View Full Version : Rough day.. One went over the bridge far too soon.

Mar. 11, 2008, 10:54 PM
Hi guys,

I don't really have a whole lot to say.

The horse I had ridden in the two clinics with Jimmy died today in a freak barn accident. No one was at fault. Just bad luck.

He went quickly and I wish I could say I held strong, but I didn't. I was very emotional for a horse I have barely known since January.

Please just hug your horses. He was only 5.

Lad is fine. This wasn't him. He didn't understand why I was trying to hug him so tight, so he bit me ;) Damn horse.


Mar. 11, 2008, 10:57 PM

Mar. 11, 2008, 11:05 PM

Mar. 11, 2008, 11:05 PM
I loved watching your videos of the clinic. He looked like such a nice, talented, fun-loving boy. I'm so very sorry for your loss--I can easily see how you became so attached so soon.

Mar. 11, 2008, 11:06 PM

REALLY sorry to hear this....:no:

Mar. 11, 2008, 11:09 PM
I am sorry, I think most of us have been there in one way or another. It HURTS! Especially when you lose them suddenly.

I watched my gelding slip and shatter his leg after 7 years together :cry:

Hugs to you.. times does heal, and it sounds like you have other horses to love on... that helps too..

Mar. 11, 2008, 11:18 PM
No words.


Mar. 11, 2008, 11:22 PM
All my love.


Mar. 11, 2008, 11:54 PM
My friend just lost her horse of a lifetime. I had never seen a horse die. You are not alone *hugs*

I am so sorry.

He's in a better place now, doing Jimmy's grids anytime he pleases.:sadsmile:

Mar. 12, 2008, 12:20 AM
So sorry. No words can really help, but know that I feel for you. And how wonderful to have felt such a love in such a short time. Hang in there.


Jazzy Lady
Mar. 12, 2008, 12:34 AM
Major hugs to you during this time. :(

Mar. 12, 2008, 01:16 AM
Bless him! BIG HUGS! Nothing is harder to get over!

Mar. 12, 2008, 01:28 AM
I am so very sorry..:cry: We are here for you.

Mar. 12, 2008, 01:46 AM
So sorry to hear this. You guys looked like you enjoyed each other. Sending hugs your way and will hug mine extra hard tomorrow.

Mar. 12, 2008, 05:50 AM
so sorry, sending hugs from NY

Mar. 12, 2008, 06:19 AM
Oh, Em......... :( :(

Mar. 12, 2008, 06:35 AM
What Reed said.

We've been there too. It's been 8 months. My son still cries.

Mar. 12, 2008, 06:36 AM
Sorry to hear that Em.... what a piece of bad luck.... hold onto the good memories and try not to think of the bad as hard as that is...

Mar. 12, 2008, 06:55 AM
I'm so sorry Emily

Mar. 12, 2008, 07:07 AM

Mar. 12, 2008, 07:28 AM
So sorry.

Mar. 12, 2008, 07:28 AM
I'm so sorry Em....:cry::cry:

Mar. 12, 2008, 07:38 AM
I just had to help put down a 6yo mare a few weeks ago that had barely begun her new life. I feel your pain.

Mar. 12, 2008, 07:42 AM
I am so sorry. No words for these losses.

Mar. 12, 2008, 07:56 AM
So sorry Emily. He looked like a pretty cool guy!

Mar. 12, 2008, 07:59 AM
I'm so sorry!

Mar. 12, 2008, 08:00 AM
I so very sorry

Mar. 12, 2008, 08:11 AM
I'm so sorry. He looked wonderful in the videos; what an absolute shame to lose him.

Mar. 12, 2008, 08:15 AM
*Big Hugs*

Holly Jeanne
Mar. 12, 2008, 08:32 AM
I'm so very sorry! It's always hard to loose one but especially well before old age. My sympathies! :cry:

Mar. 12, 2008, 09:32 AM
damn emily that is horrible. Call me tonight - (un)Happy Hour on the phone sometimes helps..


Mar. 12, 2008, 09:47 AM
Girl...come see us the weekend. I know it will be hard but Hang tough.

Mar. 12, 2008, 09:51 AM
I'm so sorry. Only being with the horse for a short time doesn't make it any easier. Those freak accidents make all of us feel thankful for those it doesn't happen to.

Mar. 12, 2008, 09:51 AM
Hi guys,

Please just hug your horses.

Lad is fine. This wasn't him. He didn't understand why I was trying to hug him so tight, so he bit me ;) Damn horse.



I am sorry to hear about your horse. I am sitting here with tears in my eyes, but laughing at the same time. I had a horse die last year that was close to me, and I went out to hug my 6 year old. He bit me too! Lad and Mo sound like kindred spirits!

Sorry for your loss.

