not the usual "sensitive female question"

[hopeless]

Let me start off with stating that I am not a troll and this is not a joke. I am not looking to stir up trouble or anything. Yes, this is an alter but this is a very embarrassing question for me and I don't want anyone who might know me IRL to know about it.

First I'm would like to know if anyone has had or has heard of someone having "the big O" while riding?

Second, let me tell you why I ask. I am in my mid 20's and I am not, nor have ever been, sexually active. A couple of months ago, out of the total blue, during the canter this happened to me. I don't know what I did differently and why it happened then.

I thought it was pure chance and it wouldn't happen again. But then about a month later it happened again (again at the canter). And after that it started happening more frequently. It's progressed to now every ride.

I know some may say this is a positive thing, I should be thankful, many people would kill for this. But it is not. I'm miserable and at my wits' end. I don't know what to do. I feel like I can't ride anymore. If I perch in the saddle it's ok. But I ride dressage so it's kind of imperative that I be able to sit down in the saddle.

I've been to a gynecologist who told many people would love to have this problem. (sigh) She did prescribe some lydacaine(sp?) which didn't work. I tested it on the back of my hand, too and it didn't numb my hand either so I think maybe it's too weak?

So I'm really not sure what I should do. I'm hoping that someone knows something, has had this happen, knows someone it's happened to, has some ideas etc. Riding is my life. I've been riding for 20 years and right now I feel like I'm going to have to quit unless this can be fixed. Or I could just walk-trot forever.

I think it's programmed into my body now. I hypothesize that after the second time it happened, my body said "oh this is where I'm supposed to experience this" and now that's what it's doing. I'm considering hypnotism but I'm embarrassed to tell someone about it. It was bad enough to tell the doctor.

I tried a different saddle just in case-no difference. I ride in schooling tights, very soft and stretchy. I've had them for over a year. The only thing I can think is that 6 months ago I came off an anti-depressant. And so maybe that's the issue. But the only hole in that theory is this didn't happen before I was on the anti-depressant.

I'm back on a different anti-depressant now just in case.

Thanks for your help and I'd appreciate it if you took me seriously because I know that the subject sounds like some young kid bored on the internet or something. I wish that was the case actually. :(

[aurora171989]

I'm in no way an expert on this, but I wonder if it's the way you were landing on the saddle that stimulated the area. I know horse riding can break hymens but I'm not sure why.

[sdlbredfan]

Does the horse in question have a particularly rolling canter? That is usually a pleasant thing, but OTOH, I can imagine this would be distracting. Something you might try is experimenting with different thickness panty liners, so that any contact in the sensitive area in question is blunted.

[Donkey]

Try Full seat breeches instead of thin tights.

Go to an adult xxx store and buy one of the gel/lotion products that they sell to men to dull sensation and prolong their "stamina".

Or sit back and enjoy the ride (couldn't resist)

[fourmares]

Been there, done that... certainly not every ride, and anyone who told you that people would be happy to have that "problem" is a moron. It is an annoying problem to have at best. You might try riding in different pants. Maybe the thin tights are a problem... you might have to modifiy the way you sit, maybe sit more on your seat bones (or less). You might also want to contact a sex therapist... while they get more patients that have trouble acheiving the Big O, there are plenty of woman that are plagued by inappropriate orgasms. I recall hearing about a woman that couldn't have her hair washed at the beauty salon without having one... go figure. You may have to um, "stimulate" the area to build up a "callus"... I've also heard that vibrators can reduce sensitivity if they are over used... good god, I just said all that and I'm not using an alter...

[jetsmom]

Ride someone's spooky TB. After you get dumped for not paying attention, I guarantee you that your problem will disappear when you are forced to concentrate on the horse.

[Proffie]

When I went off my antidepressant, I went from needing a jackhammer to needing just a sideways glance.

I would definitely chalk it up to your neurons having a field day.

[hopeless]

Ok thanks for all the suggestions so far. I think I have some old full seat I could try. I didn't even know there were such things as "sex therapists" LOL.

