Please pray for free

[free]

Hi everyone. Sorry I haven't writen in a while. My mom is doing the best we can hope for right now. She has been breathing on her own without an machine help for two days now. She slowly has begun to open her eyes now. I hope soon she will open them all the way but it seems that baby steps are what we have become accustom to. Some times I wonder if this would be what she had wanted us to do, but if she has a chance to live a desent life we will do everything for her. The doctors say that her physical body is doing well. But they don't know if her mental body will function well. They say she might not ever reconize us again. I hope the doctors are wrong. She is a prode woman and never liked to be told what or not to do. She had a mind of her own. She was the smartest person I knew and it is very hard to think she may never get that back. Sometimes I would get irritated at her because she would keep me on the phone, because we talked daly, and she would tell me that I would miss her voice someday. She was right. I always catch myself thinking I need to call my mom and now I can't. I hope one day I can call her again to hear her voice and I will never take one second of talking with her for granted again. I even checked my old voice messages on my cell phone after it happened so I could hear her again but I didn't have one. Thank you everyone for all the support. It has really lifted the spirits of my dad and me.

Andy

[deltawave]

Andy, keep your chin up if you can. If she's still showing some improvement, then it's not the time to lose hope. I'm sure she knows you're doing everything you can and will keep her best interests at heart at all times. Hang in there! http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[annikak]

I 2nd DV- keep your chin up- she is the smartest woman that you know! She will amaze you! I understand what you mean about her being a proud woman; I am sure that will be the hardest thing for all of you. But her wanting to fight that barrier will be in her favor in the long run. And while it is a long run, the run is very rewarding....
and thanks for the reminder about the voice- your message is wonderful. Hugs to you Andy- she knows you love her, and we all certainly know you love her.... Don't feel bad for anything- you are doing everything you can for her- and and all the curb chains we can find are jingling away for you. <<<<hugs>>>>

[austin]

Andy, she is with you because she is part of you. Honor her by being the person she would want you to be. I know she is very proud of you and loves you very much.

[Holly Jeanne]

Just wanted you to know that I'm still sending prayers. She sounds like a very special person. I hope to meet her someday.

[Mariequi]

Andy, don't apologize. We'll be patient to hear from you and thoughts and prayers stay with you. Hard to be patient with baby steps, but think of a week ago. If her eyes are starting to open, just a bit, that sounds like progress. I don't think there are set timelines for situations such as this, but I imagine everyone is different. And the amount of swelling to come down, etc.

My mom's been gone 10 years and Dad over 20 and I find I wish I had their voices and them on audio and video. And so many questions I should've asked. I occasionally still reach for the phone. You remind us how important it is to say I love you every day. It's wonderful that you can do that. Say it a LOT!

And continue the support. The doctors would want you to be prepared for worst case scenario, BUT that doesn't mean it will happen. She not only was proud, but still is. Keep positive for her as well as yourself. That's a great present you can give her right now. Hug each other for her, too.

[Leaping Lily]

It is hard for me to imagine Mary not being able to remember horses. She loved them so much. When I think of Mary , I think of horses. When I think of horses, I think of Mary and her love for them. I think Bensmom described her best. “ She has a relentless search for knowledge about what makes a great horse great and her unflagging energy to help OTTB get great homes after they retire from racing.” I always told Mary, I don’t how we can call dog man’s best friend when you think about the all things the horses will do for us. Andy and Joe, it may take time but God will give her back to us and to the horses. We are ALL still praying. Love you guys, Trina

[bornfreenowexpensive]

Ok Andy--you made me cry and call my mom. No, we can't take the ones we love for granted but we all do...it's human nature, until something reminds us of how fragile and short life truely is. I'm really hoping Mary recovers and you get a chance to hear her again. Stay strong and know that a lot of people are thinking postive thoughts and prayers for you and your family and hope that Free joins us on this BB once again!

[jamr75]

Oh Andy, talking about a tear-jerker. She is a strong women and I'm sure that she is doing everything possible to come back to you guys. Unfortunately, time is all we have right now. I know about wanting to hear her voice, I do that with my dad but I was able to find some old video with him on it. I know that she had some from Christmas that one year. Stay strong and you have a lot of people here that are with you all the way.

Jen

[BeastieSlave]

Yep, I cried and called my mom too.

As I said before, strokes are cruel. Part of that is the doubt they instill. You guys hang in there and assume that the Mary you know & love is in there trying to come back to you. You don't have to give up that hope unless the Drs. can prove it's gone. It sounds like she is making progress. I know we'd all have it go much faster.... but progress is progress, whatever its rate.

Take care of yourselves and give free our best. Still jingling!

[Bensmom]

We are still jingling here in Tallahassee too -- Andy, that was such a sweet post and you really captured what it can be like to have a parent that you love, but that you are so used to have them be there everyday.

It made me call my mom too, though she doesn't even *know* about my new horse yet! http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/sadsmile.gif There are some things that non-horsey parents won't understand http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

Andy, as you guys are talking to her, please tell her that I have Sam, the horse that Lord Helpus rescued back in January. She followed that thread and I know she'd be happy to know that he has arrived in Florida to be part of our crew here. Your mom was so kind to me last year at the Lucinda clinic here in Tallahassee and stood with me as we watched my trainer ride Ben in the cross country portion. She had so many lovely things to say about him. http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

Your mom is one of those people whose heart is so good it shines right out of her chest. Our thoughts and prayers are with you -- I've been where you are waiting for someone to wake up and it is so hard.

Libby

[austin]

one of my best friends was in a comma for two weeks after a head injury. he was a senior in high school. He is a horse vet now.

don't give up hope.

He had to learn to do everything again. he kept trying to eat cookies with a fork and shooting them across the room ! we can laugh about that now.

[subk]

Andy, baby steps are very, very good! It reminds me of something I've heard attributed to Karen O'Connor. 1% improvement a day translates to %100 improvement in 100 days. 100 days isn't really that long. So hang on, and celebrate these 1% days!

[can't re-]

Awwww, thanks for the post Andy. http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/sadsmile.gif

It is good to hear Mary is making progress. I believe she is fighting to come back.
I can't imagine how hard this is for you and your family. My prayers continue.

-Barbara

[Xctrygirl]

Ok I am crying too but my mom and sis are overseas in Greece now. So will have to wait to they get stateside again.

Andy,

You're doing great. Don't forget to keep yourself healthy b/c I know your mom would want you to. Opening eyes is a good sign and she is likely trying to do her best too.

You and your dad are being great. Don't be afraid to lean on us out here if you need. We're all here for you.

All my best,

~Emily

[LAZ]

Andy and Joe,

Mary is nothing if not persistent, so I'm keeping everything crossed that her persistence will stand her in good stead in this recovery.

Please keep us informed as you can, I will continue to pull for her, and you as I know this is probably harder on you two at the moment than it is on Mary.

[free]

Hi everyone. I am very sadden to report that we might have a big decision to make tommorrow. It is going to depend on the CT scan, but it seems that swelling is setting in and she hasn't been responding to any stemulation on her feet or hands. We just have to see the outcome of the CT scan and go from there. Thank you everyone for the wonderful support.

Andy

[2Traks]

Oh Andy, I am so sorry to hear that! I've been reading your updates daily and keeping my fingers crossed for your mom. I'm jingling so hard that you get good news tomorrow. http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/cry.gif

[jetsmom]

Praying for strength for your family and peace with any decisions you make. You are going through such a hard time, I hope you have lots of friends and family to give you support. Jingling for Free to get better soon.

[eks]

Hi Andy,

I am always checking in on the board to see how your Mom is doing. I am sure your post earlier today really made everyone pause and hopefully realize how fragile we all are and how important those we love are to us. You are very fortunate that you and your Mom have such a close relationship. She knows you are fighting for her..as are all of us here on this board.

