WWYD?

[Tiffany01]

If your trainer hasnt called you back or txt you back or anything to make sure your lesson was still on for tonightA?

[hitchinmygetalong]

Are you talking about today? It's still early. I would give her more time. How far do you have to drive for the lesson? If I never heard back, I would go to the barn "just in case" if it wasn't too far. If she's a no-show, you could spend your time grooming just to make the trip worth it. If it's too long a drive to chance it, I would call her and leave a pleasant voice mail saying, "Sorry we missed each other - I never got confirmation of our lesson for tonight so I'm assuming there isn't one. Hope this isn't a problem for you! Please call me so we can schedule the next lesson. Thanks!"

[Woodland]

I never confirm scheduled lessons I am too busy for that nonsense! If I make an appointment I keep it and I expect the client to do the same. Why? Because I run a BUSINESS!

Tiffany! You do complain about the oddest things!

[Tiffany01]

She drives 45 min to get to my barn. She hasnt called me or txt me all day and lastnight eather. I know she is busy but still......

[Tiffany01]

I never confirm scheduled lessons I am too busy for that nonsense! If I make an appointment I keep it and I expect the client to do the same. Why? Because I run a BUSINESS!

Tiffany! You do complain about the oddest things!


hahaha everyone says it;s my disabitity.

[trubandloki]

In general I have never called to confirm my lesson. It is scheduled so it is a lesson. No reason to call and confirm.

Is there a specific reason you felt the need to call and confirm?

My reaction to my trianer not calling me back if I called to confirm would be directly related to what I said in the message. What exactly did you say in the message you left?

[hitchinmygetalong]

She drives 45 min to get to my barn. She hasnt called me or txt me all day and lastnight eather. I know she is busy but still......

Then I would be at the barn with a groomed and tacked up horse at the appointed time. If she doesn't show, then I would mount up and just walk or trot a bit (NO JUMPING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!), then give my horse an extra long grooming session.

[Tiffany01]

In general I have never called to confirm my lesson. It is scheduled so it is a lesson. No reason to call and confirm.

Is there a specific reason you felt the need to call and confirm?

My reaction to my trianer not calling me back if I called to confirm would be directly related to what I said in the message. What exactly did you say in the message you left?

cuz I always like to.

[bumknees]

The question is why do you feel the need to confirm?
Did your trainer say something like 'hey text me the night before/ morning of to make sure nothing has come up." If not dont worry about confirmation of the lesson.

[Woodland]

Has she stood you up before?

Do you pester her all the time?

Perhaps you are to needy. A bit of self examination may be required here. I have many students with disabilities of varying degrees - none of them text me - I would not have it. Do you text your dentist to confirm your appointments?

[Tiffany01]

Has she stood you up before?

Do you pester her all the time?

Perhaps you are to needy. A bit of self examination may be required here. I have many students with disabilities of varying degrees - none of them text me - I would not have it. Do you text your dentist to confirm your appointments?

Has she stood you up before? no
Do you pester her all the time? yes
Perhaps you are to needy? yes
Do you text your dentist to confirm your appointments? no

[Woodland]

Has she stood you up before? no
Do you pester her all the time? yes
Perhaps you are to needy? yes
Do you text your dentist to confirm your appointments? no

Well I think you have your answer - now what are you going to do with it?

[Tiffany01]

Well I think you have your answer - now what are you going to do with it?

I geuss not bug her so much and leave her alone.:sigh:

[HuntJumpSC]

Well I think you have your answer - now what are you going to do with it?

The same thing Tiff does with all the other answers & advice people here offer her- absolutely nothing. *Slaps forehead* I was not even going to go there, but I did. Blame it on too much coffee and nothing to do at work...:p

[Tiffany01]

I geuss not bug her so much and leave her alone.:sigh:

thats somthing.

[Jaegermonster]

wwid?

get the hint and stop bugging her.

[Coreene]

Tiffany, many people in the world are disabled in one way or another. And 99.99% of them just get on with their lives and do not ever bring it up or use it as a catch-all excuse. Think about it. Your disability does not define you. Rise above using it as your excuse.

[Woodland]

Tiffany, many people in the world are disabled in one way or another. And 99.99% of them just get on with their lives and do not ever bring it up or use it as a catch-all excuse. Think about it. Your disability does not define you. Rise above using it as your excuse.

Exactly!

[Woodland]

thats somthing.

Now stick to it!

[Catalina]

Be on the horse at the appointed time ready for a lesson. If the trainer is a no show, ride anyway, then call later to reschedule. Simple.

[Tiffany01]

Got a txt saying:

out w/my mom. trying to deal w/ her probs. will b at ur house @ 7 to pick u up.

my trainer picks me up 2x a week for my lessons and takes me home.