Proffie,
Did it go away? That's good to hear I'm not alone in that sense. Maybe there is some hope it will be solved by returning to the anti-depressant. I might be fatter on the a.d. but at least I'll be able to ride. I'm crossing my fingers.

[kdow]

When I went off my antidepressant, I went from needing a jackhammer to needing just a sideways glance.

I would definitely chalk it up to your neurons having a field day.

Anti-depressants pretty much directly effect some of the chemicals involved in sexual interest/response - there's a reason why every single SSRI I've ever looked at the info for lists impotence/difficulty achieving, er, 'completion' as a possible side effect.

Given that many side effects FROM SSRIs fade after a while of being on them (~6 weeks ish) I would imagine the reverse is also likely to be true - it just takes your brain some time to adjust to the levels of various chemicals/hormones that it's getting, and adjust production accordingly.

(Note that there are also other drugs that can act on the same chemicals/hormones also, so there may be other things complicating the matter. For example, some prescription pain killers mimic seratonin.)

Though I also agree with the commenter that the gynecologist's response sounds pretty inappropriate and insensitive. I'd find a new doctor on general principles.

Other thought:

Our hormone levels (including the ones involved in sexual interest/activity) do naturally vary as we age. If the OP was on anti-depressants for a while, they may have muted the effects of any changes that were taking place, so some of it could just be down to how her body is 'wired' right now, and the change would've been more gradual (giving time to adjust to it and kind of de-sensitize) without the dulling effects of the anti-depressants.

(In the same way that women frequently change their level of interest in sex depending on where they are in their menstrual cycle - different levels of hormones at different times, different physiological responses.)

[mvp]

Yup, learning to sit the trot on a lungeline, first one ever. Strange, but I poker faced it up and didn't say anything... until now!

You can change things about your equipment, position, etc.. I'm sure the Big O could be a distraction, but how big does it need to be? Perhaps waiting for it (in a bad way!) is some of the problem.

There is lots of research that supports the idea that getting into the right mental space is much more of a factor for women getting there than it is for men. So this suggests that you might benefit from taking a different view of your situation. I'm not sure why the whole thing fills you with such dread. I don't mean to minimize your horseback O, but could you decide that this was part of your package deal and not worry about it? In other words, put yourself in a different head space about the whole thing.

In addition, you might also go to a half-seat at the moment and stop that puppy in its tracks.

In any case, you are certainly not alone. It's also a *great* topic for a good sex therapist if you had interest in working with one for other reasons. But find a damned good one.

[MikeP]

When I went off my antidepressant, I went from needing a jackhammer to needing just a sideways glance.


Ok, I've got absolutely no business even reading this thread let alone posting in it, but I gotta' say, that was freakin' funny! :lol:

[sketcher]

I was on Paxil for two years many years ago and one of the withdrawal symptoms was extreme sensitivity in that 'area'. It actually became painful and I didn't hae to be doing anything, let alone riding.

I would strongly suggest staying away from the antidepressants if you don't need them. If the problem is caused by some type of withdrawal and your body's need to readjust itself then you need to let your body go through that process. Antidepressant medications can cause a lot of issues - and I think weight gain, in the long run, might afffect your riding more than the other problem.

[FindersKeepers]

Cheapest, easiest way... wear a maxi paid when you're riding. There's too much padding in between you and the saddle. Game over. :)

And no, it's not a good problem to have. Not when you're an athlete and this is your sport. If you're out wandering trails for fun, sure might be a nice surprise once in awhile.

Luckily, I haven't had this problem, but can see how it could happen, and have been...errr... distracted at times...

[KateKat]

interesting issue...and I could completely see how this would be a PITA if it happened every.single.ride.

Although this doesn't happen to me, I notice that sometimes I can get rubbed in that area (painfully though, not pleasurably) depending on the type of underwear or breeches I'm wearing that day. So ditto the idea of trying different kinds of riding apparel.