[JER]

Andy,

Thank you and your dad for the updates. You've been so generous in sharing the news with us.

I'd like to see a positive outcome to tomorrow's CT scan but whatever the result, I hope it gives you and your dad some clarity and understanding of her condition.

[Rockin']

Andy,
it is so kind of you to keep us updated.You have shown such strength of character and a true goodness,no wonder your Mum is so proud of you.Hoping for a positive outcome tomorrow and will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

[annikak]

Andy-
I know today will be hard for you and your dad- know that we are all thinking about you and your mom and praying whatever decisions you need to make become clear, if not easy. Jingling like crazy for you- and my thoughts today will be with you, your dad and mom.
HUGS!

[JDufort]

Andy

big hugs from me and Jo - I know you and your Dad will make the right decision. We're all praying for the best outcome.

thanks for showing us the Horse Park on Friday - its amazing to see something like that arising from blank space.

[Fred]

dear Andy, my thoughts and prayers are with you, your Dad, and your Mom this morning.
oxox
Gail

[IFG]

My heart goes out to you. My mother had surgery this summer, and she had trouble coming out of the anesthesia and breathing on her own. Imagining that the panic and powerlessness that I felt could go on for days and weeks is agonizing. I wish you the best. May you and your father have peace in your hearts.

I do not know your mother, but she has always written of you with such admiration and love. Even though there is always more that we wish we could say and do, you have already done well.

Take care of yourself and your father.

My best wishes are with you.

[can't re-]

Andy,
I will be praying for Mary, you
and your family today.
hugs to you all,
Barbara

[FifteenOne]

Sending more jingles and prayers your way. Whatever difficult decisions you & your family must make for your mother will be made with love and compassion and will be the right thing to do. The strength and love of your family has been clear to all of us from your posts. Your mother can be so very proud of you. May God bless you and help you through this awful time.

[jamr75]

As you can see, there are so many people here for you guys and I am also one of them. I know that today will be a hard one either way but you guys will make the best decision for her. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family today.

[q's mom]

Jingling for your family from here in North Florida. Hoping for a speedy recovery. Stay strong. http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/sadsmile.gif

[canyonoak]

jingling for all we are worth, for all we are capable of, for all there is in heart and mind.

our thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Mariequi]

Thinking of you all day and wishing you strength and comfort.

[bornfreenowexpensive]

Sending positive thoughts and prayers.

[Mary in Area 1]

I don't pray often, but I'm praying for you and Mary and your family today.

Be strong for her.

[Home Again Farm]

Belated, but heartfelt jingles for Free and her wonderful family.

[maxxtrot]

oh andy, i am so sorry to hear your last post. i am hoping for good outcome of the ct scan today. your mom is a fighter and i know she is fighting to come back to you and your dad. stay strong and know we are all here for you no matter what you have to do. take care and my prayers are with you all.

[Robby Johnson]

Andy, I am so sorry to hear this news. Please be strong and know that your mother has many, many people praying for her, and keeping her in their thoughts. My best wishes are with you and your family today, and I hope the CT scan results will be favorable.

Robby

[BeastieSlave]

Oh I was so sad to see you last post Andy. I know you guys are struggling and I hope with all my being that the CT shows the Drs. what they need to see to bring Mary back to you. If that doesn't happen, I wish you strength to make whatever decision you have before you.

Thank you so much for taking the time to update us. I'm sure it's not an easy thing to do. I'll be thinking of you, your dad, and Mary all day, and sending jingles your way. Like maxxtrot said, "Stay strong and know we are here for you no matter what you have to do."

[rileyiscuter]

More jingles from here in alabama by a Fl native. We all know you are doing the best you can. what more could anyone ask?

[FairWeather]

Oh i'm so sorry Andy, please keep telling her to kick on from all of us here.

[Louise]

My jingles and prayers will be with you and your family all day today, Andy. Your mother is proud of her strong son, never doubt that.

[LAZ]

Thinking of Mary and her family, and wishing for a decent prognosis.

[Carol Ames]

Andy, you are all in our prayers,, nNeil, oi just spoke wihhim; do see what you can learn abou the th local braininjury services, thr re usually support group[sfor cregivers, up here there are actualy separate counseling group[s for dsurvivors, and, theircare giivers. E'll kepjingling, and,praying, and wishing we couldo asa laying on of hands but, guess tyou all ihave to do tat for us.

[monstrpony]

Lots of jingles coming your way. So sorry things are dicey right now, but hoping, hoping, hoping for some good progress.

Thanks again so much for keeping us up to date.

[persefne]

Also hoping for a good prognosis for Mary today, as well. I will be thinking of you all and praying for the very best. Thank you for continuing to stop in and let us know how it is going with you and your family.

[Lori T]

Andy,
So sorry to read your latest post. Will say extra prayers for your mom tonight.
Lori
http://www.calypsofarm.piczo.com

[SmileGee]

Also praying for your mom. My thoughts are with you and your family in this very difficult time.

[GatoGordo]

Wishing you much luck and strength. Thanks for keeping us updated; I've been thinking of Mary and your family a lot these days.

[Xctrygirl]

Hang in there Andy.

The horses need you and your dad does too. Be strong in this dfficult time.

All my best,

~Emily

[frugalannie]

Sending prayers for Mary, and for her loving family.

[SR Rider]

This brings back such memories for me. My mom suffered a stroke; first weeks were awful,everytime I went to see her she was hooked up to more tubes. They said she would never eat solid food again, speak, etc. Well, she did. I told them never to estimate the power of a woman who loved to eat. She also spoke and we had some wonderful times together again. I would also advise that as the patient advocate you yell, scream, beg, cry whatever it takes for the doctors to pay special attention to her and not give up on her. I also think visiting unexpectedly and often is important. My prayers and thoughts are with you all.

[DressageGeek "Ribbon Ho"]

jingling everything I can for free and her family

[airbornegirl]

Andy,
My heart goes out to you and your family.
Many Jingles, from NC.

[War Admiral]

Many jingles from Georgia.

[BeastieSlave]

I'm just checking in at the end of the day to see if there's any news. Jingles for Mary, Andy, and Joe.

[deltawave]

Andy, my heart goes out to you. Hope you get some good news, or the strength to know and to do the right thing--whatever that may be--if the news is not good. http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif More prayers for Mary coming!

[Mariequi]

Any of y'all up, let's send a prayer to Andy and Joe before bed. Hope we have good news soon.

[Peggy]

Still up and jingling here on the left coast.

[CluesGirl]

My horse and I jingled together last night for free as we rode under a perfect clear sky and an almost full moon.

[monstrpony]

Morning Jingles to Mary and those around her.

[FairWeather]

Hoping for good news, and thinking of you all often.

[BeastieSlave]

Still jingling and hoping for some good news...

[Quinn]

Andy, thinking of you and your family today. Really hoping and praying for some good news.

http://community.webshots.com/user/ballyduff

[bambam]

sending good thoughts to you and your family and hoping for good news
eventing women are tough and should never be underestimated

[Mariequi]

Dublin and I sending hugs to Mary, Joe and Andy this morning.

[Pol]

Still with you, hoping for the best.

[cinnabar]

Jingling and sending out heartfelt support. Hope there's good news today.

[*FoxFire*]

Praying for the best. I'm so sorry this is happening. Stay strong and Jingling for the best!

