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JohnDeere
Apr. 7, 2012, 12:05 PM
DH snores. Really bad on his back but also on his side. Lucky for me I go to bed first but if i wake up I cant get back to sleep. Are their earplugs I can try? Put a pillow on his head instead of mine? What?

TheJenners
Apr. 7, 2012, 12:07 PM
Last suggestion :lol:

Those soft little ear plugs sold for shooting should work. Lots of people in my profession sleep with them, and I may get some when I switch back to nights this summer...summer is hard, all the neighbors are doing the dreaded YARD WORK.

Mara
Apr. 7, 2012, 12:16 PM
May be a good idea to get him checked for sleep apnea. Snoring is often an indicator - does he ever stop breathing for a bit? There are a LOT of health problems associated with sleep apnea - Google it.

Of course he could just be a snorer, in which case earplugs are the thing. That, or separate sleeping quarters!:lol:

Jennifer Alcott
Apr. 7, 2012, 12:20 PM
I use the disposable foam earplugs that you can get a Lowe's, Wal Mart, or any gun supply store. Sometimes they fall out in the middle of the night, but I keep a couple hundred in my nightstand, so I can just reach over and replace them if I need to in the middle of the night.

The ones I get are orange or purple. I often find them in the dog poop in the yard. :D

JohnDeere
Apr. 7, 2012, 12:22 PM
He NEVER stops breatheing. And all bedrooms are full and I dont like our couch.

lilitiger2
Apr. 7, 2012, 12:30 PM
May be a good idea to get him checked for sleep apnea. Snoring is often an indicator - does he ever stop breathing for a bit? There are a LOT of health problems associated with sleep apnea - Google it.

Of course he could just be a snorer, in which case earplugs are the thing. That, or separate sleeping quarters!:lol:

This for sure (the sleep apnea check). Even if you don't hear him stop breathing he may not be getting enough oxygen.He may find he has so much more energy when if he does have it and gets treated!

Or, that last scene in One flew over the cookoo's nest, with the pillow?? that might work :D

marianne
Apr. 7, 2012, 02:53 PM
He probably has Sleep Breathing Disorder not apnea. Apnea is where he will stop breathing for a few seconds up to 30 or more and then will start again once the CO2 mechanism kicks in. His snoring can be anywhere on the upper respiratory tree. Nose, sinuses, throat, jaw, tongue, neck compressing or obstructing the airway. There are different treatments for this but he needs a sleep study done by a sleep specialist. BreathRite will not work with someone whose uvula is blocking the throat and a dental positioner will not work with someone who has blockage in the sinuses. As for you, I like to use the Bose noise blocker headphones. Cost about 350.00 or so but does the job.

littleum
Apr. 7, 2012, 04:18 PM
Send him in for a sleep study. It's really not healthy for him to be snoring so loudly so constantly you can't sleep.

Frank B
Apr. 7, 2012, 04:20 PM
FWIW, my snoring was a precursor to Sleep Apnea. A sleep study is definitely in order, even if he doesn't seem to stop breathing. There can be serious consequences for letting this go on unchecked.

If the sleep study doesn't find anything wrong, there's always a cattle prod.

veetiepony
Apr. 7, 2012, 04:50 PM
I'm a sensitive sleeper when it comes to noise, so i use a fan by the bed to cover up any minor noises. My boyfriend snores sometimes and i've found the ear plugs to be annoying and they didn't really work for the low/deep noises from him. Him sleeping on his side and not his back helps too.

Lone
Apr. 7, 2012, 05:04 PM
I'm a really light sleeper and have slept with a fan next to my bed for years. I use ear plugs when I travel and don't have access to a fan, but I always have trouble with them falling out of my ears in the middle of the night and they don't seem to be as effective minimizing noise as the fan is.

Guin
Apr. 7, 2012, 05:57 PM
I feel your pain! Fortunately my DH only snores on his back, so I just have to kick him a few times to get him to roll over. :lol::lol:

You might try those nose strip things that are supposed to hold the nostrils open wider. I think they're sold in sporting goods stores.