[mkevent]

I used to be a pharmaceutical rep and promoted 2 different antidepressants. One was an SSRI(Paxil) and the other an SNRI(Effexor). Different antidepressants can have different effects on people-even if they are in the same class.
If you would like to stay on antidepressant therapy, you may ask about switching to another product or another class of antidepressants.
You are not alone and alot of people are too embarassed to talk about this. I had a doctor once tell me he had a patient who would have the big O everytime she saw a particular landscape she liked. It is quite inconvenient to have this happen when you don't want it to.
If your doctor isn't helpful, try finding a doctor who you trust and can talk to-they are out there and won't make fun of your situation. Good luck.

[Parker_Rider]

Cosmo cycles articles on women who have orgasms simply sitting at their desk at the office, or they used the example of riding too. However, it was so long ago that I read that article... I'm sure if you searched that site, cosmomag.com, they'd have something useful. I can see how that would definitely be an irritating problem!!
Yeah, SSRIs definitely inhibit.. but I don't know if I'd go that route just for this problem... the idea of going to an adult store for the sensation dulling stuff is good.
Or you could ride like GM yells about... in a "good galloping position, out of the saddle, up on your horse!!!" ;)

[Simkie]

Hopeless, perhaps your saddle is too small and you need more room in front of your crotch or ever a more shallow seat? If you're riding the rise, I can see how that could trigger those nerves. Perhaps a trip to your local tack store is in order...

[Alagirl]

Just wanting to add, talking about 'the big O' needs not to be embarrassing.

For women it's in the head to a big degree, getting there I mean. Your health care professional ought to take you serious though, no matter how a lot of 'other women' feel about it. I suppose anti depressants (as a lot of other medications) can affect the, uhm, sensation, not to say libido. Birth control pills, can, too (best way to not get pregnant, you have no desire to do 'it' :lol: ) affect it.

And last, chancing to look like a pervert, it's a good thing to explore your body and learning what makes it tick. There is nothing shameful in the pleasurable aspect of it. But it could safe your life knowing what is normal, up here and 'down there' and what is not.

And last, we all now the thing about working yourself in a frenzy: you get so worried that XYZ might happen, and you fret, and bingo, there it happens. the more we worry, the more it happens. Bed wetting, panic attacs or the inconvinient 'Big O'.

And yes, this thread, how ever embarrassing for the OP, has the makings of a COTH classic.

[Foxtrot's]

I'd be the last one not to take you seriously, but where sexual repression is sometimes common, it is refreshing that we can post this subject at all. Times have changed!

[Daydream Believer]

This has never happened to me...I'm grateful...but would a seat saver help? Maybe a sheepskin one? Something that changes how the saddle feels and the sensations?

What an awful PITA that would be. I hope you can get it resolved.

[Marieke]

It has to do with your seat. You sit too much up front, and not enough on your seatbones, you need to sit deeper in the saddle. Plus you need to open your hips more. This tend to happen when the hips are too closed as well. (ie closed and forward angled hips)

As far as putting padding in. I know of at least 1 person who can't wear pads while riding as she is guaranteed to fade off.....

Sitting deeper and taller with open hips helps. And when I was in my 20s this was a frequent topic amongst many of us. You are not alone, not even by far.

Fix you seat. You have the best possible teacher (yourself), if it feels good, you are off balance. Make sure you are miserable ;)

[Risk-Averse Rider]

if it feels good, you are off balance. Make sure you are miserable ;)Isn't that true of so much of riding? :D

[hopeless]

Thank you all very much for your help and suggestions.

The funny thing is that the first time this happened I was sitting much deeper and more on my seat bones than I have in the past. You are right about my canter especially, I don't sit down enough. But that one day I was working on it and the day before I had had a lesson where my trainer said "now you're sitting down good!" so I was aiming for that same feeling.

And that's when the first time occurred. But the second and third and fourth etc. times I wasn't sitting down. The second time, about a month later I was trail riding and in more of a slightly half seat position. Since then I've tried to just ignore it but I'm sure I end up perching because if I perch enough out of the saddle I can get it to not happen.