Mar. 12, 2008, 09:56 AM
Godspeed to one gone too early...and hugs to you. :cry:

Mar. 12, 2008, 10:01 AM
im so sorry em. jingles:no:

Mar. 12, 2008, 10:29 AM
I am so, so sorry.

Mar. 12, 2008, 10:30 AM
Too many of us know how this feels. We're all thinking of you.

Mar. 12, 2008, 10:40 AM
so very sorry.

2016 RoyalCrown KTug
Mar. 12, 2008, 10:40 AM
Jingles. SO terribly sorry... it is never easy.

*HUGS* Gillian

Mar. 12, 2008, 11:10 AM

Mar. 12, 2008, 11:34 AM
Hugs to you at this difficult time.

Mar. 12, 2008, 11:38 AM
Jingles and hugs

Mar. 12, 2008, 11:40 AM
So very, very sorry. At a loss for words. HUGS.

Lori B
Mar. 12, 2008, 11:53 AM
xctrygirl -- when I saw the title I thought -- oh no not Lad! So sorry for your loss. And Lad will get over being hugged.

Mar. 12, 2008, 11:56 AM

Hardly ever over here, but OMG. Many, many HUGS to you from me and all my Virginia peeps.


Mar. 12, 2008, 12:01 PM
Oh, so very sorry. Will be sending healing thoughts to you today.

Mar. 12, 2008, 12:27 PM
Hugs from Lexington. So sorry.

Mar. 12, 2008, 01:23 PM
Hugs from Texas. I'm so very sorry. May he be running freely across the Rainbow Bridge.

Mar. 12, 2008, 01:34 PM
I'm so sorry. What a sad day! What a scary reminder of how fragile we (horses included) all are.

Mar. 12, 2008, 01:47 PM
I am so sorry for your loss, I'm sure he was a wonderful boy. My prayers are with you.

Mar. 12, 2008, 01:47 PM
Sooo, so sorry. Know that our thoughts are with you. And I'm heading out to hug my horses right now!

TB or not TB?
Mar. 12, 2008, 02:09 PM
:no::no::no: I'm sooooo sorry.

Mar. 12, 2008, 02:13 PM
Im so sorry. **Jingles**

Mar. 12, 2008, 02:13 PM
Oh, Emily....I am so very sorry :cry:

Mar. 12, 2008, 02:26 PM
Oh Emily, so sorry for your loss! It is so hard and there are really no words to express it.

Mar. 12, 2008, 03:00 PM
more big hugs!! So sorry for your loss. Remember all the good times you had with him, but it doesn't make it any easier.


Mar. 12, 2008, 03:39 PM
I know what your going through and that its no fun. I had to put down my old pony 3 weeks ago and I think that is the worst thing I have ever had to do. Keep your head up and remember that your horse looked after you while he was on earth and now he is looking down at you every day keeping a watchful eye. Horses never really leave us because everything they have taught us and all the good times/memories are with us forever.

Best wishes,
Nate and Rolly

Mar. 12, 2008, 04:03 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. He looked like a tremendous horse, and he was so lucky to have spent his time with you.

Mar. 12, 2008, 04:03 PM
Oh Emily.

I'm so very, very sorry. Godspeed to him who went too soon, peace to you and comfort in knowing it was over quickly for him.

I know you said it was no one's fault, but please do not torture yourself with any "what ifs". Sometimes, what happens isn't about us. It's about the horses, and we can't know why it happened as it did.

Please take care of yourself while you are hurting, and keep hugging Lad. He'll get used to it eventually.

Mar. 12, 2008, 05:57 PM
Oh ack Emily, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Sending you hugs.

Mar. 12, 2008, 06:02 PM
So very sorry. My horse settled for head butting me when I hugged him. :sadsmile:

Mar. 12, 2008, 06:08 PM
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I, too, had enjoyed watching your videos of your clinic with Jimmy. :sadsmile::sadsmile::sadsmile::sadsmile:

Mar. 12, 2008, 06:10 PM
so sorry:(

Mar. 12, 2008, 07:13 PM
As usual the COTH community continually surprises me with the support levels available here just from an occasion of life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

A couple things to mention, since I think there may be some misunderstanding and I want to clear any confusion.

The horse was a homebred bred by my employers. I have been riding him since January. That being said there are many others that have swung a leg over his back and by far my employer deserves great amounts of credit for making him as nice as he is... was. :( I was just lucky enough to ride him now when his brain was getting past the juvenille playfulness and into "Ok give me a job" mode.

Jimmy adored him in the first clinic and was telling me that I should "Steal him" from my employers. I explained (humbly) that this may not be the best career move!! :lol:

I relayed what Jim said to the Mr. Boss and he laughed and said he was confident that Mrs. Boss would let me compete him etc. I was looking forward to it.