[free]

Hi everyone. I am really sadden to tell you that last night we had to make a terrible decision. We had to follow my mother's wishes and there isn't any hope that she is going to recover from the blood clot to have a sort of normal life. She would be hooked to tubes the rest of her life and wouldn't be coherent to anything. She had told me, my father, and bother if this would ever happen to her to let her go. So last night our family let the doctors know of her wishes and they are going to remove the drain from her head. I am really sad inform you of this. But it was time to follow her wishes because we gave her every chance possible. Thank you very much for the support and incouragment you have given our family.

Andy

[GotSpots]

Andy, I'm so terribly sorry to read this. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

[Bensmom]

Andy, I am so sorry to read this. Thank you so much for letting us know and you and your family will remain in our thoughts.

[CluesGirl]

Andy -

We just went through a tough time of having to follow "The Five Wishes" (I think that is waht it is called)...with our grandmother, and although it is the toughest decision in the wrold to stop administering medical care, it is the single greatest act of love that a family member can perform for their loved one.

Please know that there are many people sending the best of thoughts, wishes and prayers to you and your family in this difficult time.

[SmileGee]

Andy-
I am so sorry...your family is in my thoughts and prayers. I second the idea that what you did for your mom is the single greatest act of love....

[Won For Me]

Andy,
I don't know if you remember me, but you bought Jesse from me a few years ago. I saw your Mom several times after that and came to the farm for a Just for Kicks meeting.

I admire your strength through this time. I hope to have one tenth of your strength should I have to face this situation. Your love for your mom comes through so loud and clear in your posts and I know she feels it too. I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Kristen

[sassparella]

Those small and perishable bodies we now have were given to us as ponies are given to schoolboys. We must learn to manage: not that we may some day be free of horses altogether but that some day we may ride bareback, confident and rejoicing, those greater mounts, those winged, shining and world-shaking horses which perhaps even now expect us with impatience, pawing and snorting in the King’s stables.

[Pocket Pony]

http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/no.gif http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/cry.gif

[desilu]

Andy - all our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family throughout this sad process. Following their wishes can be the best thing for them and the hardest thing for those left behind. Wishing you strength and wisdom and the comfort that you have done for her what she wanted.

[can't re-]

I am so sorry Andy.
My prayers continue for your Mom and family.
Hugs,
Barbara

[bornfreenowexpensive]

I'm so sorry to hear the sad news. It is a true testament of your family's love for free that you could make that terribly hard choice. My thoughts are with you and your family and hope that you all can remember all the good times in this terribly sad time.

[BeastieSlave]

Oh Andy, I'm so sorry.... I'm sure it was very hard for your family to make the decision that it was time to honor your mother's wishes. It takes so much strength and faith in your mother for you to do that. I hope that now that the decision has been made, your family is at peace.

I wish I had some comforting words to offer you, but I know that if I was in your place, words could not begin to touch my grief. Please know that your mother will be missed not only by those who knew her in person, but also by her cyber friends. Thank you again for taking the time to keep us informed.

[dianad]

(((Andy & family)))
I am so, so sorry. The very same thing happened with my mom, I was praying for a different outcome for you. Hang in there, I know this sucks. Diana

[Mariequi]

Andy, I had the same decision to make 9 years ago this month for my mother. I knew what her wishes were as well. So important to discuss these things with loved ones and also to have them written down so there is no question. My Mom was smart and strong as Mary is and she's the best angel I could ever wish for. We all wish for someone to love us enough to do what's right and what we would wish. Mary is so, so lucky to have such a wonderful family. And you are so lucky to have memories of someone like Mary in your lives. God bless you (I have no doubt) always.

[The Pie]

Andy and family, I am so so sorry to read this today. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. hugs

[frugalannie]

Sending prayers and support for you, your family and Mary, with the greatest admiration for the courage and love you have demonstrated and your family's fidelity to Mary's wishes.

Godspeed, Mary.

[flypony74]

Andy,

Several years ago we had to make the same decision for our grandmother, who suffered a stroke and wasn't expected to recover. Just last year, we had to make the decision to let my dad go. Those were the most difficult days of my life....I desperately wanted to do ANYTHING to keep them with us longer. But, we had to make the unselfish decision out of love and respect for their wishes. Bless you and your dad for having the strength to do that for your mom.

There is nothing any of us can say that will take your pain away, but do know that we are all here to offer support, thoughts, and prayers for your family.

[riverpup]

I'm so very sorry. What you have done is brave and compassionate. Take care.

[Holly Jeanne]

I had to sign that paperwork for my grandfather a number of years ago. It was very difficult but then and now I know it was the right thing to do for him. I will continue prayer for all of you.

[austin]

We are so sorry to hear this Andy but you did the right thing to follow her wishes. With time you will be able to remember the good times and the positive things about your mother and not what she is going through right now. It took me about a year after my father died before I could think of him and smile about funning things he would say, etc. Bless your heart.

ml

[2Traks]

Hi Andy,

We had to make the same decision for my father when he was only 34 years old. He suffered head trauma in a car accident and due to the bleeding in his brain he was in much the same position as your mother was. We could continue to drain the bleed but if he survived he would have been a vegetable for all intents and purposes. We also knew that he wouldn't have wanted to live that way. Letting someone go is the snigle greatest sacrifice that you can make. If you're anything like me, you'll look back and feel at peace knowing that you made the right decision. Hugs to you and your family through this most difficult time. http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/cry.gif

[eks]

Andy and family,

I am so sorry to hear your latest update. You are making the most unselfish decision by letting her have her dignity. Words cannot express how sad I am for you. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

[jamr75]

Just remember that you guys did everything possible for her. She apparently has to go and tend to her gardens and horses up there. I'm so sorry that you guys have to go through this. It is never an easy thing. We are all here for you and your family.

Jen

[Sandbarhorse]

Andy, I'm so sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you, your dad and the rest of the family. http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/cry.gif

Rest assured, that she and Cactuskate and Kennet Square are having one heck of a COTH reunion.

[twowillows]

Andy,
I am so sorry for you and your dad. I too had to make that decision 4 years ago with my mom in the end stages of cancer that ended with a brain met and swelling in the brain. I know the decision was the hardest you have ever had to make as was mine, but know it was probably the most unselfish thing you will do in your life. Please check your Private message as I have sent you my moms poem and I hope it gives you peace.

Kelly

[lizathenag]

We made the same choice for my mother when she couldn't make it for herself.
My condolences.
Liza

My horse not my bridle (http://www.plusstuff.com/images/head.jpg)

[IFG]

I am so very sorry. My best wishes to you and your family.

[fanfayre]

I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you in this time. I hadn't posted anything until now, but I have folllowed this thread everyday since the beginning.

[maxxtrot]

oh andy- i am sitting here with tearsrunning down myface, i am so sorry to hear ofthis. your mom would not want to just lay around, she was a very strong person and would have wanted it this way. now she will be able to look down on you on cross country and smile that smile she always had when you were riding! you now have your own guardian angel. i am in ocala and if there is anything i can do to help, please let me know. http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/cry.gif

[Rockin']

Andy I am so saddened to hear of this but full of admiration for the courage you have shown.This has to be one of the most difficult decision one could ever have to face regarding a loved one and you and your family have shown the depth of love you have for each other at this time.My thoughts are with you and I hope our support will give you some strength during the time ahead.

[*FoxFire*]

No words can possibly make you feel any better during this awful time, just know she had a wonderful life and I'm sure you and your father were the reason to get up in the morning http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/cry.gif
Again, I am TERRIBLY sorry!

[LAZ]

Andy and family,

I am so sorry to hear you've had to make this tough decision. I'm glad Mary has someone strong enough to follow her wishes and be there to love her at the end.

Lee Ann

[Hidden]

Andy.. Free had you and all the other love in her life.