I'm trying to keep a positive outlook, that this will be fixable and is not permanent. I've had pain in that area when I was breaking my saddle in a few years ago. It used to rub my underwear-thigh elastics if that makes sense. But that's very easy for me to ignore. Pain is much easier to deal with, especially very mild pain like that. But this feels much harder for me to ignore. I usually just ask my horse to halt when it happens and hope I'm riding alone, which I usually do.

But I agree with those who have mentioned the mind-set. I do dread it. I start worrying it's going to happen. I get in the saddle and that's just what I think about. So I think I will try some visualization to help me not focus so much on it.

[twobays]

hopeless,

You have a lot of good advice here. I'd start by wearing a pantyliner or getting a sheepskin seat saver. After that I'd try looking at how your saddle fits you.

PLEASE don't be embarrassed! Its a health issue and you shouldn't be ashamed to ask for help/advice/whatever. You asking this question should be far less embaressing than people who post questions like "I'm 25 and teach a few lessons a week, but I still ride as an ammy...that's ok, right?"

[sdlbredfan]

Simkie had a really good suggestion! ("Hopeless, perhaps your saddle is too small and you need more room in front of your crotch or ever a more shallow seat? If you're riding the rise, I can see how that could trigger those nerves. Perhaps a trip to your local tack store is in order"). I wonder too if Hopeless needs to wear larger size clothing, to make sure a seam is not rubbing? I can imagine a wedgie while riding could be a factor?
I wonder if anyone else in my age group (50+) remembers the good old days when riding apparel, breeches and jods, had a diamond shape flannel insert protecting the rider's crotch from the seams? I really miss that design feature. Nowadays, in current riding pants available, I am always annoyed by seams in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Hopeless, since you mentioned sitting more on your seat bones was a factor at least once, maybe that could have been from clothing being pulled tight?

[Candle]

Could you try padded underwear and a gel seat saver? The friction of your pants rubbing back and forth could also be doing something too, maybe wear stretchier pants so they don't rub as much? I can't believe I'm posting this alter-less either, but maybe "take care of business" on your own before you go ride and see if that helps? In general, if my friend came up to me and told me she had this problem, I'd probably laugh a little bit (and so would she) but I'd never do anything to make her feel embarrassed, and I'd be supportive. I don't think this is such an outrageous topic these days, so I wouldn't feel so bad if I were you. Frustrating, yes. All-consuming embarrassing? Not so much. Good luck finding a solution!

[AnotherRound]

Jeesus louise-us. Here it is in a nutshell. Either you have a big clit or you are riding in a way I can't even if I try to. What, do you have your pelvis tilted back or something?? You have to be riding on your pubic bone for that to happen. You need some lessons on centered riding. The fact of the matter is, you haven't been getting any. Its not a slam, if you haven't had an orgasm for some time your body will eventually, either in your dreams or on your horse if you hump it right. Try riding a motorcycle, that ought to thrill you! I mean really, you can't figure this out for yourself, you have to post it on the internet???

[goeslikestink]

Jeesus louise-us. Here it is in a nutshell. Either you have a big clit or you are riding in a way I can't even if I try to. What, do you have your pelvis tilted back or something?? You have to be riding on your pubic bone for that to happen. You need some lessons on centered riding. The fact of the matter is, you haven't been getting any. Its not a slam, if you haven't had an orgasm for some time your body will eventually, either in your dreams or on your horse if you hump it right. Try riding a motorcycle, that ought to thrill you! I mean really, you can't figure this out for yourself, you have to post it on the internet???

haha you know ths what gives girls a bad name for riding horses
i cant beleive it in all my life and all the girls i have taught and know to ride none have this problem and i dare say this isnt a girl posting but a bloke getting his rocks of by the replys numpty numpties

[kookicat]

Jeesus louise-us. Here it is in a nutshell. Either you have a big clit or you are riding in a way I can't even if I try to. What, do you have your pelvis tilted back or something?? You have to be riding on your pubic bone for that to happen. You need some lessons on centered riding. The fact of the matter is, you haven't been getting any. Its not a slam, if you haven't had an orgasm for some time your body will eventually, either in your dreams or on your horse if you hump it right. Try riding a motorcycle, that ought to thrill you! I mean really, you can't figure this out for yourself, you have to post it on the internet???

