Anyone else unsure if you are single or not

[islandrider]

My SO and I have been kinda sorta separated for a few months. Now we are spending some time together without really talking about if we are "together" or not. I am injured from a recent car accident, so sex is out of the question.
It is a strangely comfortable place to be. Pressure is off, we are on our best behavior, feels like all doors are open. Anyone else?

[EponaRoan]

[grumpy old lady voice]Whatever happened to dating? Or just talking and getting to know someone? Do you even like this person you are boinking? I mean, sex is good and fine and all that, but having relations with someone doesn't necessarily mean you are in a relationship. Does every relationship have to be labeled? And what about Naomi?! [/grumpy old lady voice]

[erinwillow]

I'm always single :winkgrin: hahahaha, just don't tell him that! :lol::lol:

[BuddyRoo]

I guess I'm a little confused about your question...

But, as far as the "strangely comfortable" part...I guess I kind of get that. IE: If you start out as friends without any physical stuff, you get to that comfortable friendship place and everything else is gravy.

So if you started out with fireworks but didn't get to focus much on just enjoying each other's company and learning about each other as friends--I can see how it might be a new and interesting place.

[TheJenners]

I have been there. As in, "I'm seeing a guy, but he's not my boyfriend..." Sucked.

Current, and hopefully long-lasting, fella was a friend first and a friend for a while. I met him when my then-husband and I moved up here; and he was currently engaged and got married. He and his wife were horsey. He stayed my friend, and his wife by proxy, after my divorce several years later. After his divorce, we did stuff together and even joked that we would be great gf/bf but didn't make that step for a while before we felt there was no future in it (he wanted kids, and I do NOT).

I think starting as friends rocks, because you know each other in ways you don't know each if you start by dating. Friends tend to let all the creepy, slimy things out of the closets; you tend to hide those when you date ;). As such, he can never say he didn't know what he was getting into when he started dating me...

[lizathenag]

Well California says I am married and the US gov't says I am a single woman. . .

[InVA]

If you are wondering then you are probably single.. or will be soon since you are actually thinking about it.. which will soon drive you nuts and lead to your doing something stupid that will guarantee the end of the maybe-relationship...

not that I have any experience with this...

[partlycloudy]

Well, I left my husband and was trying to get him to sign divorce papers when he died. I was (an still am) living with a man. So wasn't sure if I was a widow or what?
Still don't know and don't know how to answer questionaires.

[sickofcollege]

Lizthenag...I hope that someday everyone in our country will have the same marriage rights. Everyone wants to love and be loved in return. Simple as that...why can't we just let people live their lives as they wish? Afterall, we only live once.

On the other hand, I'm stuck in a really weird position currently. My ex-bf of 4 years and I are still great friends. But, sometimes we revert back to our old ways. Which, is really confusing. I feel like the only way to truly get out of this weird rut is to distance ourselves a bit...I dunno...I'm so confused/frustrated/irritated sometimes.

[broughton_sporthorses]

I'm not sure, but if you really want to know, just ask him how he feels.
If you are happy with how things are going, just let them go that way and don't say anything until it is quite obvious you both want the same thing :)

[M.K.Smith]

I have a unique situation... I'm a widow... lost my husband to melanoma in July. I just can't feel comfortable thinking of myself as being single-- although, I'm painfully aware of it. Neither of us chose to end our marriage-- cancer intervened. I still wear my ring. I hate being a widow.

[Chall]

I think you decide the relationship and you decide what it is, and what the other person thinks is his choice. Works for me.

[buschkn]

If you are wondering then you are probably single.. or will be soon since you are actually thinking about it.. which will soon drive you nuts and lead to your doing something stupid that will guarantee the end of the maybe-relationship...

not that I have any experience with this...

:lol::lol::lol: Love this.

Also, MK Smith, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what that would be like.

As for me, I'm not wondering. I'm sure I'm single. Best of luck to the OP.