Even when he allowed me to "Fly like a Dodo" I laughed since it was a joyous buck that sent me flying.

My bosses had the highest hopes that he would be their Maryland Hunt Cup runner. And with the average age of a hunt cup starter being around 9-12 yrs old, this was a great way to start. He had hunted with Cheshire (not with me) and he was a 'freak' of a jumper. All ability and an amazingly cadenced stride.

The people suffering the most are handling this loss with grace and a exterior calm that comes with having been lifelong horsemen who have seen "Sh*t happens" many times too many.

I feel most for them and was impressed with how we all got through today. It had it's hard moments. I cleaned his stall, and looked at the piece of duct tape on the door with his name on it. I haven't yet had the ability to make my hand swipe that tape off the door.
But then I think its not my job. His breeders should be allowed to mourn at their own pace and I won't rush them.

And later we went out to the gallops and went up the long hill. The horse I was on today is a nice horse but his stride doesn't come close to the green bean's. And I galloped here a week ago and I recall thinking then how amazing the stride was and how easy it would be to make time at events... Ah well.

Thanks again for all your kind words.

I have explained to the owners and they appreciate all the thoughts.


PS: Lad will never get used to big hugs. And nipping is his favorite pasttime. :lol: Don't want to change that, he uses it when I need that attitude on course.

Mar. 12, 2008, 08:40 PM
I'm so sorry for your (and the owners') loss. I don't really know you and I haven't seen these videos but I can tell you really loved him. I wish I could go hug my horse but alas, I board him. *sigh*
*Hugs* Feel better soon, k?`

Lori T
Mar. 12, 2008, 08:43 PM
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Jingles.

Mar. 12, 2008, 09:03 PM
It is so hard sometimes to try to separate love for the dance from love for the dance partners.

We all love a sport where the partners just do not have the same life span.

One...is always too short.

But that's about right, because they are the pure ones, who stand for generosity, courage, athleticisim.

While we complicate everything, shade everything...and have to hang around longer until we learn to be pure like our partners.

So sorry for this loss.

Mar. 12, 2008, 09:13 PM
The Video of the clinic is here:



Mar. 12, 2008, 09:31 PM
Oh gosh, I am so sorry! It must be soooo hard for you, and the owners... :cry: At least you know it was quick though...

Mar. 12, 2008, 09:38 PM
Oh no! I just saw this, and I'm so sorry! He was beautiful.

Loss is never easy. I feel strongly though that things always happen for a reason, even if it doesn't make any sense at the time.

Mar. 12, 2008, 09:45 PM
I am so sorry for your and the owners' loss. He was a beautiful horse.

Miss Perfect
Mar. 12, 2008, 09:48 PM
What a great video - you and his owners have my condolences. Such a sad loss. :no:

Mar. 12, 2008, 10:01 PM
:( Hugs to you. So sorry for your loss.

Mar. 12, 2008, 10:27 PM
So sorry for the loss of such a lovely horse.

Mar. 12, 2008, 10:32 PM
I had admired him when you posted the clinic videos... how sad that he is now gone. I'm so sorry.

Mar. 12, 2008, 10:33 PM
So sorry about your loss, he was a beautiful horse.

Mar. 12, 2008, 10:36 PM
I'm so sorry. :(

Mar. 12, 2008, 11:05 PM
Oh gosh, Em, I'm so so sorry. These tragedies are so rotten. What a huge loss for all of you. We're all out here in cyberland thinking of you and sending strength.............

Mar. 12, 2008, 11:22 PM
So sorry. I dunno what else to say. *hugs*

Mar. 12, 2008, 11:38 PM
Hey girl...you and I've talked a good bit, so you know what I have to say...still wish I could hug you, though. Not a good day, at all.

But, at least Lad always has a sense of humor, and is willing to share it! :sadsmile:

Mar. 12, 2008, 11:56 PM
I am so very sorry. :(

Mar. 13, 2008, 12:58 PM
I am so very sorry :(- he looked just lovely

Mar. 14, 2008, 07:10 AM

So sorry to hear that, am enjoying reading along with your daily exploits. The clinic thread was a great read and so sorry to hear things turning out this way. Glad to hear Lad is still himself though.

Mar. 14, 2008, 07:28 AM
May all those special and happy memories soften the hurt you feel now and give you some comfort and a smile in your heart in the future.

Mar. 15, 2008, 03:38 PM
I'm so, so sorry. :( The best ones always go too soon. {huge hugs}

Mar. 15, 2008, 03:54 PM
Oh I'm so sorry :(

Big hugs from me and my gang up here in New Hampshire.. it's so hard to lose one so suddenly.

Mar. 15, 2008, 04:57 PM
So sorry. I really enjoyed watching the clinic video.