[Quinn]

Oh dear Andy, I am so terribly sorry. Your Mom is so lucky to have you and have you honour her wishes at this dreadful time. I'm so sorry.

http://community.webshots.com/user/ballyduff

[Fred]

my dear Andy
I can't adequately express my heartfelt sadness for you and your family. You have shown great love, strength and courage through this terrible ordeal, and are the young man your mom raised you to be. You show your love for her in honouring her wishes in making this most difficult decision on her behalf.
We are all still here for you if you need us.
xoxo
Gail

[Coreene]

Dear Andy and Family,

I am so sorry. She was much loved and will never be forgotten.

Coreene

[JenJ]

I am so sorry to hear this. I cannot imagine how hard this decision was for you. You could only do what you knew she wanted you to do if and when ...
We are all thinking of your family.

[Robby Johnson]

Andy, my heart is breaking for you and your family. I will miss your mother's energetic contributions to this bulletin board. She always gave me lots of support and encouragement and I was smitten with the fillies she bred two years ago. So much so, in fact, that I only recently deleted the folder of their pics a few months ago.

I hope you still have them and will bring them on to reach their fullest potential. What a wonderful mother, person and breeder - she was always looking out for you and she will continue to do so as you think of her and feel her presence close to you.

Please know we are here for you and your dad.

Robby

[MissFit]

I am so sorry. Although I do not post often, I always read free's posts with interest and joy. She was a special lady. My thoughts are with you.

[Janet]

I am so sorry. I always enjoy her posts and her email, and I had hoped to meet her in person.

Thank you for your strength and courage.

[NMS]

Andy and family,

You are Mary's true champions. May you find peace in these difficult times.

Nancy

[Marli]

Andy/family-

I've just read the news, my heart is aching, for the wonderful woman Mary is, and for your family. I'm so very, very sorry - God bless you and provide strength during this difficult time...

[War Admiral]

I am so, so very sorry. But I'm also pretty sure there are lots of "folks" up there, of both the human and equine variety, who will welcome her with open arms, knowing she will bring them as much joy and happiness as she possibly can - same way she did for all of us here on Earth.

Thank you so very much for keeping us updated. It must have been so hard for you, but believe me we are all grateful.

Best wishes to you and your family during this sad time.

[NeverTime]

I am so sorry. I know you brought her much joy and she was so, so proud of you.

[Denali]

This is so sad http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/cry.gif My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

[War Admiral]

Andy - I hope you don't mind my having taken the liberty of suggesting on Off Course that we COTHers all get together and purchase an OTTB named Pal Joey (http://chronicleforums.com/groupee/forums/a/tpc/f/5566064631/m/454205177/r/773209177#773209177) in honor of your mom. This is a grand old warrior with an amazing race record, who needs to come off the track to a safe home. CANTER is coordinating the purchase, and somehow I think your mom would have been all about this one.

[JDufort]

Oh Andy, I am so sad for you and your family. Your Mom has to be proud of all of you for having the strength to carry out her wishes.

there will be candles burning everywhere for Mary tonight.

[cinnabar]

Andy, I'm so very sorry for your loss. Hugs to you and your family.

[Spirit_Rider16]

Andy,

I haven't been on COTH for a few weeks, so I missed this thread when you started it. I wish I had known so I could have shown some support for Mary sooner. I never really knew her well, but from her posts here on COTH she seemed like a truly remarkable lady. I'm so sorry to here about the decision you had to make, and I think you and the rest of your family are incredibly brave to be able to make this decision. Reading through this thread, it was easy to feel your love for your mother in your posts, and it made me realize that I take my own mother for granted most of the time. Thank you so much for keeping us informed about Mary's progress in these tough times, and I wish you luck in getting through the tough times that are still ahead. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Jackie

[JAGold]

I'm so sorry. --Jess

[flbay]

Andy,

I am so, so sorry to hear your post. Mary is, and will always be, an energetic, swing for the fences woman who wanted nothing more than to breed that olympic pony for her son. Well, I am sure she wants other things but the thing that has always struck me about her is her TOTAL dedication and perseverance in all sorts of times.

She has raised a wonderful son...one who has and will always make her proud. Feel confident about your decision every day. It will be tough. But you know what she wants and you are honoring her more than you can appreciate at this point.

My thoughts and best wishes are with you and your entire family through these very difficult times.

[eventable]

Andy, so sorry to hear this news. My thoughts are with you and your family http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

[Louise]

I'm so sorry, Andy, for you and your family. I know free thanks you for letting her go. The right choice is often the difficult one.

[SeaOat]

Dear Andy,

I'm so sorry to hear Mary isn't recovering as we'd all prayed. You are in our thoughts with hopes your family finds peace in this sad time.

Jordan (Fjordjock, who is not near a computer) was moved to tears by Mary's generosity and will be deeply saddened by this news. She spoke of your kind e-mail recently and was urgently trying to recover Marys photos before she left the equipment. (Please PT me your address when you've time as I'll be sure they get to you.)

Mary's kindness reminded this 19 year old, very distraught girl, that treasured events often come from surprising places. She was truly grateful to have met Free and felt blessed that she gained a new special friend because of that horse. We hope this would please Mary.

Edited to add: We all are hoping for a miracle.

[annikak]

I am so sorry, Andy- thinking about you and hoping when my time comes that my kids have the strength that you have shown.

Free is now fully free.... http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

annika

[YoungFilly]

Andy, its with much sadness that I see a post like this. I was in *your* position a few years ago with my mother, who was dying from cancer (I was 28, she was 56). I posted here on the COTH desperate to get help and support. Everyone was extremely kind, and helpful. I can completely understand the up's and down's that you are feeling at this moment. The wishes that you had said certain things, wishes that you had done things differently.

I don't know your Mom, and I don't usually post here (in eventing) but something caught my eye to say something to you.

I just want you to know that you have found one of the biggest support groups for you and your father in your very serious time of need.

Your mom, as we can see had a lot of friends. I am so glad that you are able to get to meet some of them, and they can share stories with you, about her.

You and your father are in my thoughts,
Denise


PS I think the idea of saving a horse in her honor is a grand one, and I personally will give a good sum of money towards it in Free's name.

[Luvinfoofy]

Oh, free.. we're all thinking, praying and jingling for you. I miss your insightful and always entertaining posts already.. Just from them I can tell you are an absolutely wonderful woman.

Andy, I'm so very sorry that you are going through this right now. Stay strong and please know that you and your family have the CoTH boards to turn to if you ever need any type of support.

Godspeed, free.

[free]

Dear War Admiral,

I can't describe how honnored we would be if that were to happen. She loved the OTTB the most out af any horse. She would follow The Forman and even though I knew how he did at a show she would tell me and every time remind me that he is off the track. We have two new ones she just purchased a few months ago and I am going to get them in training with a dressage rider for a while until I can get back in the saddle again. I want these horses to have to best chance poosible to do well when they get shown. Thanks again.

Andy

[Carol Ames]

Andy, and, joe, I wrotea reply earlier, but, ws crying so hard that Ihit some combinationof keys which wiped it out, and, logged me off, You, and, Mary ar most dfinitely in our prayers

[Carol Ames]

attimes like this http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/cry.gif I often remember Bruce davidsons' words on JJBabus' death, "He will never suffer the indignities of old age", and, believe after 5 years in a nursinghome, I know what he meant. I have nver beenso frightened as when I was moved back into another nursing home, this past May.You have honored , and, loved her s she would have had you do, Blessings, and peace to you all.

[Lord Helpus]

Andy,

I am so very, very sorry that Marydid not win her fight. She must have tried so hard, and yet the good Lord wanted her too much to let her stay here.

At least you can let her go with a clear heart and mind that you are doing what she wanted you to do. It is so important for families to talk about such horrid things so that you and your brother and dad are not left with a double load of grief, not knowing what to do.