Guin
Apr. 7, 2012, 05:57 PM
I'm a really light sleeper and have slept with a fan next to my bed for years. I use ear plugs when I travel and don't have access to a fan, but I always have trouble with them falling out of my ears in the middle of the night and they don't seem to be as effective minimizing noise as the fan is.


I ALWAYS sleep with a fan on, even in the dead of winter. When I travel I have a little white-noise machine that helps, but it's not as good as a fan.

veetiepony
Apr. 7, 2012, 06:02 PM
How pathetic am I... i went to Europe for two weeks last year and brought my fan with me for this exact reason. I brought next to nothing for clothes, but I had to have my fan. It broke on the first night, and I did not sleep well for (most) of the remaining trip. I couldn't find a fan to buy anywhere, and trust me I looked!

The downside to a fan is that you get used to sleeping with the hum of the fan, and when you don't have it for whatever reason, it sucks.

Woodsperson
Apr. 7, 2012, 06:13 PM
veetiepony check this out: http://www.amazon.com/Calming-Electric-Fan-Sound-CD/dp/B000RW7KU4

veetiepony
Apr. 7, 2012, 06:14 PM
Thanks Woodsperson! I feel like I have a disability.

Guin
Apr. 7, 2012, 06:20 PM
veetiepony check this out: http://www.amazon.com/Calming-Electric-Fan-Sound-CD/dp/B000RW7KU4

Ooooo! Could you copy that to your iPod and put it on "repeat"??????

Hmm. Maybe you could record your OWN fan.....

veetiepony
Apr. 7, 2012, 06:27 PM
guin - ha! I thought an hour was way too short..

Bacardi1
Apr. 7, 2012, 07:30 PM
Another vote for a sleep study test. Went through this with my husband, & it turned out that it was already causing some heart problems. Better to be safe than sorry.

Lone
Apr. 7, 2012, 07:31 PM
The downside to a fan is that you get used to sleeping with the hum of the fan, and when you don't have it for whatever reason, it sucks.

That's a VERY good point! I'm very dependent on my fan to sleep.

A few weeks ago I was visiting an aunt and uncle who have approximately a dozen clocks in their house that chime every 15 minutes. I finally got desperate in the middle of the night and looked at the market on my phone and was able to find a white noise app! Not nearly as good as an actual fan, but they have a 'fan' sound that I used :D

kb
Apr. 7, 2012, 09:06 PM
For those who sleep with a fan...Sleep machine app for the iPad or iPhone. Much easier than traveling with a fan!

No suggestions on the snoring though....

Tuesday's Child
Apr. 7, 2012, 10:31 PM
I have an app called Relax Melodies, you can pick any combination of a large variety of sounds and make a bunch of presets. Probably very similar to the app posted above. I used to have nights where I couldn't fall asleep for hours, but this app has helped a bunch (and helps when I'm not at home too - I don't sleep well at other people's houses, hotels, etc.) Don't know what I'd do for a hubby that snores, that would drive me nuts!

Bank of Dad
Apr. 7, 2012, 11:19 PM
http://www.earplugsonline.com/index.html

These are really the world's best ear plugs. DH snores so loud I often went in the other room. I had these for two years and didn't use them cause I thought I wouldn't be able to sleep with them.

They are the greatest. I use the same pair for several weeks. They never come out. I can barely hear the phone ringing. I sleep better than ever.

Now if I could actually get the DH to do the sleep study..........

ESG
Apr. 7, 2012, 11:25 PM
Ambien.

Also, there's a new sleep aid out called Intermezzo, meant for those folks who wake up at 3AM and can't get back to sleep; a kind of "half a night's sleep" sleeping pill.