[Jaegermonster]

Tiffany, many people in the world are disabled in one way or another. And 99.99% of them just get on with their lives and do not ever bring it up or use it as a catch-all excuse. Think about it. Your disability does not define you. Rise above using it as your excuse.

Coreene I think I love you. Esp doing what I do, I get so sick and tired of people using whatever combination of letters that they have or think they have as an excuse for bad behavior. Not saying that's the case here, but it certainly seems to be en vogue to blame everything on some disease or disorder, like that makes being rude or ill behaved ok.

[CoopsZippo]

As a professional dog trainer if my clients called and texted me all the time I would get a little ticked off and they would no longer be my clients. Period.

If there is some sort of emergency that they need my help with then please feel free to contact me. But bugging me all the time I would be telling them to find themselves a new trainer. My time is valuable. Just as my clients is.

[Tiffany01]

my trainer and I txt all the time to each other.

[KateKat]

I think you need to have a little more faith and trust in your trainer. If she has never stood you up and always picks you up at the time you have agreed upon, then don't doubt it. I think disability or not there are a lot of other people like you who feel the need to be a little too needy and controlling over situations and it can ruin relationships, both personal and professional. So from here on out, since your trainer has been nothing but professional, I agree that giving her a break and relaxing a little is definitely a good idea.

[CoopsZippo]

my trainer and I txt all the time to each other.

Now the next question is does she do it just to make you happy and or shut up? Does she call you first or do you always call her first. If you are always calling her first then she is just going along because she is too nice or polite to say something.

Too put things very bluntly.... Your trainer has some personal stuff going on. Leave her alone to handle it. If she wants to talk to you then she will contact you.

[HuntJumpSC]

Got a txt saying:

out w/my mom. trying to deal w/ her probs. will b at ur house @ 7 to pick u up.

my trainer picks me up 2x a week for my lessons and takes me home.

Sounds like she has a full plate and alot of personal stuff to deal with. I'd back off on pestering her so much- it can be very aggravating to constantly get texts & phone calls from people that are unnecessary. If she has a mother who is sick/disabled/going through issues then she has more than she can handle right now.
My students only called me to check on lessons if the weather looked iffy and they had not yet heard from me. Otherwise, they were expected to be at the barn on time and ready to ride.

[Tiffany01]

Now the next question is does she do it just to make you happy and or shut up?

I dont know?

[Coreene]

Never mind.

[GoodyTwo]

Now the next question is does she do it just to make you happy and or shut up?





I believe that was a rhetorical question… something you were meant to think about seriously and decide whether you need to change your pattern of behaviour.

[Tiffany01]

I believe that was a rhetorical question… something you were meant to think about seriously and decide whether you need to change your pattern of behaviour.

ohhhhh I understand now.

[Giddy-up]

Got a txt saying:

out w/my mom. trying to deal w/ her probs. will b at ur house @ 7 to pick u up.

my trainer picks me up 2x a week for my lessons and takes me home.

ok, that makes a little more sense why you are asking her. You didn't mention she drives you to/from the barn as well.

In the future when you have something scheduled--just stick to the plan. Be ready in your drive way at whatever time to be picked up. I am sure since your trainer has never ignored or forgotten you before, she would call you IF something came up or plans changed. :)

[Woodland]

Got a txt saying:

out w/my mom. trying to deal w/ her probs. will b at ur house @ 7 to pick u up.

my trainer picks me up 2x a week for my lessons and takes me home.

Seriously? Then you need to protect that golden goose now don't you? How would you go about protecting it? Not caging it so it wants to leave but protecting it so it will be there in the future?

(My carpets are clean n0w so I have to go work in the barn - I will read up later)

[tothepointe]

Coreene I think I love you. Esp doing what I do, I get so sick and tired of people using whatever combination of letters that they have or think they have as an excuse for bad behavior. Not saying that's the case here, but it certainly seems to be en vogue to blame everything on some disease or disorder, like that makes being rude or ill behaved ok.

This is so true. I have an axis 1 mental disorder that qualifies me as disabled and I work my booty of to make sure that no one ever knows. Am I ashamed of it? No. But I do like when I do tell people and they say "oh your the last one I would suspected of having x"

Disabilities are something to rise about and not use as a scapegoat. If I didn't have this challenge ( I don't like labelling it as a disability ) I wouldn't have achieved half as much as I have.

If your a nice forthright person people will like you no matter what your diagnosis.

[Coreene]

Tothepointe, I like your style! Sadly, the OP has the opposite modus operandi. Fortunately, the number of people using their disability as an excuse for bad behavior and attention-getting is greatly overshadowed by people like you. As an aside, Para-Equestrian is deservingly a recognized part of the FEI - look at people like Lee Pearson and his counterparts and you'll see, time and again, people who just get on with it, challenges and all. And none of them play the disability card either. Tothepointe, welcome to the BB!

[SmokenMirrors]

Exactly how old are you Tiffany?