Wow, was that really needed? :o

[Bluey]

We sure didn't talk about those topics, so no one would have said anything years ago if it did.:eek:
Riding is busy work, too busy for sidetracks like that one.:yes:
I second the advice to start a few young horses, that ought to keep you too busy for extraneous sensations.
Seriously, I can see how that will become disturbing and you had some good advice to try to remedy that.:cool:

Guess that men also can have that problem, proof a picture that was on the front page of a horse magazine, of an exhibitor with such a problem.
I don't think that such was welcome either at that particular time.

[dalpal]

Jeesus louise-us. Here it is in a nutshell. Either you have a big clit or you are riding in a way I can't even if I try to. What, do you have your pelvis tilted back or something?? You have to be riding on your pubic bone for that to happen. You need some lessons on centered riding. The fact of the matter is, you haven't been getting any. Its not a slam, if you haven't had an orgasm for some time your body will eventually, either in your dreams or on your horse if you hump it right. Try riding a motorcycle, that ought to thrill you! I mean really, you can't figure this out for yourself, you have to post it on the internet???

I just love reading some of the warm/fuzzy/encouraging/helpful posts that some of our COTHERS have to offer. :no: Good gried, someone posted about a problem annoymously on an internet message board..if you don't like the topic, stop reading and move on. Perhaps some of our other posters could benefit from the Big O, might lighten their mood/ ;)

[sickofcollege]

Perhaps some of our other posters could benefit from the Big O, might lighten their mood/ ;)

HAHAHAHAHAHA :lol:

To the OP...

I have to agree with other posters regarding the saddle fit. Does this happen only when you ride in a particular saddle? Could you possibly try riding in another one to see if the problem reoccurs? What about bareback?

Honestly, if this problem continues to happen despite how you sit while riding, I would consider talking to a doctor about it.

[equinelaw]

They say the best time to go grocery shopping is after you have eaten a large meal. The worst time is when you are hungry. So, to avoid unwanted grocery purchases, take care of your hunger before you enter the store.

Extrapolate:D

[goeslikestink]

They say the best time to go grocery shopping is after you have eaten a large meal. The worst time is when you are hungry. So, to avoid unwanted grocery purchases, take care of your hunger before you enter the store.

Extrapolate:D

excellent

[dalpal]

They say the best time to go grocery shopping is after you have eaten a large meal. The worst time is when you are hungry. So, to avoid unwanted grocery purchases, take care of your hunger before you enter the store.

Extrapolate:D


Snort....reminds me the scene in "Something About Mary"....:lol:

[hopeless]

Thanks again for everyone's input both positive and negative.

[ellemayo]

Wow... this thread was much needed about 7 years ago.

I was 14 or 15 at the time, in a lesson, and I had NO IDEA what was happening. I could tell that something was going on, and I just had to stop trotting, or something big was going to happen. I was so terrified, but waaay too embarrassed to talk about it. As a matter of fact, this is the first time I've told anybody.

It actually has happened to me a few times since, though not regularly, and I can definitely say that it is not a fun problem to have. Unfortunately I don't really have any good advice for you, because I never found out what caused it to happen. Usually if it happens once during a ride, it's going to happen again and again, so I would tend to give up practicing whatever was causing it and move on to something less "stimulating" lol

I have a lot of sympathy for you. I'm not sure what I would do if it was a regular thing.

[Huntertwo]

I didn't go through all the replies, but could you wear a maxi pad or something to cushion yourself?

[dalpal]

This thread reminds me of a riding lesson about 15 years ago (man, time flys).

We were in a group lesson (all female/adults/friends) and the instructor (also female) was working on everyone's canter position.

She had one girl go out onto the rail, while the rest of us waited....after 5 minutes of working with her....she yelled.."Elizabeth, how does that feel?" And Elizabeth yelled back.."Who needs a man?" :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

[Valeureux]

This thread reminds me of a riding lesson about 15 years ago (man, time flys).