Nothing else works. Trust me on this. :sigh:

monday
Apr. 8, 2012, 12:03 AM
I am a big fan of the little pink earplugs they sell in the pharmacy area of my grocery store. They do a good job blocking hubby's snoring, my dogs's snoring and the loud birds out my window. It took me a while to get used to them, but now I don't even notice them.

Couture TB
Apr. 8, 2012, 12:06 AM
I wear comfy ear plugs. Will have to check the box for what brand. They are very high rated for noise and are comfortable. I am a horribly light sleeper and can't sleep if there is any noise etc.

Oh and I also have to take prescription sleeping pills at a pretty high dose as I also have chronic insomnia, and I stiill need the ear plugs to sleep!

MyssMyst
Apr. 8, 2012, 01:54 AM
May be a good idea to get him checked for sleep apnea. Snoring is often an indicator - does he ever stop breathing for a bit? There are a LOT of health problems associated with sleep apnea - Google it.

Of course he could just be a snorer, in which case earplugs are the thing. That, or separate sleeping quarters!:lol:

I second this. My husband argued about getting checked until I told him to sleep elsewhere, and he was shocked that he stopped breathing several times an hour. The cpap fixed the problem for us.

tpup
Apr. 8, 2012, 06:58 AM
My hubby snores MUCH less with Breathe-Rite strips. Give it a try!

pharmgirl
Apr. 8, 2012, 10:02 AM
WRT ear plugs, they make ones that connect together via string/thin plasticy wire so it's easier to keep track of them. You can usually find them in a sporting goods store that sells hunting/gun supplies, or a hardware store where they have safety equipment.

Gainer
Apr. 8, 2012, 10:26 AM
that he's next to you snoring.

My husband snored loudly, and sometimes it kept me awake, but I didn't mind it all that much.

He passed away five years ago and the defeaning silence keeps me awake more often than the snoring ever did.

That said, please try to get your husband into a sleep study and get yourself some earplugs.

Bluey
Apr. 8, 2012, 10:35 AM
I was looking for a new CD player, since the old one bit the dust a while back and using the computer slows it down even more.

I could not find just a CD player, so bought an alarm clock with a CD function.
Set it up and listened to a CD, all was well.
That night at 12 am, music came on and was playing away, waking me up.:eek:
I finally figured it was coming from the alarm clock.:lol:

I second to have the snoring checked out, in case it is a symptom of other.:yes:

JohnDeere
Apr. 8, 2012, 02:59 PM
But DH doesnt snore---he says. :rolleyes: Oh you just rasp and flap your lips do you? I would have to hogtie him and drag him to the sleep clinic. Or have the dr (a friend) order him to go?

The dog is the one that wakes me up at 3 am. He wants under the covers and head buts me until I hold up the blankets. Or he wants out.

Gainer so sorry. My gma said the same thing when gpa died. He left the bed went downstairs and fell down dead. She misses his snoring to this day after 40+ years of it.

kj2H1D
Apr. 8, 2012, 03:10 PM
The foam ear plugs never worked well for me... they didn't quite drown out the noise and maybe my ear canal is very small, but my ear canals would really hurt the next morning. So now I had two problems: lack of sleep AND really aching ears!!!

But the silicone ear plugs ended up working like a charm. They really block the sound and they are very comfortable. So then I could get a full night's sleep... and only sad thing was missing the early morning bird chirping that is so nice to wake up to. Oh well. It's more important to have a good night's sleep! It really drains you over time to miss out on that.

Here's what I used:

http://www.macksearplugs.com/details/ear-plugs-for-snoring/pillow-soft-earplugs-6-pair-value

Canaqua
Apr. 8, 2012, 08:31 PM
My husband snores a lot, and loudly, too. He will NOT go for a sleep study. Fortunately, we have two kids off at college and two empty beds...he sleeps somewhere else ;). He can come back when he deals with it. When we travel and don't have a spare room, I use ear plugs, Benadryl and a white noise machine, doesn't totally fix it (he's LOUD), but it helps...he hates the white noise, but I hate the snoring more.

sketcher
Apr. 8, 2012, 08:42 PM
How pathetic am I... i went to Europe for two weeks last year and brought my fan with me for this exact reason. I brought next to nothing for clothes, but I had to have my fan. It broke on the first night, and I did not sleep well for (most) of the remaining trip. I couldn't find a fan to buy anywhere, and trust me I looked!

