you in thanks and in admiration.

[Miniwelsh]

Just adding my sincerest condolences and God Speed for Cactuskate to the Rainbow Bridge to rejoin with all her old and loyalist friends.

*Behind every good woman lies a trail of men*

[HuntJumpSC]

My deepest sympathy goes out to her family and friends...both in real-life and cyber. She will be greatly missed here /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif SUZ

Proud member of the following:
***Rust TS Clique***
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~~~Do you think the JUDGE saw it???~~~
~~~Flying an airplane is easy: You pull the stick back, the houses get smaller, push the stick forward, the houses get bigger. If you pull & hold the stick back, the houses get smaller, then REALLY bigger!~~~

[Velvet]

I always get my CoTH very late, and then this time I didn't read it until last night. I was shocked to hear the news! I have been swamped and barely had time to go out on the dressage board, and no one mentioned this that I had seen.

Truly sad. Did anyone put together some of her best posts as a memorial out here? I haven't seen it if they have...

It's all about ME, ME, ME!!! (The only signature worthy of a real DQ.)

[Lisamarie8]

I don't know about the "best posts" but we did take up a collection and in this weeks Chronicle (which I'm guessing you'll receive next February) there is a FP, 4/c ad as a memorial to her. /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

-- Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on society.