She is leaving you physically, but she will always be in your heart. I hope you can take comfort knowing that she will be sitting on your shoulder as you ride, cheering you on at every fence and being there to glory in your wins. All you will have to do is to stand still for a minute and you will feel her presence.

She hasn't come this far with you to let you go on by yourself now. No self respecting mother would! You can bet your Dehners that she will be there to take credit for your becoming a big deal Event rider. http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[free]

HI everyone. Thank you everyone for the wonderful support. The doctors moved Mary to a new room so we can be with her at all times now. So we have a family member with her twenty four seven now. She has had a temp for the last two days. We just have bee with her as much as possible. I would like to thank the people who posted about how they had to go through that same situation as we are going through. I know how hard it is to believe it is accutally happening to you. Sometimes I think it is just a bad dream and it will go a way but I never wake up. Thanks very much for being by our side during this crisis.

Andy

[LAZ]

Andy,

I would be honored if you could keep me informed how Mach Ten does. Your mom was so excited about him; I can't remember the name of the other one she got about the same time.

Lee Ann

[free]

Dear LAZ,

I will keep you informed of both horses. The other one is named Red Coconut. They aren't doing to much yet except eating out of the same feed buckets together. They have become real great friends and never cause a ruckus.

Andy

[LAZ]

That's right! I was thinking of bananas--at least my mind was in the right direction since it's all tropical.

I appreciate that very much, I have grown to be quite fond of your mom and it'll be nice to still feel a connection with her.

Let me know if you need anything, or if I can do anything for you and your family.

Lee Ann

[mademoiselle]

I feel so sorry for you and your familly.

Stay strong and let us know if you need anything (even if it's just cyber Hugs)

http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/cry.gif http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/cry.gif http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/cry.gif

[BeastieSlave]

I just read the latest on Pal Joey. Good job everyone, free would be so proud!

Andy, I'm still jingling for you guys. I know this is a rough time, but it's good to know Mary will be with people who loved her around the clock. Take care of yourself.

[austin]

Dear War Admiral,

please tell us how to help with the horse being purchased in honor of Mary.

[bambam]

Andy, I am so very sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts.

[persefne]

Dear Andy, I have been away from my computer since Tuesday and I was so shocked and very sorry to read the recent news. As others have expressed, your decision was based upon your mother's very earnest wishes, and she will love you forever for having honored her in this. I'm praying for you, your mother, and your family. Your consideration in keeping us informed as part of your "extended" friends and family has been comforting for us, as I hope it is for you. Stay strong and take care of yourself.

[eventer4ever]

Andy and family-

My deepest condolences go out to you and your family.

[knowonder]

Andy and all of free's family:

I am so terribly sorry to hear the news. free was such a supportive person on these boards and I will miss her voice. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers. We had to do the same thing for my grandmother and although you know it is the right thing, it doesn't make it any easier. May you be blessed with the peace and assurance of knowing you are fulfilling your mother's wishes.

Sara

[NMS]

To the many of you who had given so generously to retire Pal Joey on behalf of Free, please see my update on the Off Course forum.

Prayers and jingles today for Free and her family.

Nancy

[BBowen]

Andy:

I have been out of town and just getting to catch up. I am so very sorry and in tears to hear of the news of your mom. Although this has been a difficult decision for you and your family, it was your mom's wish and you are brave to honor it. Please know that all of us are keeping you and your family in our prayers and thoughts. She knows you are with her.

[Equinetech]

Praying for you and your family Andy.

And please know that you are welcome here any time. We would love to have you continue as a part of our COTH family.

Thank you also for keeping us updated. I'm so glad that Free has been moved to a room where she can have family with her at all times.

Am praying that her passing will be peaceful and as painfree as possible for all involved.

[persefne]

I didn't really know where or how to put this, but here seems as appropriate as can be. Would there be any way that an award could be given at the Florida Horse Park event this November at the inaugural event in honor of Mary? Since she was such an advocate of the OTTB, perhaps it could be for the highest place new OTTB to eventing or the OTTB and rider who have overcome the most adversity to get to the competition? I keep thinking of this and her recent support of the new horse park and her love of the OTTBs. I'd be happy to contact whomever (if someone else on here isn't more closely connected) and also donate some money for the prize awarded. I hope this doesn't sound awkward, but it's just something I felt might be respectful of her and who she was in "real life," outside of her strong presence on COTH. Since many of us have not had the opportunity to meet Mary off the forums, perhaps just knowing that this honor would be in place might be a way for us to feel that she is being recognized and appreciated for her love and support of the OTTBs and of eventing in the event/horse world at large, and not just here on the forums, and how deeply her absence is and will be felt.

[JDufort]

That's a great idea - for those of you who don't know, Andy's "day job" is working with the group building the cross country course and basically getting the event up and running. And Mary was thrilled when he was offered the opportunity to be part of this, even though it was derailing his riding for awhile!

I think Andy could connect us to the right person - maybe Shelly?

[persefne]

Thanks, JDufort. It had seemed to me that she and Andy were very involved. I had also imagined that whomever responsible -- if they decided to do this -- would obviously be in contact with her family and I had hoped that perhaps (if he agreed with it all) that Andy might be the one to present the award. I'm only sorry that I live too far away to visit the FHP for the show (not even on foot, and especially not to compete), since I would love to volunteer my time there to make that event successful. I'm sure with all the hard work behind it, the new event and the new horse park will be an amazing success in Florida. I'm really sorry that free won't get the chance to see it run. I just felt it would be nice to honor her there, of all places.

[sk_pacer]

Andy, my condolences to you and the rest of the family.

It is a tough decision that you had to make, and very very painful. I had to make the same decision a few years ago, and still wonder if I made the right choice, despite my mother's wishes.

[DressageGeek "Ribbon Ho"]

Andy - just to let you know...there are many of us who don't post on the eventing board but who are still praying for your family. I am just one of many.There's a very long thread on the Off Course board...so you can see there are even more of us jingling furiously for Free.

[maxxtrot]

i think an award at the horse park is a wonderful idea. i will be there also. maybe getting in touch with shelly or somebody and explaining the award, i am sure they would love to do something like that.what a wonderful way to show free's family how much she is loved and will be missed. http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/yes.gif

[Gunnar]

Andy and Joe, my thoughts are with you in your time of need.

I have a sense that Mary is being called to perhaps tend to all my and others favorite horses who need someone like her to love them. Free please be kind to all my guys and tell them I love them!

My heart is with you all!

[Bensmom]

persefne -- that is a most *amazing* idea!

Flightcheck is the person you want to contact -- send her a PM, or contact me and I'll pass along her contact info. She is now working for the Horse Park as well, and would be the perfect person to present this and to work with Shelley in letting us know what we'd need to do.

Another idea would be to sponsor a jump in Mary's honor -- they are accepting sponsorships of differing sizes -- what do you guys think? Something that would be a lasting testament to her belief in and love of the sport?

Libby

[q's mom]

What a great way to keep her memory alive http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/sadsmile.gif

[Carol Ames]

Great idea! Count me in at some level!

[Carol Ames]

Andy, it is time for ou, and, yourdadto "pampr" one another.goout and "splurge " on oneanother, laugh , enjoy life, Free would likethat, and, remember noe that she is always therfor you to talkto and, pray for, I found the notionof he"communion ofsaints" which dshe has now joined to be comforting,jhpe yu do, the link forhgrief, and,loss counseiing center is language ofloss.com,

I will double check, and, repost , if needed.I am orderingtheir workbook for myself. Blessings!