The downside to a fan is that you get used to sleeping with the hum of the fan, and when you don't have it for whatever reason, it sucks.

Wow. You and I are the same person. The only way I can deal with my snoring spouse is to sleep elsewhere. Travel can be an issue...

Bluehorsesjp
Apr. 9, 2012, 01:09 AM
Wow this is such a good topic. My DH snores like a freight train and has been sleeping on the couch for a while now.
I do think he stops breathing during the night and just mentioned to him about a sleep study.
He is not sounding thrilled about it.
Any idea how I can encourage him to go, besides telling his mother. lol She always can get him to take care of his health.

Frank B
Apr. 9, 2012, 08:08 AM
If potential heart damage doesn't get his attention, inform him that one of the side effects of untreated Sleep Apnea is Erectile Dysfunction. He needs to quit being such a namby-pamby (I was going to use the P-word) and man-up to his problem.

You can get a lot of help by going to www.CPAPtalk.com (http://www.CPAPtalk.com) and joining their forums. Like CoTH, they are a friendly, pro-active group with an upbeat attitude and are a treasure-trove of helpful information. The host company offers CPAP supplies at worthwhile discounts.

LSM1212
Apr. 9, 2012, 09:15 AM
But DH doesnt snore---he says. :rolleyes: Oh you just rasp and flap your lips do you? I would have to hogtie him and drag him to the sleep clinic. Or have the dr (a friend) order him to go?


If potential heart damage doesn't get his attention, inform him that one of the side effects of untreated Sleep Apnea is Erectile Dysfunction. He needs to quit being such a namby-pamby (I was going to use the P-word) and man-up to his problem.

Sigh... I have the same issue. Funny thing is... he knows he snores. And it's just getting worse as time goes by. Part of it is that he has gained weight. But I can't see and "control" what he eats since he works out of town and is gone during the week. He mostly snores when he's on his back. But he can snore when he's on his side too. :(

I have tried for YEARS to get him to do a sleep study. Nope. He won't even go to a regular Doctor. And giving him stats about what damage it could be doing does absolutely nothing. He doesn't care. Damn stubborn Brit.

Our solution? He sleeps in the "guest" room. Not ideal but I'm a lighter sleeper (I have a noise machine that I've had for years that I have to have on... it's set on ocean waves :)). It's pretty small so easy to take with me if needed.

Traveling is a bit of an issue. If we go back to his "homeland", I insist that we either get 2 rooms or a suite option (sitting area w/ a couch... he gets the couch). Of course, when he drinks, it's even worse. And when he goes "home"... he's going to drink w/ his buddies.

When we travel "locally", we get the suite option also. He has no issue sleeping on a couch. :lol:

It's not ideal... but it's what we've decided on. We don't have to sleep next to each other to know we love each other. He would rather sleep elsewhere than keep me up all night long and have a very cranky wife the next day! :D

shakeytails
Apr. 9, 2012, 10:38 AM
I use ear plugs. And I'll elbow him and tell him he's snoring if it gets too loud for the ear plugs. But I can't use them if I have to work in the AM- he leaves before I do, and I won't hear the alarm if I have them in. I made that mistake exactly once!

islandrider
Apr. 9, 2012, 10:46 AM
My SO snores so loud he has been heard out on the street in front of our house, and we sleep in the back! He refuses to go to any clinic for it. We have tried everything-EXCEPT-drum roll...

In light of a trip we are taking soon where I will HAVE to sleep in the same bed as him, I purchased a set of ear muffs that are sold for people who shoot guns. Yep, I am totally prepared to sleep on my back because at least I will sleep.