We were in a group lesson (all female/adults/friends) and the instructor (also female) was working on everyone's canter position.

She had one girl go out onto the rail, while the rest of us waited....after 5 minutes of working with her....she yelled.."Elizabeth, how does that feel?" And Elizabeth yelled back.."Who needs a man?" :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

Hehe :lol:

[amdfarm]

This thread reminds me of a riding lesson about 15 years ago (man, time flys).

We were in a group lesson (all female/adults/friends) and the instructor (also female) was working on everyone's canter position.

She had one girl go out onto the rail, while the rest of us waited....after 5 minutes of working with her....she yelled.."Elizabeth, how does that feel?" And Elizabeth yelled back.."Who needs a man?" :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

OMG, that was GREAT!! :lol::lol:

[nightsong]

It has to do with your seat. You sit too much up front, and not enough on your seatbones, you need to sit deeper in the saddle. Plus you need to open your hips more. This tend to happen when the hips are too closed as well. (ie closed and forward angled hips)

Sitting deeper and taller with open hips helps. And when I was in my 20s this was a frequent topic amongst many of us. You are not alone, not even by far.

Americans tend to stick our butts out. Bad. much better to keep your spine straight. Exercise instructors insist on it.

[DairyQueen2049]

They say the best time to go grocery shopping is after you have eaten a large meal. The worst time is when you are hungry. So, to avoid unwanted grocery purchases, take care of your hunger before you enter the store.

Extrapolate:D

And the photo of Steffan Peters......anyone?? :lol::winkgrin:

[InWhyCee Redux]

When I went off my antidepressant, I went from needing a jackhammer to needing just a sideways glance.


Proffie, I could have not said it better myself.:lol:

[InWhyCee Redux]

And the photo of Steffan Peters......anyone?? :lol::winkgrin:

DairyQueen, are you trying to get me fired? Alas, all Google Image searches are coming up empty.... :no:

OP, without going into too many details, check that you are not sitting too far forward and arching your back, thus pushing your pubic bone forward and down into a potentially stimulating position. Seriously.

[pony grandma]

I'm laughing so hard I'm exhausted.

It reminds me of a friend who told me that when she took lessons from a Euro guy that he kept telling her that sitting the canter was like sex, you're on top.

You guys crack me up! :lol:

a note to the OP about saddle fit and the pommel, try a guy's saddle for a flatter seat. Men prefer different saddle fits for their own 'reasons.'

[Rhyadawn]

there was a time when I would have blushed at even the thought of this topic. Now, not so much.

While I personally have never experienced the full torture of this experience while riding I can definitly see where it would be a problem. You've gotten some good advice and things to try.

I think that its the effects of coming off your ADs. When I came off them I thought I was going to kill my bf. Forget hours, think minutes to seconds. I'm glad I wasn't riding at the time because this probably would have been an issue and having a male instructor.... uncomfortable.

We are here to support you. Don't be ashamed

[Sannois]

I have no advise, But all I can say is I must be a REALLy bad rider.
Been riding for 40 some years and not even close.
Best of luck.. I bet it would be hard to have that happen and keep your attention on the ride. :no:

[LarkspurCO]

Uh....tell me again why this is a bad thing? :confused:

:eek::winkgrin:

[Aubreyyy]

DairyQueen, are you trying to get me fired? Alas, all Google Image searches are coming up empty.... :no:



What did you search? I tried "Steffan Peters bulge" to no avail :lol::lol:

I tried some other terms too.... how exactly do you search for that?

[jetsmom]

What did you search? I tried "Steffan Peters bulge" to no avail :lol::lol:

I tried some other terms too.... how exactly do you search for that?

Steffan Peters- Here ya go-

http://www.chronicleforums.com/Forum/showthread.php?t=67099&highlight=steffan+peters

[Kaluna]

Yes, this has happened to me! And I have a good seat. It had to do with the way a particular Niedersuss saddle fit me. Hasn't happened in any other saddle. Although distracting and I ended up trading saddles, I had some supremely relaxing rides ;)

[pony grandma]

Ok, I've got absolutely no business even reading this thread let alone posting in it, but I gotta' say, that was freakin' funny! :lol:


OMG! I didn't catch the poster name on my first time reading thru this thread! :lol:

and p.s. are you ladies making up your own freestyle rides?