[Carol Ames]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by carol Ames:
Andy, it is time for ou, and, yourdadto "pamper" one another.goout and "splurge " on oneanother, laugh , enjoy life, Free would likethat http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif , and, remember now that she is always therefor you to talkto and, pray for, I found the notionof the"communion ofsaints" which dshe has now joined to be comforting,hope you do,too. the link for the hgrief, and,loss counseilling center is language ofloss.com,http://languageofloss.com

I will double check, and, repost , if needed.I am orderingtheir workbook for myself. Blessings![

[Carol Ames]

Andy and family,

You are Mary's true champions. May you find peace in these difficult times.


What a beautiful thought.

Nancy

[annikak]

Great idea! Count us in- I love the jumo idea....

Greg,Amy B's husband was building the course...I can call her and see if he has any ideas-

[Carol Ames]

Thre's not much more to be said so,I'll say "God Bless! I just got thisvery strong feeling of her , and,my beloved Merry /neeting " having found one another. I'm sure theyrecognized the kindred spirit inoneanother.

[Carol Ames]

It should be a jump where the horses, andriders get the feeling of flying free,possibly a ski jump on an incline?

[jumpforjoy]

Sending love and hugs from Northern Michigan.
--Laurie

[can't re-]

My thoughts are with you Andy and your family.

[jamr75]

I would like to help do something for the memory of Mary. I'm in Illinois so I don't know how much help I can be except financial. I think that the jump idea is good or something I have seen at other horse parks is a park bench under a tree looking over a field of horses in memory of her. I don't know if the horse park down there has something like that. Please let me know any way I can help.

THanks!

[Fred]

I'd like to do something too.. I just made a donation to Canter in honour of free, but if I can help out with the jump too - what a wonderful idea. let us know.

14 years ago Oct 17 we had to make the same hard decision for our Mom. As hard as it was, we all knew it was what was right for her. Fourteen years later, I still know we had no other choice.

still sending you warm hugs from frosty Ontario
xoxxo

[Luvinfoofy]

I think the jump is an absolutely wonderful idea, along with the award.

I have a question for those of you who knew free in "real life". I never got the chance to meet Mary, and I've always wanted to ask her about her connections in Peoria, IL. I'm pretty sure she lived there for a good amount of time and I was wondering if anyone knows if she was involved with The Heart of Illinois Pony Club or Rosefield Farm.

Over and over I've thought "that same sounds so familiar" (Mary Sparks) and when I realized she lived in Peoria, I'm sure thats why. Anyone know?

[LAZ]

Yes, they did live in Peoria. I believe Andy rode with Kiki Osborne at Hunter Oaks (though I may be mistaken on that).

Andy's horse Miller came from Fairmount.

[Xctrygirl]

Hi guys,

Joe it was good to speak to you yesterday. Chin up and keep telling her that we miss her and want whatever she wants. Give my best to Andy and be strong.

All my best,

~Emily

[persefne]

Just stopping in to give my best to Andy and Joe. Still praying for a miracle...hang in there and take care of yourselves, as free would want you to.

[Mariequi]

Sending those hugs hourly, Andy and family.

[IQ3day]

Andy, I have not talked to you in a very long time. But I sit here and read this, and cry. I am so sorry to hear about your mom. She is such an amazing lady. Over the years I have grown to know you and her, and it just kills me to see you and your family going through such a hard time. Please know that I am praying for you and your family. Let me know if there is anything that I can do for you.
Coren

[vineyridge]

Prayers are still coming, both for free and for her family. I had to do the same thing for my mother, and while I know I did what she wanted, I still sometimes feel as if I had murdered her. Those thoughts will show up, since grief always includes a huge dose of guilt.

Andy, you guys, don't ever let those guilty thoughts overcome the courage that you, as a family, have shown in freeing free to choose her own path, wherever it may lead her.

I'd like to donate to the jump at FlHP or for an award or to whatever else the family thinks would be an appropriate honoring of free's life.

[Halfhalting]

I'm praying for a miracle for your dear Mary. She has been fighting a good fight. Please tell her that her COTH friends are pulling for her and love her. http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/cry.gif

[IQ3day]

Andy
Coren updated me about your mom. My heart aches for you and your dad. Three years ago my family had to make the difficult decision in regards to my dad after he developed serious nonrecoverable complications from surgery. I never in my life would have expected to pray that my father would die. It was difficult yet easy to ask God to take him peacefully to end any suffering.
I was alone with him when he died. Just me and him with the TV on in his room, holding hands. There is no greater love than letting someone have their wishes honored and to let them go. Many of us are faced with this with our family members and beloved pets. It just seems so unfair.
I prayed for a miracle until my Dad's last breath and I hope you all are doing the same for your mom. Miracles do happen. If this cannot be just remember you are a wonderful son and your mom loves you with all her being. She knows you and your dad are with her so keep talking to her, giving her kisses, and praying for that miracle. Then put everything else in God's hands. I hope she will recover to continue her love for her favorite earthly OTTBs. If this cannot happen she wil be taking on all those OTTBs in Heaven. Either way she has alot of work to do. God bless you Andy. Co and I are thinking of you everyday!
Kathy M

[La Luz]

:angel: I'm new the forums but sending good thoughts to you and your dad. That wasn't an easy decision, but it was the right one and following your mom's wishes. Good thoughts to you and your family.

Fly Free

[Carol Ames]

laz check yuor PPts.

[Carol Ames]

laz check your PPts.

[Carol Ames]

laz check your Pts.

[CANTERSoIL]

I only just met Mary at this year's paddock sale, where she came up mostly just to be supportive, I believe. She rode all over with us on the golf cart while photographing and evaluating our CANTER purchases. While things were very hectic and I didn't get to chat much with her one on one, the one thing that absolutely stood out and struck me very much about Mary is that she seems so very GENUINE, something that seems to be such a rare commodity these days. She just plain loves thoroughbreds and wants to see them all healthy & happy and wanted no glory or credit for all the wonderful things she's done to help them. This was so very apparent.

Our annual Hunter Pace is next weekend and we are working on seeing if there is time to get one more sign made for a sponsored jump and we will name it in Mary's honor. The CANTER jump sponsors signs stay up for the entire year on the new cross country course at Triangle H Farm. If it's too late for that to be done, we'll offer a prize in her honor, perhaps to the "Most Inspirational" horse/rider team or other qualification that we might come up with. I hope the family doesn't mind. I do understand that Mary has an affection for Fairmount Park and the horses her and she has made a difference for many of them even from so far away, so I think it's only fitting. There are several exracers from Fairmount Park that now live their lives and enjoy new careers at Triangle H.

In the meantime, we'll be praying for a miracle for Mary. http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/sadsmile.gif

[Finnegan]

http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/cry.gif

[Xctrygirl]

After a quick battle on off course, I am back here jingling and to remind myself whats really important in life, friends and family.

Mary I galloped a big horse who is running soon and I thought of you. He was pulling me so hard and I knew how easy it would be to just turn him loose and let him roll. But I knew its not the time, he has to do his job first. He had to listen and he has to learn. And while we struggled I knew I was learning and doing my job too. It would have been easier on my muscles, especially in the 50 some odd degrees, to just enjoy that free fast gallop. But thats not the deal.

You have a better view of the whole deal and what it means. And in part I envy you. And in part I worry. Are you concerned you won't be able to save more ottb's? Because you will. Are you afraid you won't see Andy achieve his dreams, because you will. Are you out there wishing you had ridden again, because you will.

I'm crying now b/c I never met you. We talked so much and I just figured there would be time. Maybe you and alot of others know what I mean.
Lad is doing well, he adores being back in work. Kaymin, the ottb I sold last year is packing around a nice adult amateur. Nick is well adjusted in the school program and loves all the carrots. These are the updates I haven't been able to tell you. I miss you. I miss our talks. And I know of an awesome 2 yr old you should watch next year. But I bet I shouldn't worry, because you will.