You folks who can amend the snoring of your loved ones with earplugs are LUCKY. Some snoring is more like roaring. Oi yoi yoi!!!!!

islandrider
May. 13, 2012, 10:37 AM
The trip we took pretty much did me in. I brought my earplugs, shooting range ear muffs and ear pods. SO didn't bring his mouth or nose anti-snoring things.
The room was small. I MAYBE got 20 minutes of sleep ALL NIGHT. Had all 3 of those things on my head-tried the floor, tried the ledge. Hell. Then he wakes up all refreshed and I am absolutely wiped. Not good. We've kind of broken up after this trip anyway for other reasons (see other post "bailing after 12 years" and gotta say, at this point I am not missing the snoring.

jnel
May. 13, 2012, 11:30 AM
I have used a Sleepmate http://www.amazon.com/Marpac-DOHM-SS-Sound-Screen-Conditioner/dp/B003DQCHY0/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1336922604&sr=8-3 for 20 years. I couldn't sleep without it and it goes with me on all our trips. My hubby snores and I'm a very light sleeper. The Sleepmate is awesome as it really creates a fan like humming noise. I tried using a digital white noise feature on my radio but could always hear the slight pause when something is set to loop so I ended up listening for that all night.

StefffiC
May. 14, 2012, 10:01 AM
My husband had the low libido, low energy, and terrible snoring. I have insomnia and can't sleep when he's not home due to anxiety (he's gone 4 nights a week) and couldn't sleep when he's home due to his snoring.

We share a General doctor and I made an appointment for both of us, brought up the snoring, and the doc made him a sleep stude appointment. The entire two weeks up to the sleep study DH whined about having to go, how there was nothing wrong with him.

The morning after his sleep study he called me excited - he had severe sleep apnea. LOL

Now, with the CPAP we're both able to sleep peacefully at home and he has his libido back.

Alice
May. 14, 2012, 10:16 AM
This is bringing back terrible memories! One more thing not to miss about the ex...

Current SO has a CPAP machine and it is the bomb. He does not have a typical case of sleep apnea (wasn't overweight, younger) but a bunch of family members have it.

He says it changed his life.

Find some way to make the SO go to a sleep clinic. It is so unfair for the partner to not be able to sleep.

StefffiC
May. 14, 2012, 10:18 AM
My SO is 38, within normal weight range, has no family history of sleep apnea.

I need a sleep study as well for insomnia. I'd love to be able to sleep with more regularity. it would be awesome!

RegalRemark
May. 14, 2012, 11:10 AM
I had some silicone ones made for me at the local hearing clinic. Cost about $125 and work better than the store bought ones. I can still hearing the snoring, but it is certainly cut down to a dull roar so I can sleep.

JohnK
May. 14, 2012, 12:16 PM
Try get a snorepin or mouth piece, usually works fine. So its better to find a cure for a partner than a temporary solution. Some good tips found here (http://oksnoringsolutions.com).

JanDinWA
May. 14, 2012, 04:23 PM
I don't know why men are so reluctant to go for a sleep study. DH snored for many years before he went for the study. I ended up using silicone ear plugs AND sleeping in the guest room in order to not hear him. He would get angry every time I brought up doing a sleep study. Finally our doctor somehow talked him into it. He has sleep apnea and is currently using a BiPAP machine (easier for him to get used to than a CPAP). He was able to use one of the mouth piece devices the first 2 years, but his apnea got worse as he gained weight. A friend of mine went through the same thing with her husband - not wanting to do the study, getting angry about it, etc. and he had sleep apnea too. He finally did do the study and loves his CPAP machine.

Even if you don't hear them stop breathing, it doesn't mean that they don't. A coworker had really bad sleep apnea, but would only stop breathing for a second or less, but it happened thousands of times a night. DH stopped breathing for as long as 30 seconds at a time, but only 10-20 times a night.

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