[DairyQueen2049]

Steffan Peters- Here ya go-

http://www.chronicleforums.com/Forum/showthread.php?t=67099&highlight=steffan+peters


Thanks jetsmom - just read through those posts - the orginal pic was captured by someone and is on there - the links will take you to current covers of the mag and you will be further confused.:eek::yes:

[Hrselvr1982]

http://www.chronicleforums.com/Forum/showthread.php?t=67099&highlight=steffan+peters&page=7

Page 7 of the thread has a picture posted, as DQ said-the magazine cover has changed.

[Moderator 1]

The OP has gotten a lot of feedback and support, but let's not get too far off the rails here... ;)

Thanks,
Mod 1

[XenophonKnows]

OP - I am a big proponent of Mary Wanless, so will take this opportunity to suggest to everyone that most of your weight ought to be born by your THIGHS. Not your seat bone, or God Forbid, pubic bone. I doubt your horse would enjoy having ALL your weight digging into his back through your seat bones. Your BACKSIDE in NO WAY ought to be holding all your weight.

Your quadriceps muscles should be engaged ("Pop
your 'knicker tendons' up", Mary would say.) If anyone needs extra padding on their crotch, perineum, seat bones, etc. then they are attempting to carry their weight in a place they ought not. I might guess the OP is getting too much pressure in the crotch area because she is struggling with how and where to support her own weight.

Read Ride With Your Mind - Rider Essentials.

Good Luck, and thanks for bringing it up !!

[tothepointe]

Let me start off with stating that I am not a troll and this is not a joke. I am not looking to stir up trouble or anything. Yes, this is an alter but this is a very embarrassing question for me and I don't want anyone who might know me IRL to know about it.

First I'm would like to know if anyone has had or has heard of someone having "the big O" while riding?

Second, let me tell you why I ask. I am in my mid 20's and I am not, nor have ever been, sexually active. A couple of months ago, out of the total blue, during the canter this happened to me. I don't know what I did differently and why it happened then.

I thought it was pure chance and it wouldn't happen again. But then about a month later it happened again (again at the canter). And after that it started happening more frequently. It's progressed to now every ride.

I know some may say this is a positive thing, I should be thankful, many people would kill for this. But it is not. I'm miserable and at my wits' end. I don't know what to do. I feel like I can't ride anymore. If I perch in the saddle it's ok. But I ride dressage so it's kind of imperative that I be able to sit down in the saddle.

I've been to a gynecologist who told many people would love to have this problem. (sigh) She did prescribe some lydacaine(sp?) which didn't work. I tested it on the back of my hand, too and it didn't numb my hand either so I think maybe it's too weak?

So I'm really not sure what I should do. I'm hoping that someone knows something, has had this happen, knows someone it's happened to, has some ideas etc. Riding is my life. I've been riding for 20 years and right now I feel like I'm going to have to quit unless this can be fixed. Or I could just walk-trot forever.

I think it's programmed into my body now. I hypothesize that after the second time it happened, my body said "oh this is where I'm supposed to experience this" and now that's what it's doing. I'm considering hypnotism but I'm embarrassed to tell someone about it. It was bad enough to tell the doctor.

I tried a different saddle just in case-no difference. I ride in schooling tights, very soft and stretchy. I've had them for over a year. The only thing I can think is that 6 months ago I came off an anti-depressant. And so maybe that's the issue. But the only hole in that theory is this didn't happen before I was on the anti-depressant.

I'm back on a different anti-depressant now just in case.

Thanks for your help and I'd appreciate it if you took me seriously because I know that the subject sounds like some young kid bored on the internet or something. I wish that was the case actually. :(

What antidepressant are you now on. Many antidepressants will reduce your sexual drive but some like wellbutrin and I think effexor have a positive effect. Maybe ask your prescriber about this if it causing you distress. It may a result of the neurotransmitters being more active