~Emily

Ps> Sorry if I made people cry, I am too fwiw.

[free]

Hi everyone. I am glad to bring some good news to you tonight. I am sorry for this rollercoaster ride of news, but my mom opened her left eye today. She also moved both hands. She put her tumb up a little and my bother asked her to play the piano and she did with her right fingers. When she opened her eyes we asked her if she could see her and she even nodded yes. I couldn't believe my eyes when she did that. We told her that we loved her and I told her that everyone is pulling for her on coth. She even gave two small smiles when we tol her this. The doctors are going to do another ct scan soon. I think this took them by a big surprise. I hope this is the start of a wonderful miracle. Thank you for all the support you have given us.

Andy

[Lori T]

Oh, Andy!
What a true miracle! This is wonderful news!
Sending more good jingles your way..
Lori
http://www.calypsofarm.piczo.com

[Bensmom]

What amazing news! http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

Thanks so much for updating us -- jingles and prayers continue!

Libby

[Carried Away]

fabulous fabulous news!! praying hard for free and family. sometimes miracles do happen.

[Elliesmom]

Wonderful news! The jingling continues!!

[arnika]

Andy, don't be sorry for letting us know that your mom is doing better. That is such fantastic news! http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif I'll keep jingling as hard as I can and sending every bit of positive energy I have to her.

It is a long road and takes time to heal but it sounds as though she is starting the journey. I'm so happy for your family. http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/yes.gif

[Rockin']

Andy,
you cannot believe how much you have made my day,so many time during the day I think about you and your family and have hoped and prayed for a miracle.If anyone deserves one you guys do and I want Mary to be back out there giving you the support that means so much to you.
When Heroicity was very ill and very nearly died the song "Bridge over troubled Waters" brought me so much comfort and I have been humming it (not singing as my voice stink.. http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif) for your Mum hoping that it will help her as much as I feel it helped Heroicity fight his battle.
Keep up the good fight...we are pulling for you...!!!

[Leigh]

Hi Andy, I'm sorry but I've never talked to your Mum as I rarely post but I have been reading this thread for a few days now and wanted to say that that is wonderful news that she is doing well and best wishes to you all xxxxx

[mbj]

WHOOHOO! Terrific news!

[deltawave]

Wow, that's wonderful! I'm so glad you posted an update. I've had an emotional day (nothing at all on par with what you're going through) and have been contemplating how there are "things" moving in this world that are beyond our comprehension. It ain't easy, but it's probably best, sometimes, to allow that thought to surface now and then when things seem hopelessly screwed up, unfair, or difficult.

My heart gave a happy flip flop when I read your news. It is now officially a happy day! http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/yes.gif

[Carol Ames]

Laz I just resenrthePT, it was a about KIKI who is now in VA with a farmful of horses, and, ponies to sell.

[Carol Ames]

Laz I just resentthePT, http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/yes.gif it was a about KIKI who is now in VA with a farmful of horses, and, ponies to sell.

[hookedoneventing]

I have been following your story from the beginning and have been thinking of you and your family daily. As I read your update this evening a chill ran down my spine and tears filled my eyes with the joy you must of felt when you received the gift of seeing your mothers eyes and smile! I am still praying that you will have daily miracles and that your Mom can be on the sidelines again soon!

[La Luz]

WOW! That's fantastic!

:angel: Jingles for Free! :angel:

[Janet]

What good news.

Thank you for including us, even though it IS a roller coaster.

[Irish Ei's]

Turbo Diesel JINGLES!!!!!!

[Xctrygirl]

WOW and Yeee ha!!! If I were a horse I would be bucking and squealing for hours.


Tell her we love her. Keep kicking Mary!!!

~Emily

[Sannois]

OMG The power of love and the will to live is an incredible thing! Jingling and praying like mad for your mom! http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/yes.gif

[Mariequi]

Andy, Andy, Andy, don't remember the last time I cried and laughed at the same time. Mary sure had an awful lot of love and good wishes thrust upon her by us. I asked my Mom who left me 9 years ago to please pull some strings if she had any - seriously. Andy, this sounds just so hopeful. I was afraid to open your e-mail and so glad I did! Thanks to everyone who stayed positive - it's tough, but sometimes all you've got and the best medicine of all.

[Luvinfoofy]

GREAT news, I've been checking in frequently hoping for news like this. We're all pulling for you, free.

[flbay]

Oh Andy, I am so happy to hear this fabulous news! Keep believing! If anyone can do it, your mother can!

[BBowen]

Andy, bless your heart for continuing to keep all of us posted on your mom. You have truly made our day with this wonderful news. Sending more and more prayers and jingles. Hugs to you and your family.

[Carol Ames]

Who was it whomentioned Kiki osborne in Peoria, Ill.?

[CoolMeadows]

Incredible news! http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif Go Mary! Many prayers and jingles from Virginia for free and her family.

[JDufort]

Wow - what great news! I can't begin to imagine your surprise, your joy, your tears at having a moment of communication with your Mom. Miracles do happen, especially when you let go!

Here's some OTTB news to share with Mary - our little weanling filly Buttons (Bridle Party) failed to meet her reserve at the OBS sale, so she's happily back home with us on the farm - she was a fantastic girl at the sale, but it really tuckered her out. After her trip through the ring, she came back to her stall, flopped down, and took a long nap. We brought two new horses home from the sale, and sent a third one home with Maxxtrot. Thunder is with Maxxtrot because he is very flashy and looks like he wants to be a hunter - he's a 3 yr old unraced chestnut with lots of chrome stud colt (actually, as of Thursday, he's a gelding). Buckley, his "brother" - same sire, same farm, pasturemates - came home with us. He's also a 3 yr old unraced chestnut with a small star - he's the jock and looks like he wants to be an eventer. He also got cut Thursday - we're newbies at this, and stunned at the swelling. He's a wonderful boy, and this week he's learning what a saddle on his back feels like. We also brought home Van Van, a 1990 broodmare in foal. She's our second Vanlandingham mare (Diamond's sire), and she's a grand lady out of a Prince John dam. Earlier this year we purchased Miss Muscles by Vanlandingham out of a Secretariat mare. We have high hopes for both, and they'll be heading to either Florida or Kentucky to be bred this spring.

We missed Mary at the sale, and would have loved to compare opinions on our selections like we did last year. Please tell her we look to hearing her opinions on our acquisitions when she's up and about.

[can't re-]

What great news, Andy!!! It really
seems like a miracle.

Still jingling and praying in FL.

[mademoiselle]

Yeahhhhhhh!!!!!!!

That's an amazing news ...
It made my day thank you http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/yes.gif

Go Free, go http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[LAZ]

That is fabulous news!

(I tried to think of something else to say, but that about covers it.) http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

Strong healing thoughts from everyone in Indiana.

[annikak]

That is wonderful wonderful news- tell her everything you've told us, and share all that you can with her...she will surely take healing energy from all the wonderful news!

Hugs to everyone there!!!!!! and Keep Kicking!

[BeastieSlave]

Oh Andy that is great!! I'm sorry that I didn't check in last night because I have been thinking about you guys all the time. I'm still jingling. Thanks for taking the time to tell us such happy news. Hopefully you'll have more wonderful things to share soon. We'll be here....

[War Admiral]

That is amazingly great news!! So happy to hear it. Avery (OTTB) and I will continue jingling as hard as we can here in GA. Assuming of course Avery can be persuaded to *jingle* his curb chain and not try to eat it. http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

[AppJumpr08]

Awesome!!!! I'm so happy for you all http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif
My OTTB boys and I will keep the jingles coming from New Hampshire!!

[Noctis]

JINGLES!!! I am so glad for a good sign! keeping jingling madly here in tn

[Maple Shade]

I have watched this thread with tears everyday. Each time I think to myself...if anyone can do this Mary can! Andy you are an amazing son and Mary is an amazing mom. I am grateful to you for sharing and helping to remind me of what's most important in life. Jingling like mad in NE GA! GO MARY GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The world needs you HERE Mary!!!!!

[starboard]

Go mary Go!!!
We love you mary!!

[free]

Hello everyone. We are so thankful for your continuous support for Mary. Your posts here on Coth are unbelievable and help us to remain strong for Mary. I read them every day and cry along with you. Since yesterday was a miracle day for Mary, I want to share 2 of our favorite photos of Mary with you if I can figure out how to post them!

Joe

[DressageGeek "Ribbon Ho"]

This is just such wonderful news...I keep cross posting to check on your mother. She has touched so many people.

[Luvinfoofy]

Hi Joe-

To post directly on COTH you have to pay to have a "premium account", but I would suggest starting an account on http://www.webshots.com and posting a link to that. It's pretty easy to sign up and upload the photos, but when you share the link make sure that you post the link that says "Your Public Community Homepage" and have the albums open to the public. If you need any help, just ask!!

Still jingling and praying for your Mary - if anyone can do it she can!!

[frugalannie]

Praying and jingling. With all the love surrounding her, no wonder Mary had to muster an acknowledgement!

Please give her hand a big ol' squeeze from us all.

[GatoGordo]

What great news! This thread has brought tears to my eyes many times, but this last time they were happy tears. May the good luck continue.

[mbj]

Terrific news!Will keep jingling!!

[eks]

Andy and Family,

I can't tell you how happy I am to hear about the good news. I check in often to see how your Mom is doing..and I was so excited to read about the latest development! I am continuing to pray for all of you! Thanks for being so great about updating us.

[dianad]

Andy and Joe,
What a roller coaster you are on... hang in there, I know it's exhausting. Thrilled about this latest news http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/yes.gif. Mary was so supportive of me getting my CANTER guy... hugs to you guys. Diana

[ESG]

Wow - leave for a couple of days and a miracle happens! Maybe I should do it more often. http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/lol.gif

Andy and Joe, congrats on the news. I'll still keep jingling away. http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

[persefne]

WOW!!! I just got in and thought about waiting until the morning to check up on COTH, but I'm sooo glad I stopped in! My eyes are so full of happy tears that I hope this comes across coherently. Forgive any misspellings...I can't see the computer screen!!! How wonderful to hear this news, and jingling for many more improvements as each day progresses.

[La Luz]

Photobucket.com is a lot faster, in my experience, than Webshots and it gives you an immediate URL to use for posting. You're welcome to email me (laluzdelarumba@yahoo.com) with the photos attached and I can upload them and host them for you.

http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif Un Milagro! (A miracle)

[MissFit]

hooray!! http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/yes.gif

[Fred]

dear Andy and Joe, what wonderful news! I'm all teary too.
Mary, come on girl!
xoxo
Gail

[Marli]

Andy-

Your update is fabulous news and I'm praying for Mary and your family that progress continues! The power of faith, the belief that recovery CAN happen, is a mighty force. Many, many continued prayers on this course of recovery. God bless

[jamr75]

I was so happy when I heard the news! What little surprises and roller coasters life puts you on. We are all praying for little miracles every day for you guys!

Jen

[Jessi P]

YYYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEeeeeee HHHHaaaaaaaaaaaaawW!!!!!! (Insert "bucking & kicking for sheer happiness" smiley here)

GO MARY GO!!

You get 'em girlfriend!! What a fighter, I am so so so very proud of you and your wonderfully strong, supportive, loving family. Keep up the good fight. One step at a time. Good girl Mary!

Love, hugs, and jingles from West Virginia!

[Xctrygirl]

Still jingling here in Del. Mary that tough strong boy finished 3rd today, but sadly was claimed too. Don't worry I'll keep an eye on him!!!


Come on Mary keep kicking.

Here's a pic of my "work" maybe Andy or Joe can describe it to you.

http://www.finalturngallery.com/album1220/W_JimmysPride_dk2401

~Emily

[Pocket Pony]

Wow, what an amazing update! I must admit I haven't checked in to this post in a few days, after Andy's previous sad news. But boy am I glad I took a peek! JINGLES JINGLES JINGLES for Mary!!! http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/yes.gif We need a happy clapping smiley face graemlin! http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[Carol Ames]

Andy, and, Joe, you andFree were prayed for todayatTruro Church,and, are onthe prayer chain listt here. Ifr you PT me your adress, they would liketo sndyoua card as well. I hope you feel uplifted, and, conmmfoted

[BeastieSlave]

I am so glad that we can be hopeful about the updates again! Thank you Joe and Andy. Go Mary!! We're still jingling.

[B Street Tango]

What a wonderful community the horse world can be. I've never met Mary as I know lots of others on the board haven't either, but we're all still checking in on a regular basis, pulling, hoping for the best and keeping your family and friends in our thoughts. Common Mary, jingling for another miracle!

[La Luz]

Hey, everyone. Here are photos that Joe (Free's husband) sent to me.

I'm still jingling for Free!

Free 1 (http://i12.photobucket.com/albums/a212/sflegallyblonde/Mary_7_26_04.jpg)

Free & Andy (http://i12.photobucket.com/albums/a212/sflegallyblonde/MaryandAndy.jpg)

[Pol]

Great pix. Thanks. Come on Mary, you can do it. Massachusetts is pulling for you! http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/winkgrin.gif

[q's mom]

What wonderful news!! Never under estimate the power of prayer! Or in this case, jingles http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/winkgrin.gif

[can't re-]

What nice pictures! http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

Still jingling!

[riverpup]

Thank you for the great pictures. Sending healing vibes... so happy to hear your good news. Go Mary!

--riverpup

[BBowen]

La Luz:

Please thank Joe for sharing the lovely pictures. Mary looks like a doll and Andy is quite a handsome young man. Sending prayers and jingles every day for Mary, Joe and Andy. Looking forward to continued good news. I am so glad Joe and Andy have each other for strength and comfort.

[rileyiscuter]

What a great Monday to hear this good news. More jingles from alabama!

[flypony74]

This news is incredible! The human body has an amazing ability to heal itself, creating miracles everyday! Be strong, Mary, Andy, and Joe! Continued thoughts, prayers, and jingles from TN.

[bambam]

Wow! Great news! Thank you for updating us. I will keep jingling.

[Rockin']

Love the photos,Mary looks so vivacious and full of life.Thank-you for sharing them with us!!

[shawnee_Acres]

Just got on and checked this thread. What an AMAZING miracle please keep us posted!

[Pat Ness]

http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif
Thanks for the great news and the photos!!!
Along with everyone else, you have made my week!
http://chronicleforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[Gunnar]

Great news on this Monday! Andy and Joe hand on tight!

I am still sending those powerful jingles your way.

Come on Mary get thee well. YOu are very loved!

[barbaraG]

http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/winkgrin.gif

Sending little kisses on the forehead to Free, Andy and Joe!! http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/yes.gif

BarbaraG
GWV/ http://chronicleforums.com/images/custom_smilies/yes.gif

[IQ3day]

Andy and Joe,keep faith. Your recent news on Mary is just what everyone has been jingling for. I am glad you have had the strength to keep all the horsey folks updated. I think everyone is eager every day to get the latest update. After seeing Mary's photo I realize I did meet her with Andy down at Rocking Horse one of those times Coren was there for winter training.
I am looking forward to meeting her again at one of the horse trials. So tell her to keep improving and to get back out there ASAP so she can keep Andy "under control'!!!
Coren's mom, Kathy